Things are hard

outdoorsman921 · 2021-07-28T17:59:54+00:00

As someone once told me “it freaking sucks man”

CoachBob19 · 2021-07-28T18:24:01+00:00

It gets better man, hang in there. Focus on being positive and doing what you can to stay active and the endorphins flowing to combat depression.

mojothebarbarian · 2021-07-29T01:59:52+00:00

Exercise and journaling…it really helps. Hard exercise too, make yourself sweat. I feel you, I know what you’re going through and it sucks…but that’s ok…we’re allowed to feel pain and sadness.

Funny_Wolverine_9 · 2021-07-29T01:58:03+00:00

Most men are oblivious to the statistics: 50% divorce rate, 80% of all divorce initiated by women, 90% of custody given to Mothers.

Imagine signing a contract with those statistics up-front? At the minimum, it would make you think twice!

oli_21_ · 2021-07-29T04:04:32+00:00

Been final myself since mid April.

Hang on friend better days are ahead.

I can honestly tell you that after 20 months of battle.....texts\emails\calls coming at me like bullets....it does get better.

Every day I can honestly say I get better and better.

CommanderOfCheese45 · 2021-07-29T14:56:08+00:00

I've got burnout from it. It's not work burnout. Work is great. It's emotional burnout from ~12 years of emotional abuse, the last 2 years of which were excruciating (the previous 10 years it was going on but I just thought I was the problem -- i.e. the abuse was working as it was intended to). And that burnout spills into everything else.

Express-Necessary793 · 2021-07-28T23:22:58+00:00

Yes they are. The compliant for divorce I received was vile. I just retained an attorney for $5000. They said hers was a $20,000 retainer. I feel scared. I want my son and they say it could be months till I see him . We just didn’t get along. Why is she making me out to be terrible. I hope the new fathers rights in my state helps but they are fucking loaded.

pegleg_legal · 2021-07-29T08:34:47+00:00

We're not happy to be here but we are happy we are here.

SpiritualEnema · 2021-07-28T20:43:51+00:00

Of all the bad decisions one can make, marrying the absolute wrong person has to be near the top. This is coming from somebody who did just that. Two months in and it’s going to be a battle. Amazing how much venom one person “who used to love you”can spit at you. Sometimes I just want to crawl in a hole and die. I might if it wasn’t for my kids.

Alarmed-Local5573 · 2021-07-30T07:45:41+00:00

I feel you man… i made the decision and it’s really hard, sometimes the thought of telling her to come back is intense and depresses me. Just letting you know you’re not alone.

Title	Things are hard
Author	FoxWitz
Upvotes	21
Comments	31
Date	July 28, 2021 5:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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