Anyone here go from red pill to attachment theory?

Natural_Pangolin_975 · 2024-10-25T04:22:34+00:00

Yes. I think the women commonly described in red pill literature are anxiously attached and the (avoidant) tactics are designed to make them feel more anxious. Not a nice basis for a relationship or way to treat someone.

Imagine the confusion if the red piller is actually anxious and their partner is avoidant. All kinds of drama will ensue.

Personal_Dirt3089 · 2024-10-26T00:16:09+00:00

Attachment theory is a decades old documented and studied concept: but be careful about doing the reddit habit of treating these things like they are new age magic once they become mainstream knowledge.

Aggravating_Crab3818 · 2024-10-25T03:44:37+00:00

Yeah I have shared this before

https://www.attachmentproject.com/blog/four-attachment-styles/

sturgeo123 · 2024-11-08T18:25:53+00:00

Attachment theory rlly explains my journey thru red pill. 15-18 I was anxiously attached which caused me some internal struggle. After a couple years of watching red pill content I “successfully” became avoidant. Now I’m at a spot where I no longer believe the red pill and I’ve unlearned all that stuff but still am avoidantly attached 😞

Fuzzherp · 2024-10-25T20:21:04+00:00

Terminology and categorization is used to index information, making it easier to find, research and communicate to others.
MTBI and love languages are pseudoscience, attachment theory is not. You can go ahead and not like it, but it doesn’t mean it holds no value. I find it’s best to actually research something before forming a whole opinion on it, especially one I’d be willing to share publicly, but you do you I guess!

eurmahm · 2024-10-25T13:41:39+00:00

Unless you are someone who is knowledgeable in psychology, it's probably not helpful to armchair diagnose people or blame their problems on something that may or may not be involved. There are a lot of ways to help people that don't involve non-professionals claiming to "diagnose" people they have never met with things they don't fully understand. Not to mention, you can easily discuss the unhealthiness of how red pill guys approach relationships without appealing to expertise you don't have - there's plenty wrong there on its own.

I am not saying this to argue, only because I have seen a lot of this lately, and I don't think it is helpful or a good idea.

reddoot2024 · 2024-10-25T16:49:33+00:00

Where did all this attachment shit come from recently? Why is everyone so obsessed with trying to label and category everyone?

First it was myers briggs, then love languages, and now this. I'm not sure I buy into any of it.

Title	Anyone here go from red pill to attachment theory?
Author	sleepypanda24_10
Upvotes	35
Comments	21
Date	October 25, 2024 3:30 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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