Should I keep being friends with her because red pill has my vision clouded?

Kaleidoscopefatigue · 2022-06-29T01:32:24+00:00

"but the thing is that one of the reason I like her as a friend is because I think she hot"

You are not a real friend. Friends don't lose interest in friendship if the person is no longer sexually attractive.

proving the red pill on female relationships. "

I think this AMCAW... (actually meant conventionally attractive women)

By female friendship, you only mean friendship with attractive women... ?

This is sexually motivated. Not friendship motivated.

vcreativ · 2022-06-29T07:55:13+00:00

then I lied and said I just wanted to be friends I felt like shit because I wasn’t getting what I wanted I don’t mind being her friend I like her as a friend is because I think she hot

What should I do and I’m delusional for keep being friends with her

I don't really understand your question. You start of with you lying about wanting to be friends. Nothing changed since then. The relationship didn't change. You're hanging around hoping to have sex with her.

Be that guy if you like. But please don't have any illusions about it.

heytheredelilah91 · 2022-06-29T11:48:42+00:00

Ok so last year I was talking to this girl and she said she wasn’t ready for a relationship and then I lied and said I just wanted to be friends.

Mistake #1: lying.

Then after some time I felt like shit because I wasn’t getting what I wanted

Which is what?

The redpill doesn’t condone this because I know she’s gonna fuck some dude at college and I will be friends with her automatically.

That's quite an assumption to make about someone. Making assumptions is going to get you into a lot of trouble in life, not just with dating.

And I don’t mind being her friend

You previously said you lied about wanting to be friends.

but the thing is that one of the reason I like her as a friend is because I think she hot proving the red pill on female relationships.

That's a pretty shallow reason to like someone. I'm committing the sin of generalizing all women here, but usually women want to be seen as individuals, not "that one hot girl." In my life experience, this is a common reason why a woman will turn a guy down.

But we have so much in common at the same time.

Like what?

and I’m delusional for keep being friends with her

And secondly the red pill has taught me not to be friends with women because it’s a waste of time

Why?

Technusgirl · 2022-06-29T01:03:49+00:00

It's up to you as to whether you want to have her as a friend or not, but if she's not into you like that, then you should just respect that and move on and find someone who is. You can still have her as a friend and date other women too if you want. It's not rocket science, man. Just think of her the same way you would see a fellow man at that point.

RealRussShackleford · 2022-06-29T14:14:03+00:00

After reading the comments I’m going to say you should leave this woman alone. Not because I think the RP is right, but because you’re not getting what you want out of this relationship.

I’ve got several female friends who are true friends. Our friendship is based on mutual professional interest and not appearance.

You’ve clearly stated that what you desire from this woman is a sexual relationship and it is clear that she does not desire to have a sexual relationship with you. It seems like you’re trying to force a friendship just to have something and I can tell you from experience it will be quite unfulfilling for you.

iwontbeherelong7 · 2022-06-29T16:10:27+00:00

You actually believe the red pill is legit. It's such a cope

n0name1026 · 2022-06-29T12:41:20+00:00

You know what you need to do and you're scared to do it.

Whatever this is that you think you have or had with this woman is over. If you are attracted to her, you should move on and focus your energy on someone who is attracted to you.

Even if you want to use 'redpill', it tells you that genuine desire is non-negotiable. If she has no genuine desire for you and has clearly told you this, accept that she's not interested, wanted to spare your feelings and just move on instead of trying to be friends with someone you want to sleep with.

It doesn't help you, it doesn't help her, and it won't help any man that does become her boyfriend. Put yourself in his shoes. How would you feel knowing your girlfriend has a friend who initially wanted to sleep with her and is just hanging around? You might think that friend is doing so in hopes that your relationship will break down or she'll cheat on you with him. Don't be that guy. You're at a key milestone in your development as an adult. Demonstrate your maturity by moving on.

carritotaquito · 2022-06-29T22:31:46+00:00

This is happened to me growing up:

Girls socially isolated me throughout all of elementary school for being taller than all of them and because I had ugly teeth (huge over bite). So the boys took me in. Thus, I began to socialize with them.

However, by the time I was in 5th and 6th grade... I was beginning puberty. This isolated me from everyone.

Then, by the time I returned for 7th grade... I no longer had braces and began shaving. Boys saw me looking a bit better (albeit not a whole lot better). Some girls suddenly began to being a bit nicer to me. But boys? It was a mixed bag.

In summary: if you can't see past beyond her looks, just drop her.

Title	Should I keep being friends with her because red pill has my vision clouded?
Author	ListNo9585
Upvotes	2
Comments	20
Date	June 29, 2022 12:10 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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