And every single one more than valid:)

Cosmictears83 · 2020-07-31T00:10:46+00:00

All of my friends in relationships seem to come to me with their constant problems. Like every week. Oh ANOTHER fight? Oh he's still doing that same thing as the week before and the week before? But then on the flip side they want to harp on me to date more and find somebody so I can "catch up" with them. Why? So I can be constantly in conflicts like they are? That they will never fix or walk away from but just want to b**ch about so they can keep a man?

Shout out specifically my fellow FDSers out there who largely seeing no positive couple examples so far in their social circles and feel jaded. Hell, even my parents are just an example of two people with cptsd who have trauma bonded and never were an example of healthy affection growing up. It took much therapy to open up my eyes to that fyi. It ensured I would never find myself in relationships like what I had prior ever again.

Why does it feel like people need or thrive on constant drama and conflict in their romantic relationships? Are that many people suffering from something subconciously?

I've been far more at peace going solo the past 2 years. No more mysterious nocturnal panic attacks, my credit score mysteriously went up, I started taking my home buying dream seriously, I started making friends again. And after FDS I realized i had standards and boundaries to enforce that i never allowed myself to consider prior.

CassieGreen85 · 2020-07-31T03:39:54+00:00

Is it just me (what am I saying, of course it's not) but isn't it super infuriating to actually try to explain to someone why "I'm not desperate/crazy to go around looking for a man??"

I say stuff like "there's a lot of danger when you meet a stranger that is male" or "it's very likely he's very sexist, and I'm not gonna go around picking up after him," or "I'm childfree and it's more likely for a man to want kids" etc. I'm looked at like I'm some uppity bitch or told that I'm too harsh?? Especially since I'm not conventionally physically attractive or fit, so I should "know my place" (not exact words, but kinda that attitude, you know?). I've even been asked with derision whether I was a lesbian (and there's nothing wrong with being a lesbian, either, jerks)

Why is it that when a woman doesn't just submit to the mainstream, misogynistic idea of how a woman should act/look/talk/think, we're suddenly deviants or bitches?

This is why I don't really explain much of most of my decisions; most people do NOT care about actually listening, they just wanna hear so they can twist your words, or attack you back with stupid-ass counter arguments.

SunflowerinVirgo0903 · 2020-07-31T03:59:19+00:00

Yep I ghosted a guy this week.

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-31T00:24:48+00:00

Oh yeah!!! 👏🏻😂

Title	And every single one more than valid:)
Author	lupeytoons
Upvotes	429
Comments	16
Date	July 30, 2020 11:44 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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