Redpill made me hate being a woman

shallow-pedantic · 2022-12-28T19:58:32+00:00

Rant noted!

Much like identifying and discarding toxic relationships, it is equally important to identify and discard toxic ideologies. In the very least, understanding the fallacies within any ideology.

I share your hopelessness on the topic and can only advise that you keep moving forward with dignity and respect in the hopes that your example helps to bring resolution to others.

fathergoose77 · 2022-12-28T21:16:36+00:00

The kind of men who can’t see women beyond their age and looks are like the kind of women who can’t see guys beyond their paychecks and dick sizes.

They are immature and value materialism, do not understand the depth of human relationships, and are probably not someone you want to have a relationship with.

Your boyfriend sounds like a keeper. Please do not lump him into the category of shallow pervs and sugar daddies if he has not proven himself to be that kind of person. Just like their are women who are awful for long term relationships, same as men.

Neither of you seem like that type. Focus on what you are grateful for and be careful not to let those external anxieties get to your self-esteem and between your seemingly healthy relationship.

spiraldinosaur · 2022-12-28T22:33:50+00:00

It's bullshit. I'm a man in my 30s and I would absolutely prefer to date a woman similar to my age to someone much younger, as would most men my age. I see hot women in their 30s, 40s, even 50s and beyond. Of course, we all get a bit older, but as you age you also recognise that you're older yourself and so you acknowledge other people's ageing with a sort of empathy. We're all in the same boat. My hairline is receding and I've got a few greys popping up. My girlfriend is ageing like any other woman in her 30s. It's just the nature of it.

Sure, there are some men out there who want to pretend that they'll always date women in their 20s. They're creeps. In reality, they're dating nobody because they're too busy being creepy men trying to date young girls.

And realistically, when we're in our 30s, if we're looking at all, we're going to be looking for someone we could have a suitable relationship with rather than just someone who's "pretty". And that inevitably means someone in a similar place in their lives to us; typically someone also in her 30s or there abouts.

You're right, this obsession with ageing is all over the place and it's miserable. We're constantly being shown all these pretty young things, and even as a man in my 30s, it can be hard to be seeing this constant feed of zoomers having a good time while I'm busy being an adult or whatever. But you can choose what you look at and what you listen to. You can adjust your info feed to show you content that makes you feel good about yourself. I'm aware that - especially as a woman - it's going to be hard to get away from the media and advertising that goes on and on about "younger looking skin" and so on. But you can have some control over it at least by cutting out these red pill commentators.

Stop looking at the red pill crap and swap it out for body positivity content. Find feminist commentators who can show you what men actually think of women in their 30s. Hell, go find some women in their 30s and listen to them talking about their dating and relationship experiences. And not just online but in real life. Ask some colleagues or family friends or whoever you can find.

thrifteddivacup · 2022-12-29T00:12:11+00:00

Redpill has made me hate being a woman as well, based in very little logic. It's fed my depression for years. It's not even being reduced to looks for me, it's the constant thought that women are unintelligent unempathetic selfish monsters who have it on easy mode that I keep seeing over and over by so many people. I don't even know how many channels I've blocked, and I still find people who feel this way...and then they all turn around and say that feminism isn't needed and only hurts men.

Even just seeing a simple "women ☕️" comment makes my soul drop.

That being said my partner is amazing too and can't understand redpill thought, but I still have worries too...a lot of it comes from low self esteem, and redpill is really just made for taking advantage of that. The amount of redpill content online is insane, and even just going to the comment section of almost any video with a woman in it you'll find something disgusting. I know a lot of amazing men, and I had a very hard relationship with my mother and that has made me biased against myself. Try not to read into it anymore, we both can do it.

Embarrassed_Cup2524 · 2022-12-29T09:19:53+00:00

im 27, f. im kind of glad you made this post and i started hated being a woman kind of for the same reason as you

i dont have anything good to say or that it gets better

Albino_Ghost · 2022-12-28T21:19:57+00:00

The Redpill is absolutely vile and fatalistic and if I had to compare it to anything, its like cyanide. It's a distortion of reality and has no real value in it.

Men and women, despite the differences, often think quite the same as one another and you'd be surprised to see how many more similarities there are compared to the differences.

Your BF sounds like a kick ass mofo if you ask me, and from my point of view (speaking as a man) I am near 100% sure he isn't lying. Attraction doesn't necessarily die off with age, for a majority it stays, because love, if it's true, develops far past just looks and age and so on.

I know it's just a rant but similar things have haunted me for a very long time. I would say, do your best to purge this redpill from your system, try your best to believe what your BF is saying and live the best you can, worry free.

This toxic, hyper consumerist culture of ours wants you to have this anxiety. Don't give in, do what's right for yourself, stay away from the red pill bs and go enjoy life. There's no reason to doubt the good.

Mediocre_Sell716 · 2022-12-28T22:37:47+00:00

Your fears are directly based on the nonsense that comes out of such content. What one needs to understand is that when someone generalizes what men or women want or behave, they're wrong. They pick and choose evidence that's convenient and confidently call the rest 'exceptions.' Any nuance is discarded. Since there is no obvious answer to what/who is desirable, the place is ripe for a confident person to come by and share a BS, but plausible sounding explanation.

You also need to understand confirmation bias, which is what such content relies upon. If you're given a mental model and you see evidence in real-life, your mind goes, "see, I told you this is how the world works!" Evidence to the contrary is discarded. It looks like your partner has done everything right, but your mind and insecurities are just waiting for any evidence to prove the mental model -- "disgusted by me later on," "he's settled for me."

About the content in popular media, again, that's not real life. The entire cosmetic industry thrives on insecurities. If they can get you to buy 7 products instead of the 2 you really need, they will do better.

I would recommend seeing a therapist and discussing this.

Windrider91 · 2022-12-28T23:39:56+00:00

Delivering similar sentiments many others here have already expressed, but as a nearly 32 year old man myself, I tend to be attracted to, and STRONGLY PREFER to date, women closer to my own age. Emotional maturity and generational norms I think are probably the two biggest factors for that, I can't be confident that somebody who has only been in romantic relationships/dating scenes for half as long as I have is emotionally developed and conscious enough to understand the more complex nuances of how to navigate boundaries and emotions.

Also, kind of a side note, but the oldest woman I'd ever hooked up with was 50. 20 years older than me at the time. So yeah, I'm pretty sure most of the dude's pushing this "nobody will want you after 30" bullshit are under the impression that heteronormative monogamy is the only viable long-term relationship option (a perception falsely pushed by many aspects of media and society).

Sad_Apple_1911 · 2022-12-29T00:04:28+00:00

A survey from Norway showed that men at 30 want women that are 27 or so for LTR and 26 for STR.

Oh and another study. Men fantasise about younger partners more than do women… but also older ones. Men simply seem more flexible in their tastes.

But I understand how you feel and I also do not want to be ”settled for” or him secretly desiring someone younger.

Sad_Apple_1911 · 2022-12-29T00:16:39+00:00

Men I talked with irl say that they don’t go around and think of who is most attractive all the time or compare appereances. They see their wives and she is pretty, that’s it. This idea of always wanting and needing the most attractive mate and comparing sounds rather narcissistic to me.

Sparklingfairy_ · 2022-12-28T21:11:19+00:00

I am also a woman and I understand where you are coming from. I frequent the red pill space often as well as other spaces because I like to just engage with everything. I’m slightly older than you (26) and I’m with a wonderful 35 year old man who’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. He has never dated a woman younger than him so I new it wasn’t because I was younger. He loves me for who I am and I often bring up the red pill community to him and he gets baffled all the time. He said he doesn’t care about me ageing and he will age too… relationships based on looks don’t last. He constantly tells me to stop watching this crap but I tell him I like to watch everything. Anyways I totally get your fears but someone valuing you just on your looks is very problematic. Your boyfriend seems like a keeper to be honest.

Most of these men who say women are worthless after 30…. Well good luck fo them to say the least, they’ll end up alone at the end.

LCBrianC · 2022-12-29T15:47:01+00:00

My wife is 36 and I started dating her when she was 25. If I think about it objectively, yeah she was prettier and, in some ways, nicer than she is now, but I would never for a second trade her for anyone else. Why? Because of what we've built together. She's not only been my wife and companion for over a decade, but she is the mother of my children, and she's a fantastic mother at that. I trust her more than almost anyone else, and I know she has my back, and she gets me in ways other people don't/can't. So yeah, my eyes wander, but my thoughts don't. She's not just a great woman, she's a great human, and that means the world to me, and I suspect that as time passes and she ages more, this feeling will only grow. And this applies whether I see her dressed up with a powdered face or I see her first thing in the morning looking haggard as all hell.

Men who haven't been - or worse, refuse to be - in long-term committed relationships won't get this, and there's not much I or anyone else can do to explain it to them: you're not just investing in superficialities when you date/engage/marry someone, you're investing in every little thing they bring to the table, all the support, companionship, experiences, vulnerabilities and sharing you get to do together, and get to anticipate doing together, and get to remember doing together. You may notice, too, that none of those things require or even benefit from youthful looks.

So yeah, hope that makes you feel better.

ShelterImpossible370 · 2022-12-28T20:50:42+00:00

Don't worry, you don't really want these kinds of guys anyways. Think of the 20yo guys who seek out girls in highschools, this is the kind of person we are talking about. Most well-adjusted people like to date people with similar age - as it has many advantages - similar amounts of experience, similar experiences growing up, so its easier to relate, and overall being at a similar point in life.

But idk what's wrong with sunscreen and vitamin C, avoiding skin cancer is worth it alone. And vitamins make you healthier, which is also a benefit in of itself. It's not about staying attractive longer, the main benefit is being healthier in the future, which probably every old person around tells is a treasure.

Coollogin · 2022-12-28T22:46:06+00:00

I'm 20 now and have a wonderful loving boyfriend, but now I am scared he will leave me once I get older.

You really shouldn't want the boyfriend you have when you are 20 to be your permanent life partner. You need to experience several different relationships to learn how to be a good partner and how to identify someone who is a good partner for you. When you stick with the same person from a young age (and 20 in young in this context), there is a genuine risk that one or both partners will suffer from a sort of arrested development. They never grow past that stage of being a 20-year-old.

Some men are horndogs their entire lives. Usually it's because the men in their formative years modeled that behavior. But that's not true for all men. My husband is no horndog. He married me when I was 39, and still seems pretty happy with me 18 years later. I use sunscreen because I don't want skin cancer or leathery skin. I use vitamin C to stave off colds. I don't know what "baby botox" is, but I've never contemplated botox or retinoids. My father has his flaws, but was never a horndog. My brother is not and never was a horndog. My brother-in-law, my husband's three grown and married nephews, my cousin, my other cousin's husband, etc. All good men who treat their wives respectfully, parent their children, and do not appear to be concerned that their wives are real human beings who age.

I think you need to look more carefully at how these poisonous messages are reaching you and better curate your media feed, your closest associates, or both. If all the men around you truly are horndogs, you are in a toxic environment and should either relocate or replace your friends.

highriseinthesummer · 2022-12-29T02:19:37+00:00

I feel the same as you :(

Apprehensive-Ease946 · 2022-12-29T08:21:18+00:00

I feel you sis 😢 I am 23 years old, never had a boyfriend, never ever kissed, with low self esteem and when I found out the red pill content it made me angry and depressed and lowered my self esteem even more ). I am so pressured because the red pill says when you turn 25 your value decreases(it is not even 30 🤯) if you are a woman. It says that no matter what the woman has(good job/career, she is well paid, talented) it just doesn’t matter because only looks is what makes her valuable(and being a housewife and submissive and quiet virgin). Of course I am not saying that looks doesn’t matter at all, we all see the looks first but it would be superficial if this is the only thing you look for in a woman. Also the virginity thing, being only a housewife, being feminine, like omg 😱(nothing wrong with that but women are different and is stupid to want everyone to be like that).

ribbons_in_my_hair · 2022-12-29T14:00:40+00:00

If you think it feels bad at 20, imagine me, 33 and still no kids.

Like literally I admitted myself to a psych ward I pretty much just felt like that was it, I’m too old, I am worthless and have no family, I may as well just die.

It’s not true though sweetheart.

And if it is true, we’ll then fuck it anyway. We might as well just get out there and enjoy ourselves. Fuck it. Let’s go dance and play music and see the world. And you know what? It’s not all so terrible. And it turns out that only shitheads need you to be young and pretty forever. The people that genuinely love you don’t give as much of a shit about a wrinkle.

Like. Would you ever say “hi best friend or sister or dad or mom or professor etc, you’re great, but you’re 30+ now so I guess you’re worthless to me.”

Literally.

Stahp sweetheart.

That shit is so predatory. Go outside. I promise people will be glad to see you and just glad to be a part of a community whatever everyone looks like. At some point, if you can forgive yourself whatever flaws you perceive, and just go out anyway, you might be surprised what fun you have.

And fuck you’re literally 20. Like gd it.

Forget all this stupid bullshit garbage that these online “influencers?” are dishing. It’s literally not all like that.

I do feel incredibly sorry for your generation and all those to follow. It was not always like this. 90s we’re fucked up in its own way, but, women weren’t constantly being filtered to look like baby dolls and there wasn’t such insane obsession that there is today. I mean, there was, there always was pressure to look and be a certain way as a woman, there was never a gd century where women could just RELAX, nor men, honestly men have their shit too…

But everyone. Everyone today… it’s so sad. The Internet has made it all so much more extreme. Ugh. I’m so sorry everyone. It’s just so predatory and it’s killing us. :(

Gosh I am just so sad I literally forget my point hahah…

I guess, just don’t give into hun. Please don’t. You cannot even imagine some of the shit people go through. You can’t. Nothing is fair, but the good news is that you can choose to just treat yourself well and go have some good experiences while you still can.

And remember something, a long time ago now, I started doing this thing. It was after years of anorexia and depression and anxiety, I would work out so constantly and spend hours trying to be and look my best. I demanded absolute perfection of myself and it fucked me up that I was never capable and even when I was so good, the men k dared were so shitty that it was like all for nothing anyway!

…so one day, I saw this woman talk about her book: one year without looking in the mirror.

Now that is pretty extreme, but I did start doing something.

I started saying “you know what, maybe my eyeliner isn’t perfect but I don’t have time to fix it, let me just go and be on time for my friends”

Or

“Im just going to west this outfit. It might not be as good as I want it to be but I just have to go.”

And even if I didn’t want to go, I would force myself.

I started saying “yes” to basically any event and

Actually I did stop looking at the mirror. I’d give myself a quick glance and that’s it.

Just go.

I spent so many gd years obsessing over whether or not I was beautiful enough for the world. Well, let the world show me something beautiful today gd it!

What beauty can you see today? Feel? Experience? Fuck what you look like for crying out loud. I Can promise you that as a 20 year old, you’ll automatically look better than most people there hahaha. So just go and see some beauty for yourself today.

And you know what? My friends didn’t care. They didn’t care that my outfit wasn’t perfect according to my inner dialogue. They didn’t care that my eyeliner might not have been perfectly perfect. To be honest, my friends would just cheer any time I walked through the door. It was more about presence and being there and being reliable and a good friend and a support that actually mattered.

And suddenly, it’s not so bad. And ya know what? I’ve seen a lot of incredible shit. Been in 4 bands. Seen 15 countries. Had sex all over the place hahahahah.

Obviously still work out and be strong and eat healthy, right, like k would still exercise, but it was more about just being healthy and strong and less about “IS MY ASS GOOD ENOUGH FIR YOU MYSTERIOUS MAN RHAT I DINT EVEN KNOW WHYYYYY AM I SO OBSESSED WIRH BEING SMGOOD ENOUGH FIR YOU LIKE WHAT DO YOU DO FOR ME AHHH”

skylothedog · 2023-01-03T06:04:36+00:00

I'm sorry you feel that way, i honestly think you have nothing to worry about!

As a fully redpilled guy (as ppl consider me, for better or for worse), I would genuinely be super super happy to marry an amazing woman and get older with her.

No matter how old she gets, I'll still genuinely find her physically attractive. (tbh, all women are insanely attractive, esp nowwa days. 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s, 60s, etc... Big, small, short, tall... woman are god's gift)

Also... LOVE IS more important, and yes... men feel love too.

Getting older with my wife, i'd love my wife more and more and feel more and more committed to her over the years. For me personally, i just got out of a long marriage-ish-type relationship, and it's genuinely hard for me to move on with other women and live the whole 10-girlfriends-at-once thing. Imma one-at-time kinda guy, and i dont like changing. I'm willing to bet a lot of other men are/will be like this.

I think the main concern about age is the capacity to have children. Idk exactly what the maximum age is for women to have children, but... sadly if a single woman is older, i feel sad that I cant date her because I'm personally not going to be ready to be a dad until sometime after/near when she might no longer be able to have kids. And like... if I date her, i honestly put HER chance of motherhood at risk bc like... let's face it, most relationships dont work out. And you NEED at least SOME amount of time (maybe a few years) to date the person before marriage, and then have kids (not a strict rule of course, but a rough guideline). So... depending on when a man is looking to have kids, that influences what age women he should be pursuing. But... youre 20... so... i wouldnt worry about that at all. I'd say at like... age 30 (women, help me out, what age?) you should START taking the motherhood-timeline-thing seriously so that youre ahead of the game and not behind. I hear the final age is roughly around 40? but i also hear is diff for every woman, some have in their late 40's or even 50's. But... just make sure youre not one of the ones where it ends at like 35 (idk if thats a thing, but... again, women help me out with advisement). At 30, you still have room to date around, get it wrong with one long term relationship, get back out there, and then find your husband, date him for a few years, get married, have 2 kids, and life is good. As you get older beyond this point, the room for error starts to close, ya gotta be real smart and efficient with your picks (dont date stupid ppl) and then hope it works out lol.

I know there are some other concerns thrown around the redpill world, but... i wouldnt be worried. Some say that women "peak" in their 20's in terms of beauty, and "fall off" in later years. Mmm... idk, i guess that's a thing if youre looking to marry Drake, but... if youre looking for a husband who's a human being in your socio-economic class, you should totally be able to find one your age or a tiny bit older if your getting closer to those final motherhood-potential years. If you're a guy who's only focusing on women in their early 20's and is successful in attaining that, youre like the top 1% of guys. Other than that, the rest of us are totally open to all ages, and realistically youre beauty wont really change until youre late 50's. And then you can have botox like my mom and still be a 10. Anyway, bottom line for this portion: You'll still be beautiful, we'll all know it, you'll age a bit, that's okay, it stinks, but it really doesnt mean youll look like Master Yoda the second you hit 30.

And like... in terms of how men value women and how looks come in... I mean... yeah, on face value, men hold looks in high regard. But... that's honestly not the most important thing for a guy. He'll always want you physically, let's be real. In my experience, the biggest difficulty I've had with women is more the behavioral stuff. Like... if you're worried about being a "good wife"... first, pick a good man (best you can find) who's worth being a good wife for. A guy who's gonna pay for you dinner, pay for your uber ride home, give you soup when youre sick, etc etc, and who is living life in a way you respect and who is someone you genuinely look up to. If that's all true, I'm willing to be you'll just naturally be an amazing wife, because you'll be so happy with him and you'll just be happy and fun and giggly, which is all a man really wants in my opinion. And like... you dont have to try to act a certain way or be like... stereotypically girly... i think its more like... just dont give him a hard time. When he says "do you wanna at this place?" Don't say "no no no" and have him guess 3000 places and then get mad him bc you said no to all of them but he couldnt find a place you like. Dont nag him over every little thing "you didnt pay atteniton to me. you dont love me. you took me to dinner on friday, and monday, but now it's thursday, so you dont love me. i hate you!" dont do that. And... when he's pretty knowledgable about something, dont shoot him down and question him just to be a devil. Like... that's what respect is in my opinion. It's like... trust in his ability. If he says "I believe this is the solution", you trust his judgement and youre willing to bet on it, and if it doesnt work out you dont rage him, but rather say genuinely believe 'it mustve been a hard problem to solve'. and... again, bc respect is important (both of you want it and need it) i think that's why its important to find someone worth respect. find a great man. Not every one of us has judgement that's worth respecting (sadly) so... if youre with one of those, it wont work... but... find a good one :) And... if you genuinely like being "physical" with him, that helps tremendously. In my honest opinion (dont sleep on this, no pun intended) if you genuinely want to "be" with him at least once a day, he aint goin anywhere. Then if youre nice to him and dont bother him on top of that??? then he's luckiest man in the world. It doesnt matter what you look like. As long as youre not like... going TOTALLY out of your way to look as embarrassing as possible for him when you go out in public, youre good. Even so, he'll still find you attractive.

But yeah... all in all, yes, looks matter.

BUT... that (most probably) puts you at a HUGE advantage bc (nearly) all women (not just being politically correct) are inherently beautiful in the eyes of (nearly) all men universally. And that's not changing until youre grandma with a grandpa who loves you like crazy. Just be nice to him, and you'll be great.

tom5osqb · 2022-12-28T21:41:51+00:00

I'm just so sick of being a woman. The constant obsession with ageing is not only popular in redpill - it is all over television, social media, the skincare industry, etc, and the pressure to get baby botox, to use sunscreen, retinoids, and vitamin c. I'm so sick of that. Men age too, often worse than women and no one pressures them into all of this.

do you know why?

BECAUSE THEY WERE NEVER ATTRACTIVE IN THE FIRST PLACE

they can't preserve their beauty or attractivness when there is none to begin with

they don't worry about how they look like, because they have no sexual value to maintain, they are entirely sexually worthless and unattractive their entire pathetic male lives

Baooo999 · 2022-12-28T22:05:00+00:00

Reality sucks. Men will always be attracted and will look at young attractive women. In order to have ur man wife and never leave u, u must add value to his life beyond sex, as he can get that from any woman. I can expand on things that you can do to bring value to a man’s life to get that ring if u like. All the best!

Apprehensive-Ease946 · 2022-12-29T12:08:57+00:00

I feel you sis 😢 I am 23 years old, never had a boyfriend, never ever kissed, with low self esteem and when I found out the red pill content it made me angry and depressed and lowered my self esteem even more ). I am so pressured because the red pill says when you turn 25 your value decreases(it is not even 30 🤯) if you are a woman. It says that no matter what the woman has(good job/career, she is well paid, talented) it just doesn’t matter because only looks is what makes her valuable(and being a housewife and submissive and quiet virgin). Of course I am not saying that looks doesn’t matter at all, we all see the looks first but it would be superficial if this is the only thing you look for in a woman. Also the virginity thing, being only a housewife, being feminine, like omg 😱(nothing wrong with that but women are different and is stupid to want everyone to be like that).

ReluctantlyAnAsshole · 2022-12-29T16:51:19+00:00

Look girl if that was the case, MILFs wouldnt be in the most searched category of p*rn. I know adult content is harmful but if those guys are so shallow leave them, your boyfriend is a keeper

SShadyMadeMe · 2022-12-30T00:30:29+00:00

It is a fact that regardless of their age, men do find youth most attractive. There are obvious biological reasons explaining this which I'll explain at the end of this post if you're interested and can be evidenced in this statistic.

It is obviously not nice that some men you've seen take this fact as a way to project their hate towards women, you should remember that men by nature love women, and when they act this way it is a side effect of trauma and other unresolved psychological issues.

A man seeing an attractive woman will always experience attraction to some extent, miniscule or large, whether he is in a relationship or not. You should accept this as is out of our control and is just how we are as humans and is true for some women aswell. When your youthful beauty fades you should not fear that your relationship will subsequently break down. Even right now, no matter how beautiful you are he would be lying if he said there aren't women out there who are visually more attractive, and vice versa - there is always someone more attractive even if you're Margot Robbie, so obviously him objectively somehow thinking you're the most beautiful woman in the world isn't the notion acting as the foundation of your relationship, it certainly goes much deeper than that, so when both of your looks do fade, you shouldn't fear that your relationship will crumble as a result. If he is just with you purely for your looks then yes age will be an issue but you're the judge of that. In general, regardless of gender, you shouldn't be angry at your partner for experiencing attraction to others and is simply being unaccepting of nature to expect them to only feel any attraction towards yourself.

Why are men of any age more attracted to younger women? This is consistent across most animal species and is simply a survival advantage we have evolved because younger women are more suited to successfully reproduce, which is the driving factor behind evolution - the process which has made us humans exactly how we are today. Say this wasn't the case and instead men were more attracted to women of older ages than younger. Men would more often try and reproduce with women past menopause or less physically able enough to reproduce, or less physically able to nurture their offspring and ensure their survival. This would lead to much less frequent successful sexual reproduction than those men reproducing with younger women, so natural selection would slowly phase out those men attracted to older women and the men attracted to younger women would evolve further and take over.

mushroomboie · 2023-01-07T15:20:12+00:00

Great post. This post kinda opened my eyes as I never knew the perspective of those at the back end of the red pill ideology, and how they were affected by some of the toxicity from the rp community. I still subscribe to the rp ideology a bit, as I’m the type of person who stands on the fence on everything, which can be both a good and bad trait lol.

Anyway thx for ur perspective :)

jegforstaarikke · 2023-01-12T18:57:29+00:00

Just wanted to say that I’m a woman your age and I’m in the same situation.

IMP2K20 · 2023-01-15T22:38:42+00:00

Hi, as a dude who's been redpilled over many years, do note that redpill stuff doesnt neccesary apply to literally all woman but to most of them. Depending on your situation and who you are, I wouldnt be to worried. Considering your situation and circumstances, you seem in a good spot!

modernslave666 · 2023-01-22T17:46:58+00:00

I would look at it as a balance, if all you bring to the relationship is your beauty then you can’t complain that once that beauty is gone your value is gone.

If however you are a good partner and you do the best you can to contribute to the overall well being of the family then that’s what you bring to the relationship and you can expect much more in return.

I don’t understand girls who bring absolutely nothing to the relationship, are just being cute and expect their husband to pay for everything in their lifestyle and then get surprised to get dumped. What do they expect? With age these men’s value remains the same but hers is down to zero, it’s not a good deal anymore.

ConsistentPepper8720 · 2023-01-29T01:45:00+00:00

Redpill is important for men, I'm a redpill enjoyer and if you have a healthy lifestyle you'll just get even more beautiful by getting older, if you do everything that is good for your body and your looks you're going to look even better as time goes on, my grandma is 60 years old and I thought she was 30 because of how beautiful she is because she's a feminine woman and has a very healthy lifestyle, women are as important as men, but men are in a way worse position than men, women destroyed modern society with modern degeneracy, 80% of the stupid shit that happens is because of a woman, just take a look around you, men need to have a time where they focus on themselves, and when they changed their lives and became the best version of themselves, they can now enjoy being around women, or maybe you could do both at the same time, personally I don't like being distracted by women, I just stay outside of relationships because I want to build myself and when I'm at my best I will get a girlfriend, and in case you didn't know, the redpill is about improving men, not discussing how "bad" women are, no one said you're bad, they just don't want to give you attention to build themselves so you can like them more, learn about redpill, it's very important for our modern society, I personally believe in something that is even higher than redpill which is whitepill, a mindset that I created which is improving yourself and transcending your limits to the point where you have no limits, always go higher, and adopt the stoic mentality, so that even if you fall down again, build everything again, learn about the redpill, it saved many lives

TREVONTHEDRAGON · 2023-01-31T23:19:27+00:00

This is not what redpill is about it’s not about hating women or hating older women. It’s about understanding the reality of relationships between men and women. I’m sure your may have found a great boyfriend and men when the marry a woman don’t get tired of her just because she is aging. We are talking about mainly single women not married women who want it all or who blame men for having preferences but they are openly praised for having theirs. Also the complete rejection of feminine qualities that make men and women Compatible. Enjoy your relationship and focus on making it the best. And part of that is appealing to his wants and needs if they are reasonable. Try not to get fat( same for men) try and promote the wife material side of yourself. Do not worry about redpill in the context of age if your 1. 20 year olds and gearing towards marriage and 2. Not apart of the women who are in common discussion

It’s mainly the modern im free woman who is the problem which is spreading among young women and being realized as sad among older women. Not every single woman is the problem just the ones with the mindset of i don’t need no man. Which is why you have some men being stupid divorcing their wives not understanding the message.

untitled20 · 2022-12-28T20:57:19+00:00

So two things.

I dated a girl a few years ago and because of the incredible bond we had — I would pick her over anyone in the world. Regardless of age. Regardless if she got into an accident and lost half her face. The love I have for her is more than looks.

Secondly, no offence, but consider not having kids? I’m childfree myself and this is part of it - pregnancy is not easy on the body and being honest, I’d have trouble being attracted to anyone after they’ve been pregnant. So yeah - not having kids can keep you super sexy anyway regardless of age. (Plus a million other reasons - freedom, money, environmental, etc)

In summary, try to cultivate a deep emotional bond / love with your partner. And consider being childfree

bongoblast9000 · 2022-12-29T01:14:52+00:00

Cope

PapiHennessy · 2022-12-29T04:01:02+00:00

You don’t really have the correct idea about men. Men don’t leave their women after 30ish. 73% of breakups+divorces are from the women. Men love women for their vagina. The age thing is for procreation. Men subconsciously don’t want to lay a seed in a 30year old women then have a higher chance of a child with Down syndrome etc. Women become useless from a procreation standpoint. Not a romantic relationship standpoint.

You’ll leave him for fucking other girls faster than he’ll leave you because you’re 48 years old. He won’t leave you because he loves you for who you are. A human with titties & a vagina. Only a gay man will break up with a sexual partner that makes his dick hard. That’s a loss for him, first he had 2 girls now he has 1. First he had 4 girls now he has 3. He’ll just stop having kids with you, it’s not that he doesn’t care or love you. Subconsciously he doesn’t want his child to come out with 3 fingers.

A man’s value of a women’s age and looks are different. It’s why men say youth and beauty. The youth is to create healthy children. The beauty is to get their dick hard to create thy healthy children.

Other than their youth, a women’s beauty is crucial. If you can’t get his dick hard to make a child. You’re useless to that man. If you can’t give a man a 91%+ chance of a healthy child. You’re useless to that man. Men aren’t like women. Most men don’t have much to live for except sons and daughters.

Women don’t have much worth TO MEN. Youth and beauty. Men are so simple. Women don’t have much worth to men, because men don’t ask for much.

Glad-Discount-4761 · 2022-12-29T07:06:01+00:00

Redpill made me hate being woman too but I actually agree with redpill theory.

antichristhimsef666 · 2022-12-29T21:24:03+00:00

Women are only sexual toys. That's the truth.

Title	Redpill made me hate being a woman
Author	Mediocre_Sell716
Upvotes	75
Comments	137
Date	December 28, 2022 7:54 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/ExRedPill
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