Disengaging from negative thoughts

MVPSnacker · 2024-01-12T00:08:35+00:00

You need to start thinking of women as normal, regular people and not the top 1% of onlyfans earners. I’d also wager that you wouldn’t pay money for an average woman’s onlyfan.

xvszero · 2024-01-12T00:26:21+00:00

There are roughly 4 billion women on the planet. How many do you think have 50 million dollars?

Actually, way more men do come to think of it.

Dhunter001 · 2024-01-12T00:56:08+00:00

To be blunt, you give people way too much power over you and your emotions.

You need to understand that it's the internet. And the internet tends to put a magnifying glass on the most outlandish shit, mostly negative. Most women are not making 56 million from onlyfans. If that kinda content is affecting your emotions like that, you need to stop watching it. Express yourself how you see fit, I try not to judge but man...nobody - ESPECIALLY strangers on the internet, should have that kinda power over you. Period.

My advice, go out and meet people. A simple idea: join a group that women tend to frequent like a yoga or dance class, for example. Both are good for your health, can help with your confidence and possibly charisma, and you will be around women. Frequenting social settings like that gives you more opportunity to observe, interact and build connections with women in real life.

Most people are not as wild as you see on the internet.

hapylittlepupppy · 2024-01-12T05:00:32+00:00

I always agreed about their point of women having easier lives

The leading cause of death of pregnant women is homicide

Gender bias in medicine puts women at risk on multiple levels

Contrary to popular belief, homeless women don't have it easier, they are sitting ducks for sexual assault

Lack of access to period products can increase the risks of poverty

Women and girls die because of some cultural practices around periods being seen as unclean.

Rape is a common tactic of war women are more often the targets

I could go on and on and on with link after link. Comparing lives doesn't help anyone, and it takes away from the fact that women and girls experience both sex and gender-based violence in ways that men do not. You really need to get off the internet and connect with people without any expectations. Calling your thoughts negative doesn't do them justice; your thoughts are misogynistic, and only by acknowledging that you can start to change them.

IrishShee · 2024-01-12T00:51:54+00:00

That’s how I feel about people who are billionaires who have their parents’ money to fall back on so they start business ventures where they pay everyone else to do all the work for them and make a shit ton of money.

The only fans girl you’re referring to is (I’m assuming because I have no idea) a regular person who has found success doing something she’s good at. That’s luck, and a lot of other women on OF don’t do very well.

She will (unfortunately) probably face negative consequences for her OF at some point in her life, whether it’s a partner who is disgusted or insecure about it, or men degrading/shaming/objectifying her.

If it were a man who’d found success with a plumbing company would you feel differently? Or would you be banging your head against the bed in anger and disgust? You need to do some serious digging to work out where this hatred is coming from because it doesn’t sound like pure jealousy to me.

Stargazer1919 · 2024-01-12T01:04:32+00:00

What makes you think women have it easier?

Onlyfans has something like 75 million users. 1/3 of them are women, so that's 25 million women. Compare that to 168 million women in the USA (half the population, this includes women of all ages) that's less than 15%. Compare it to all the women in the world (3.95 billion) that's 0.0063% of women in the world who are on OF.

So it's obvious that most women are not on Onlyfans. They choose not to, for many good reasons. Those who are on OF don't represent anyone else who is not.

Very few on OF make tons of money. Those who make any money at all, it's not enough to live off of.

Source for these stats: I googled it. This is just some rough math.

Onlyfans is a form of sex work, that happens to be part of the digital age we are in. Would you say you envy prostitutes? The sex work industry has a lot of problems.

decantered · 2024-01-12T01:22:32+00:00

Look at regular women in your community, not women on the internet. I’m a regular woman, always been a bit overweight. Every job I’ve been in, men have made a bit more money than me for the exact same work. As an average looking woman, I don’t date very often. I’m fine though.

I think this is what you wanted. I’m just a person, bro. It ain’t easier for me.

Allusionator · 2024-01-12T03:16:00+00:00

There are 26 year old black men uglier, shorter, poorer, and fatter than you are who have loving, long-term relationships with white women. Your ideology is your main problem, women aren’t a boss fight they’re just individual people literally the same as we all are.

One trick for defeating this is just to act like it isn’t true. Go be willing to face rejection but keep trying because there is somebody you could make a nice couple with. Sometimes it feels easier to pretend it’s impossible than face the truth that if you go out and show your best self then plenty of women won’t be into you but some will.

bluemagex2517 · 2024-01-12T13:31:17+00:00

You want the blunt honest truth? You are a walking ball of confirmation biases and illogical thinking coupled with faulty premises. You are totally ruled by your insecurities. Until you change internally, change your entire mental framework and lens, nothing external will matter. A random internet celebrities success with sex work should be totally irrelevant to your life. You've somehow built a mental construct, where you pathologically need to blame someone for your purely perceived shortcomings. How do you fix this? Well, not from advice on internet forums. You need a therapist, probably a psychiatrist, and a college level critical thinking class wouldn't hurt. You also need to want to change. Not just change your circumstances. You need to want to change your entire mindset and mental framework.

Stargazer1919 · 2024-01-12T01:14:40+00:00

It recently came out that amouranth (popular female twitch streamer) made 57 million USD on onlyfans since starting it a few years back. I had to click off the video informing me because I was so enraged and disgusted. I nearly cried and banged on my bed because of how easy she and many other women have it.

What would you say to someone who is upset that they are not rich and famous like Margot Robbie or whoever?

I went through an article for a minute just to see how rich some celebrities might be. In reality, their lives have nothing to do with us regular folks. Ok, so Margot Robbie has $40 million. So what? That changes nothing about my life. I'm still the same person, with the same problems, skills, and experiences. Am I supposed to throw my life away or something because I'm not in the same league as her? That would be weird and a total waste.

You really shouldn't be seeking out stuff on the internet/ media if it's going to upset you.

CherryCoffeeBomb · 2024-01-12T04:35:47+00:00

I am a twenty something year old woman getting absolutely hulk smashed with stress from my mediocre day job, and I wish I had 57 million USD lolol

Aggravating_Shift623 · 2024-01-12T18:02:09+00:00

Women absolutely do not have it easier. Life is hard for everyone of both sexes whether rich or poor, sick or healthy

Comingtoyoulive16 · 2024-01-12T05:20:58+00:00

Facts us women do not have it easier. Right now it's hard for me to just find a job lol. Also like other people are saying most average looking onlyfans girls are not making that much money on onlyfans. Whatever girl your talking about is probably a famous onlyfans model.

tensatailred · 2024-01-12T15:03:53+00:00

You give random women too much power in your daily life. You overcome this by realizing your perspective is biased. The majority of women don't live lives of luxury. Sure they may find it easier in the dating market more so than the average man, but they also struggle with certain things men tend to have an easier time with.

Get out of these online spaces. They are toxic and are warping your view of women and relationships. Stop watching these clowns streamers, most of them are out of touch from reality. They will make you resentful towards women, and will pull you further away from them. You don't have to be a 6 foot Tyrone to pull chicks. You need to be well kept, not chronically online, not a tard, have some cash in your pocket and of course be pleasant.

Even if you had to be a 6'6 alpha Tyrone, you raging, despising women and punching up your pillow wouldn't help you in your goal of getting a women. It's in your best interest to not be resentful towards them.

Also why did you feel the need to mention you're a black male that's sexually interested in white women? Do you think you have to be some kinda Tyrone to bag a white woman or something?

oldcousingreg · 2024-01-12T16:55:24+00:00

Just real quick:

• Amouranth is a survivor of spousal abuse. None of that money came easy for her. Money doesn’t stop abuse.

• There’s nothing wrong with being 5’6.

• Women are people, not achievements.

• Anyone who tried to convince you women’s lives are easier is a moron. Ask any woman who isn’t white.

ScottishRose81 · 2024-01-12T14:52:10+00:00

The internet is seldom a true reflection of reality. We’re flooded with all these opinionated talking heads telling us what to think and men are getting sucked into this toxic way of thinking at it’s ruining them. If you treat and view women as objects, you will never get a good one. Speaking as a woman who knows her worth, we are looking for men who we can be soft with. Who give what we give them, 100% loyalty, integrity, honour and respect and love. Money, looks and muscles don’t matter to us. That’s for shallow women who want those things. The real good women don’t care about those things! And we’re out here watching men getting sucked into this cult and shaking our heads because what it’s teaching is not true masculinity. Real masculinity is not toxic. It’s safe and secure. He’s not lusting after every woman and thirst trap because he values and honours himself and women as a whole to allow that. He has self control, he’s not out in bars and clubs hooking up with random women he doesn’t care about. No woman who is worth her salt would want a man like that! If you want high a quality woman, you’re going to have to meet her on her level. You’re going to have to be a high quality man, and no that doesn’t have anything to do with money or looks. It’s all about integrity and honour. She’s not in the clubs and bars, she’s not on onlyfans, she’s not putting herself out there in hardly anything on Instagram. Men who indulge in that type of women and then slate her for being low quality or for the streets are hypocrites because they’re exactly on her level and they’ve proven it by using her for their own pleasure. Women are not objects. The fact we are viewed that way at all is part of our struggle. You say we have it easy…listen to America Ferreres’s monologue in the Barbie Movie. It was exactly spot on. Men think we have it easy but in reality it’s anything but. We get used, betrayed, labelled, over sexualised, criticised, judged, told we need to be this that and whatever to be accepted or deemed attractive and the goal posts are always being moved. If we are career driven we’re too masculine, if we are a stay at home housewife, we’re lazy and pampered and worthless (housework and childcare does itself apparently!) and if we do both…it’s not enough cos damnit he wants more sex and you don’t respect him enough he cries from the couch while listening to a toxic red pill host humiliate some girls he’s interviewing by beating them over the head for doing what he pleasured himself to the day before.
If we’re sick, we don’t get to rest and recover. We have to suck it up and get up and do. Painful periods? Too bad, get that 14hr shift done. I could go on and on, but I won’t bore you. Point of the matter is. A bunch of talking empty heads from men who wouldn’t know true masculinity if it jumped up and bit them are the wrong source of information for real life and real women. They’re no better than these women you dislike. So shut it off and focus on how you can improve yourself in a real way. How you view women is extremely important in terms of how they respond to you.

keiy_solo · 2024-01-12T18:03:11+00:00

Each time I hear a complaint of women having life easier or getting more attention, I wonder if people consider that:

Regarding attention - we may receive what some see as a higher quantity of attention, but they don't account for the "quality" of attention we receive. It's not all positive or good natured. Trust.

Regarding an easier life, I won't beat a dead horse but there are plenty of conversations in this sub that soundly put that misconception to rest.

Life is not "easy" for any of us. That is why there should be much more emphasis on not making anyone's life harder by any means, regardless of our connection or lack of connection to them.

PakDrescot · 2024-01-12T18:52:52+00:00

Stop looking at the fraction of one percent of people who made it big on Only Fans. Most people there will never see anything close to that kind of money.

It's like looking at a man who made it big in the NFL or NBA and getting upset.

Forestfreud · 2024-01-12T22:33:41+00:00

Your post is the equivalent of saying “Scarlett Johansson has a net worth of $165m so that means women have it easy.” No, it means you’re cherry-picking an example of someone who worked very hard, got extremely lucky, and was born with talent, money, and looks. The odds of making enough to live by off of OF are similar to those of becoming a wealthy actress in traditional media: slim to none.

blaze420x · 2024-01-13T15:50:49+00:00

Plenty of white and other non-black people think YOU have it easy as a black guy, too. They think the govt will let us get away with anything, and all we need to do is yell, “Racism!” and we get whatever we want. They think affirmative action gets you into any school you want to attend. Is that how your life works?

Life ALWAYS looks “easier” when you’re not the one living it.

Girls making money on OF is kinda like men making millions in pro sports: For every one woman making millions, there’s thousands that no one has ever heard of. Really, think about how much FREE porn is out there, including sites full of thumbnails(p-hub, xvideos, etc). Yet you’re naming one woman who actually gets people to pay for something they can already get for free. That’s not “easy” for the same reason that every guy who can tell a joke doesn’t get a Netflix special.

So the first step is letting go of myths about how “easy” it is to be a woman. There are perks and double standards that help and hurt just about every group of people.

shawninpa · 2024-01-12T13:47:35+00:00

Hey bud not everyone woman has it easier, no different than men. I'll agree that down to average women have it easier to an extent, but they have to wade through men's bullshit. Yes can they get dates easier, get laid easier? Yes, but if they are looking for quality, they have to go through a ton of dms and or dates, worry about being raped, or worse. Not easier. Different

UnfortunateJones · 2024-01-17T07:06:44+00:00

Bro. You’re being a bitch ass nigga

Women have to deal with the 24/7 threat of rape.

Nothing you’re dealing with is like that.

Just go outside and be happy. You’ll find someone for you or in the wild.

Get your money right. If you knock up a woman you’re going to be a dead beat?

Lose weight, you want to duck abs you don’t have stamina?

You bitching about problems that you can solve.

Women don’t owe you shit tho. No means no.

Title	Disengaging from negative thoughts
Author	Racerboy427
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Date	January 11, 2024 11:25 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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