Average guy

achyshaky · 2023-07-16T03:31:40+00:00

People who genuinely believe that you need to be some Greek god to get women, I honestly wonder if they've ever met a dad. Doesn't even need to be their own, just anyone's dad.

It is beyond rare any random dad is conventionally attractive, particularly wealthy, supremely funny, tall as a bean stalk or whatever else.

Far more often, personally, I'm lead to wonder how in the fuck anyone would want to date them, and yet there they are with wives and children. That on its own should be proof enough for anyone, and it's easily verifiable by stepping outside basically anywhere for more than a few minutes.

(The snark's not directed at you, to be clear - the redpill lies get me riled up just by how ridiculously hollow they are.)

eefr · 2023-07-16T04:33:27+00:00

If this were true, how do the vast majority of men end up in relationships?

Obviously regular people date each other all the time. If you haven't observed this, get off the internet and actually talk to people.

SufficientDot4099 · 2023-07-16T04:22:15+00:00

Absolutely not true. If you go outside you’ll see plenty of average guys in relationships.

SuperbWaffle · 2023-07-16T03:47:46+00:00

It's a redpill thing (source: I'm a woman)

I've dated men who are attractive to me even if they're not "conventionally attractive." I have had some instances where I've been attracted to men who fit the "conventional attractive" pigeonhole, but they didn't let any of their personality out, and trying to get to know them just made them clam up more / they were emotionally unavailable. That loses interest real quickly, because why not just date a wax statue of their likeness? i.e. that would be more receptive to basic conversation

I find men attractive who are passionate about whatever their interests are, like that small child kind of wonder is not lost, and instead matured into drive and life energy. Seeing that light blaze in someone's eyes--that is extremely attractive 🥰

AssistTemporary8422 · 2023-07-16T05:03:10+00:00

Go shopping sometime and look at the guys in relationships. You will find that the vast majority are average guys. Surveys show that the vast majority of guys have been in relationships.

ManWazo · 2023-07-16T12:01:30+00:00

Just take a walk this afternoon in your city. You'll see plenty of average dude with their girlfriend.

bluemagex2517 · 2023-07-16T13:27:42+00:00

I agree with what the majority of the people are saying, that most men will end up have at least some relationship success. Because, it's just obviously the case. More men are remaining virgins or dateless longer than ever before, but those men are still a tiny percentage of men over the age of 25, and even smaller by 30. It's concerning for those particular guys, but they are a very small minority of men so there is no need to get alarmist.

It would also be mathematically impossible for the majority of women to be in relationships but the majority of men to not be in them. The red pill implies that women are going after the same 20% of dudes in terms of attractiveness, and if they get with anyone from the bottom 80% they'll be unhappy. So, their answer shifts from "average guys will have no dating success" to "average guys will have dating success, but it will be fake" Which, doesn't that seem like a fishy move to you?

The truth is that most women aren't trying to min-max looks for their partner. They want to be with someone they find attractive, but not at the cost of a whole host of other considerations. They want someone who is ambitious, charming, emotionally stable, and has a compatible personality with them, etc. So, when a women gets with an "average" looking guy, it's not because he's unattractive to her and she's settling. It's because he's more of the total package of what she personally wants. Being with a super hot guy who has less of those things would have been settling, but she didn't settle.

And that's just the largest block of women. The reality is that women, just like men, have a very diverse set of desires. Some want a rich boy with washboard abs. Some want a hippy guru. Some want a nerdy engineer. Some want a goth. Some want a fem-boi. Some want an unambitious stoner. etc.

I hope this information helps put things in perspective for you.

United-GC4640 · 2023-07-16T21:18:16+00:00

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Title	Average guy
Author	CharmingEffective86
Upvotes	6
Comments	22
Date	July 16, 2023 3:01 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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