Has the redpill made you feel disposable?

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Technusgirl · 2022-04-29T03:35:40+00:00

It may be easier for a woman to get the attention of a man, but not his love or commitment. Often times as a woman I feel disposable too and just used for sex and to stroke a man's ego.

Naus1987 · 2022-04-29T14:19:19+00:00

Don’t date women who practice disposable behavior.

Red pill taught you the flags. Now use the wisdom to recognize them. And date the good women. Avoid the bad.

A lot of men practice disposable behaviors too. It’s everyone.

sabiinvesting · 2022-04-30T05:26:00+00:00

Women have emotions just as much as you do. We are not emotionless monsters. Women can fall in love, and hurt when the relationships fall apart. Be a good partner to your lady. When you mess up, you can do better next time. There are deal breakers like cheating, but most mess ups are not deal breakers. Be with someone who values you as a partner. Be with a fellow human.

Yesm3can · 2022-04-29T14:58:34+00:00

Hmm... A very best friend of mine, many years ago, on his wedding day, beside his bride too, told me this: we are all replaceable. And his wife nodded in agreement. They added that they can only do their best and live life. And they do not know if they'd still be married after 10 years. But they will not regret those times spent with each other.

It is now more than 10 years and they are still happily married and thriving.

What I want to say OP is that accepting that we are all replaceable is just a part of life. And reality.

You are replaceable for your friends, you are replaceable at work (just talk to people and you will know how many of them thought they were irreplaceable...until they got replaced), you have your own business? Wait until clients replaced you with another providers, etc.

Why can't or shalln't we be replaced as a partner too?

sernamedeleted · 2022-04-29T07:59:08+00:00

Cults make you feel disposable in order to make you more likely to believe their dogma in an attempt to alleviate that feeling.

In the case of redpill cult recruitment, they present a scenario of eternal loneliness to already frustrated young men, making them feel undesirable and worthless.

Then they present their dogma as the solution, promising easy access to sex and affection if you follow redpill dogma.

Ultimately, since their sex cult is very ineffective and poorly organized, the lots of sex doesn't pan out for most adherents.

Tgis frustrates them further and they are the recruited to the next level of the cult: Incels.

Incels offer a new "solution" dressed in the ideas of individuality and they borrow from Ayn Rand heavily.

An Incel cult member has committed terrorism in Canada already.

Redpill/Incel is a cult. It walks like a cult. It quacks like a cult. It has all the parts of a sex cult except for the sex and a charismatic leader.

Please don't get sucked into this cult.

incredulitor · 2022-04-29T21:14:03+00:00

One of the difficult areas of growth that pills bypass is the necessity of recognizing how responsible you are for your own sense of self-worth, how much work is involved in improving that, and how much fear, sadness, grief and other negative emotions you might have to move through in order to get there. I could agree 100%, disagree 100% or anything in between about the statement that "all women need to do is..." X, Y or Z and no matter where I land on that spectrum, by engaging with the statement as stated I'd be contributing to that ongoing bypass. "All women need to do" has NOTHING to do with what YOU need to do for YOURSELF. Of course there's a kernel of truth that the pills use to capture people in that others do always have the option to leave and find someone else. You and I will always have the opportunity, if we want to bite down on it, to take that kernel of truth that we can't control other people and amplify it. How hard do you think you'd have to go on trying to find absolute certainty in how other people would respond to you before moving in a different direction would start to make sense?

vcreativ · 2022-04-30T18:24:58+00:00

I mean, if you mean they can readily replace you with some guy from online, then yes, you're correct. And I am sure there are genuinely good guys out there, but the quicker they come around, the more of an issue they become.

Think about it this way, if she replaces you quickly, then you never meant anything to her and it's good that you know.

potentially someone better looking

So many people can look good, even if their facial structure strictly speaking isn't "pretty". Over time, who you are, who you've been, and most importantly how you view others will show on your face. Just be the best person possible because that's who you want to be and treat people well. It'll show.

it like the girl I’m seeing is my boss and any time I mess up I can be replaced by a better work instantly

This is a you issue, not so much a her issue. I think it's justified to leave if she finds out you view her as your boss.

unlivedbread · 2022-04-29T13:32:09+00:00

Redpill didn't make me feel this way. Just saw it happen in real time twice. It's sad but even the second time, I wasn't actually even attracted to the women. Yet she had a rotation within a month of us not seeing each other.

I'm not sure what to think of it. Modernity is a bleak place for a guy if you aren't part of the small portion of men that are actually attractive.

imtooshortt · 2022-04-29T10:35:39+00:00

We have to draw the line well: Is it society or redpill that makes you expendable? Redpill tells us we're expendable, doesn't make us expendable. If you want change, you must first accept the facts.

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Rhubarb_Fair · 2022-05-12T20:49:06+00:00

As a woman I can assure you on two counts.

(1) If I love a man, I love him. And I'm loyal. And I'm with him. I don't look elsewhere. I don't even see elsewhere. If I've chosen, he is it.

(2) Yes women out number men on dating apps. Most of those men only want sex, not a relationship. And a lot of men on there are not attractive options for women looking for a relationship (smoke, do drugs, alcohol issurs, chronically unemployed, standard of English not good enough to provide a sentence or two of basic self description). And that's before you look at compatability of character, or having a good value system. Trust me, good men aren't easy to find 😘

Title	Has the redpill made you feel disposable?
Author	ListNo9585
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Date	April 29, 2022 3:20 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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