What to do…..

Reflog1791 · 2023-05-26T02:59:05+00:00

Tell this gutter rat to stop talking about her disgusting sex life at work.

“I do not want to hear about your sex life at work again.”

Extremely reasonable request. Say it in front of others to CYA. This would absolutely not be tolerated at my workplace.

Classic_Dill · 2023-05-25T13:16:53+00:00

He just have to do it anonymously, I got cheated on as well, and I wish somebody would’ve told me, I advise anybody who knows somebody is cheating to out them for their partner, because the sooner they find out the sooner that they can move on, and hopefully forgo most of the trauma.

FUMoney · 2023-05-25T11:21:16+00:00

Stay out of it. You don't know all the facts. You don't know what she's actually doing. All you have is some Real Housewives mouthing off bullshit. What if she's just shitbragging to the work gossips? And what if she denies it all? What proof you got?

I say again, stay far, far away from it. Not your wife, not your relationship, not your problem. Do NOT make it your problem. Just don't.

Finally, just imagine how this goes down. This IS how it will play out:

You tell him. Next, a barrage of questions. "What did she say?" "When"? "How did you hear it"? "Where, where did you hear it"? "How else do you know?" "Did you see her with anyone?" "How exactly do you know?" "Is it only what she said, or did you see anything do down?" "What does your girlfriend know"? "Why didn't your girlfriend tell me"? "Why are you two holding out on me?" "Who else knows"? "Everyone knows? How?" "Wait, when exactly did you first hear this"? "Why the fuck didn't you tell me earlier"? "She's boning people at work? Who? Who is she sleeping with around here? TELL ME."

Now you are on the goddamn spot. Now YOU are the Real Housewife, having to yammer on and on and on about what you heard, what you think you heard, what you think you know -- and yet you may have zero actual proof of any of it, other than her shooting her mouth off. And even if you do have proof, how strong is it, and frankly, you want to be airing all this crap?

Who else you gonna burn when you tattle on not only the wife, but also the coworkers? And is any of it true? Do you know? Do you really know, with firsthand knowledge -- or is what you know only what her big mouth is spewing?

And what if he doesn't believe you? Or, worse, what if he pulls his wife over, and says to both of you, "dude, tell my wife exactly what you just told me. I want her to hear it. And then she and I are going to have a long discussion."

What if she's lying? What if she denies it? Now you're in a he-said she-said no-win situation, and you're the one who lit the fuse of this disaster.

You want this shit? You want this interrogation? You want to be the center of all this f-ing drama at work? You want to be brought into the middle of this mess?

STAY OUT OF IT.

AquaHope_ · 2023-05-25T10:36:10+00:00

Mail the guy an anonymous letter. She legally can't open it and then no one will know who sent it.

BurnDownTheMission68 · 2023-05-25T01:52:36+00:00

Not your problem.

Don’t meddle.

Party-Painter-8773 · 2023-05-24T23:56:22+00:00

Type up a note and put it on his windshield while he is working. Leave and done. Let him know that she is cheating with multiple people. Let him do the work.

Livid-Road8218 · 2023-05-24T23:31:17+00:00

Mind your own damm business. Nobody knows how to do that anymore

Motor-Connection5608 · 2023-05-24T22:50:58+00:00

You gotta let him know - anonymously, however - this poor guy is getting shat on hard - and exposed to STI's - not good

captainchippsixx · 2023-05-24T22:07:06+00:00

Leave a note.

Diablo_Canyon2 · 2023-05-24T21:57:20+00:00

Try to find a way to inform him anonymously that his wife's a skank.

wisstinks4 · 2023-05-24T21:16:33+00:00

There are multiple ways to deal with this conundrum without getting backdraft. Anonymously, You could put something in a mailbox that says “hey your wife is polishing the knob of these five guys. I recommend you go talk to them”. You could slip something in a car late at night. I would try multiple approaches. He needs to do some homework and check on his WW.

I agree with your comment about letting the guy know. If you were the person getting white washed by a cheater, blindsided and somebody could’ve told you, you’ll feel much better.

For example, on Sunday I was on the ninth hole green, I noticed I was missing my 3 wood cover. I realized I lost it, finished the hole. as I walked back down the fairway, I asked the group of four golfers coming up the fairway if they saw it. they said yeah back by the bunker. I said, why didn’t you pick it up? he said it’s not mine. I was pissed, I thought, holy smokes! OK we have golf etiquette, don’t be a bunch of assholes. Pick it up and help somebody. Tell people when there is cheating and betrayal. Right is right and wrong is wrong. Do the right thing.

wakablahh · 2023-05-24T20:58:56+00:00

I’d tell him If you feel morally it’s the right thing. Stand on what you believe, imo, and deal with the consequences secondly.

Your GF also needs to know you don’t stand for that, otherwise, what message are you sending her too?

Title	What to do…..
Author	I8erbeaver2
Upvotes	18
Comments	16
Date	May 24, 2023 7:30 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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