Told my wife..

upvotersfortruth · 2026-06-08T05:35:06+00:00

Get ready for the restraining order unless you filed something already ... but maybe even then

magically you'll go from needy to abusive ....

Intrepid_Counter7324 · 2026-06-08T03:47:15+00:00

I spent years feeling alone.

You see, it's not the loneliness that's the actual issue. It's them not demonstrating worry and checking on on you once they've been told. That's the answer right there.

Start getting ripped bro. Start preparing yourself emotionally. Start therapy, you can say it's to address your feelings of loneliness.

If she continues to demonstrate that she doesn't want connection, you'll be ready to step away with confidence.

You got this bro, don't rush anything. Therapy and the pursuit of a challenging physical goal are important. Then make decisions from an informed position, with a professional. Speak with her if the time comes, don't go scorched earth. Listen to her but think and react clearly and calmly.

Maybe couples therapy at that stage, maybe just leave, maybe things got better once she sees the man you're becoming.

Regardless the moment for affirmative action is today.

Also, another poster basically told you to play mind games with her. Don't do that. Have more respect for your character.

akihonj · 2026-06-07T21:59:53+00:00

Cool she just showed you who she is and how she truly sees you.

Accept that and start to distance yourself. It will take more than a few days but no more touches when you pass her, no more coffee left ready for her etc.

When she asks why you just tell her how needy she is.

While you're doing that you begin to build a life outside of her, begin to reduce your availability for her and her access to you.

Come home straight after work. Not any more, 4 days a week you're in the gym after work. Eat together, not so much now, you eat at the gym or elsewhere. Saturday spent together, not anymore you have errands to run without her. You have a work thing on a week night you're going now instetof not. She's asking about who you're talking to your answer is work colleague, left intentionally vague neither male nor female and no name dropping in conversation. You're not cheating but you're not keeping yourself for her anymore.

Time_Designer1971 · 2026-06-07T21:31:19+00:00

Nature is brutal.

TimeCycle3000 · 2026-06-07T19:54:21+00:00

When I told mine, she said “that’s ridiculous!”

She wants to stay together. She doesn’t understand I have lost all love for her.

Several-Eagle4141 · 2026-06-07T18:01:19+00:00

We are co dependent, of course

EitherBedroom2341 · 2026-06-07T16:48:45+00:00

Of course you are. There’s a ton of rhings you can do to make yourself more attractive to her or any other woman. I doubt you are working out and muscular. Start there and come back here in 90 days. Look in the mirror and.. Put yourself in her shoes.

Ok-Anything-3605 · 2026-06-07T16:30:50+00:00

Happened to me…I got no physical attention and was then labeled as a sex addict because I like touch and affection. Then magically I was emotionally unsafe for her. I hope the resentment hasn’t built up too much yet, because that’s the dagger in the heart. Good luck, it’s sucked for me and our kids

kykoo · 2026-06-07T15:36:19+00:00

Well now you know she doesn’t care for you. When she will be ready to leave you (enough money saved, got an affair partner, etc) she will tell you this relationship has not worked for years and that you were emotionally distant (ie: protecting yourself due to rejections). When you want to get rid of the dog, you say he has rabies…

Helpful-Paramedic463 · 2026-06-07T15:14:39+00:00

That's all the info you need. She wants your paycheck and benefits.

Title	Told my wife..
Author	Judas_Maccabee
Upvotes	19
Comments	15
Date	June 7, 2026 2:11 PM UTC (2 months ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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