How do you have standards for dates during Covid? Do we just not date right now?

vodkagoddess91 · 2020-10-17T17:10:17+00:00

I don't think it's appropriate to date right now.

But if someone is willing to risk covid to "walk" in the park or "invite" you to their place, then they can risk covid on a proper date.

If it isn't safe enough to meet at the museum or go horseback riding, then it isn't safe enough to meet at all.

Don't let anyone manipulate you to accept less and don't argue with them about it. People who know better do better.

AverageToHot · 2020-10-17T16:09:29+00:00

I’m not dating right now because of COVID. My focus is on self-improvement and loving my own company. This way, I’ll have a stronger base when I come back to the dating scene later.

VikingPug · 2020-10-17T18:55:03+00:00

I’m in the US with terribly high Covid rates. I don’t trust men to be truthful about having it. Dating can wait until there is a vaccine.

NaturalSiren · 2020-10-17T17:22:42+00:00

I think it’s actually a good time. I see COVID as a sort of chaperone. You do more screening calls, screening videos. Get to know them and get over the phone. Take a longer time to hold hands, kiss, get physical.

You say scripts like “I know there’s a pandemic, but I trust you in finding/planning something amazing” and see what they do. Are they doing picnics at the beach or a garden for you? Looking up a nice restaurant with clear labels of outdoor seating, not takeout?

For intimacy: “I like you a lot, but I need to take my time before I feel comfortable doing anything.” And ride that out as long as you can. Make them take a covid test before they want to kiss you, or be with you. Or quarantine for 2 weeks. Like an STD test. Make them work for it and prove that they are worthy of being near you.

I’ve had outdoor restaurant meals, garden dates, etc. All socially distant and appropriate. No holding hands until a few dates in at least.

If they don’t respect that, esp during a pandemic, drop them. I find it easier to vet this way. It’s expected for everyone to be more cautious for longer, but LVM will still show the low effort, or complain about the extra steps, etc.

And if everything fizzles out, at least you got to practice some dating skills while maintaining some standards of being socially distant and aware of your health. That would be beneficial either way after the pandemic is over.

shoesfromparis135 · 2020-10-19T15:18:31+00:00

Dating during a pandemic? I don’t think so. I’m using this time to level up and start my own business. Forget men. Date yourself until it’s safe out there again.

2020-10-18T15:39:58+00:00

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kashlew · 2020-10-21T17:42:38+00:00

I was offered a bike ride recently. Turned it down. Not interested in low effort, pandemic or no. So I’m waiting until it’s over

ThisAintMyOnlyUN · 2020-10-17T18:45:46+00:00

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Title	How do you have standards for dates during Covid? Do we just not date right now?
Author	Hermetic_Dreams
Upvotes	53
Comments	27
Date	October 17, 2020 3:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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