How much to talk about your sexual/romantic past?

djfrankenjuice · 2020-06-07T03:33:57+00:00

When things become physical, most recent STD screening.

Once you get in the practice of not discussing your sexual history you’ll see more and more that your sexual history is in the past and has no bearing on your current relationship. Sharing it only makes others see it as a current reflection of you.

Elegant-Stop · 2020-06-07T05:06:40+00:00

“It’s my nature not to keep secrets”

This was me. I thought this was a good trait. It is not. There is not a man out there who will not use this against you. There are lots of things that are not of his business. Only disclose what you really feel you have to. Perhaps don’t lie but have lines ready to dance around the situation/avoid the conversation.

AppropriateHoney6 · 2020-06-07T01:00:46+00:00

Personally, I try not to. I don’t think that is any of the guy’s business and it often gives him the chance to make assumptions based on your partner-count.

If it comes up in the discussion, I’m pretty vague. Like “I dated in the past”. And if they ask about my last breakup: “we didn’t want the same things so we separated”. Similarity , I don’t ask him any details about who he dated and how many partners he’s had. I’m not interested in hearing. All that matters is how he acts right now.

2340000 · 2020-06-07T04:15:36+00:00

Find someone who has your same values. You want to talk about sexual history. A man who doesn't mind that you've been with a woman, would be best.

I understand a lot of women don't want to bring up sexual history because of the stigma, but sexuality conversations are crucial. That is your past. It's a part of your identity. It's a hard discussion to have, but do it anyway. Let the LVM dig their own grave. You're better off without them.

gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-06-07T05:58:07+00:00

Nope. Nothing about your sexual history is any of his business. When they ask, you should ask why they want to know bc there is no good reason.

manalitta88 · 2020-06-07T09:33:09+00:00

Never talk about sexual past to anyone...and talk about romantic past only to give a high level idea if you have to

kwalden2 · 2020-06-07T14:49:00+00:00

If asked, you can respond with explaining that sexual history is a topic best not shared in too much detail.

Most recent relationship is different. I personally would ask just to see how seriously he has been dating dating lately. Basically you can weed out men who are on the rebound, or men who haven't had a more long-lasting relationship in the last however many years. Weed out the men who say their last relationship ended because she ate popcorn wrong or something. I feel like this opens FDS-style daters for answering the same questions and possibly being weeded out themselves. Being 'weeded out' saves you time because that relationship would never have worked out in the first place. Obviously, if he keeps dating you but uses things against you, always be prepared to walk away. If you aren't strong enough for that, then you just aren't ready to date seriously.

mythicalnebula · 2020-06-08T17:18:12+00:00

the only “mistake” i see that will affect u is him knowing you have been with a girl. if he is a LVM he might ask u for a three some or a poly relationship.

Title	How much to talk about your sexual/romantic past?
Author	m00n5t0n3
Upvotes	17
Comments	23
Date	June 6, 2020 11:41 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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