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[–]FluffandRaincloudsRuthless Strategist198 points199 points200 points 5 years ago (13 children) | Copy Link
Tired of men who fawn all over women who aren't their gf but treat the gf like she is an ignored piece of furniture...
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie96 points97 points98 points 5 years ago* (12 children) | Copy Link
Me too. Im absolutely sick of it. Im here. Im literally bleeding out of my vagina (and sometimes other places) trying to make your worthless ass happy, only to be refused lube and foreplay and compared to, or hear another womans name in bed. Im here. Im bleeding because you couldnt care less about me or even enough to get past your ego and rectify the situation with lube. No not lotion. This lube i bought my dr told me to use because she took one look at my lady parts and could see what im letting you do to me. Oh youd rather use it to masturbate and keep hurting me? Okay.
What. About. Me. Oh no no. The THOUGHT of jennifer garner or that stripper has more value than my safety, wellbeing, or comfort. Im a human being damn it.
[–]FluffandRaincloudsRuthless Strategist41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
I am so sorry you dealt with that 😞 Treatment like that toward a woman is grounds for an immediate dump. Men who physically hurt you (often due to purposeful ignorance) literally reduce your quality of life and it's not worth it.
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie42 points43 points44 points 5 years ago* (6 children) | Copy Link
This has happened with multiple guys. And even different drs. One came 3-5 times a day with me and still made me feel like im not doing good enough when im literally bleeding out of every orifice, and they cant follow drs orders. Until now, i let them. Im in the habit of not showing my pain during sex. It didnt matter when i did.
This sub has shown me im not alone, and i deserve so much better. Im so glad to have found a community of strong independent women that focuses on empowering ourselves. This place is changing my life.
Edit: and they call me crazy for crying alot and aggressive for speaking in a stern calm voice saying how i deserve to be treated better.
[–]FluffandRaincloudsRuthless Strategist29 points30 points31 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You do deserve so much better. Those men sound disgusting, pornsick, entitled, and plain wrong for how they treated you. No man is worth violating a doctor's orders, and no man should be injuring you (let alone to warrant a doctor) period!
As for how they treated your emotions (over what they did!), sickening. Shallon Lester says people who argue about boundaries are the ones who would benefit from you having no boundaries. I strongly recommend you check out LoveisRespect and TheHotline.org for resources if you want them ❤.
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I will thank you 😊
[–]PartypuppersFDS Apprentice19 points20 points21 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh hunny, you are worth so much more, you deserve more. Sex should never be painful and you should not feel pressured to have sex when it doesn't feel pleasurable for you. I'm so sorry you went through that. You may benefit from a) dumping the NVM men in your life (not all men are like that, I've been with men who really want to give me pleasure and stop immediately if I'm in pain), b) going to psychosexual counseling to deal with the trauma 😞 and c) staying out of relationships until you can practice vetting your men better and being able to assert your boundaries so that you can say 'no', but are also with partners who respect that 'no'.
You are a dignified and strong and you will get through this. You're already on the sub and we ALL have your back. You are not crazy, you know exactly what is going on and you deserve respect.
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im seeing a new therapist soon and will definitely talk to her about this stuff, thanks. Im getting better at vetting thanks to this sub, and when they dont get what they want for the price of a piece of gum, its helping me see who they really are before i get too attached.
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist10 points11 points12 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’m so sorry you went through all of this. It sounds horrific, and you’re right you’re not alone. You are worth so much more and I’m so proud of you for realising that. Them telling you you’re aggressive because you stand up for yourself, even if you did yell (which I know you said you were calm, but it would be understandable for you to tell), it doesn’t make you aggressive. Because you’re hurt! And them saying that to you is gaslighting.
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you
[–]NotUrmillenialFDS Newbie16 points17 points18 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I’ve heard from men they literally don’t like it as much when we’re wet/ properly lubricated... “it’s not enough friction” uhh because they’re pornsick jerking off with a dry calloused hand for years! SO disturbing! This means they physically enjoy hurting us, and enthusiastic participation not as much.
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie8 points9 points10 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Ya know what? Let me put some sandpaper up there. Give em a little taste of their own medicine. That enough friction??? Selfish losers wouldnt last a second. Lets see them condition themselves to feel pain as an indicator of their worth and get satisfaction that their suffering is at least pleasing their partner. Wait. Theyre too selfish for that. Almost forgot they dont give a crap about their partner.
[–]NotUrmillenialFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol or I could ask my gyno not to trim the IUD string so he can just get stabbed in the...
[–]ImaginsanionFDS Newbie3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Mines pretty short. But they still can feel it lol
[–]lucetto1764 points65 points66 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like any energy spent on frothing others outside the relationship decreases the intimacy inside the relationship, yes.
[–]weird_wavingFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
💯
[–][deleted] 91 points92 points93 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How hard is it to keep the fact that you find other people attractive to yourself?
[–]Horror_Maize_6546FDS Newbie41 points42 points43 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This always confused me. I too can consider other men attractive yet I don't remember ever stating it openly in front of my boyfriends. What would be the point?
[–]Unlikely-MarzipanRuthless Strategist27 points28 points29 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly. You get absolutely nothing out of it when you say that shit to your partner. I’ve always hated it and always stood up for myself in this regard. I cannot stand when girls pretend like it’s cool when their boyfriends are fawning over some other girls at a party or while out to dinner. You can see on their gfs faces that they hate it and it makes them feel shit.
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie23 points24 points25 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is a great edit hahaha
[–]leadmemoriesFDS Newbie13 points14 points15 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
🤝 amazing, i love it ☺️
[–]iaintgonnacallyouFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
And the fact that libfems will call you an insecure pickme for not wanting to hear about how fat some chicks ass was at the corner store. They love mixing disrespect with bAsIC hUmAn BeHaViOr, “your partner is allowed to find other people attractive, that’s why I let my boyfriend degrade me and cheat right in my face, because I’m such a cool girl.”
[–]ComprehensiveAmoeba9FDS Apprentice7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I dated a guy who told me that the last girl he dated was a solid 8/9 and she was fit and skinny. He bragged about how he has dated “up” when it comes to looks. Apparently personality didn’t matter to that scrote, in fact he actually got annoyed by them at some point. I was naive and stayed with him. Now I look back and cringe at the fact that I had little self respect back then. Smdh
[–]Acbc0077FDS Newbie1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
😍
[–]theclairepersonFDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Could count the compliments I received from my boyfriend on one hand, stating i looked 'fine' when spending hours on hair and makeup and an outfit. He says he is bad at complimenting. Yet commented on other girls instagrams (not celebrities or unobtainable people) with "Damnnnn" etc.
[–]x3meteorFDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i’m hoping you left him babe!!!! :/ fuck that
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Byyyyye!
[+]VictoriaSobockiFDS Newbie-9 points-8 points-7 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Disagree, I think people can find other people objectively attractive without demeaning their significant other
[–]yourealibraFDS Newbie21 points22 points23 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sure, but there’s a world of difference between acknowledging someone’s attractiveness vs. sleazily telling your girlfriend “yeah this other girl is hot.”
[–]MakeURegretFDS Newbie5 points6 points7 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’d agree with your statement. But it’s one thing if you’re talking about actresses (ppl he will never meet) and he says “I think blake lively is hot” (okay to me) vs you’re out and about and he says “that girl is hot.” (not okay to me)
I think it’s okay to think it, but to actually say it out loud crosses the line into disrespect.
Not all of our thoughts need to be voiced!
[–]forevergirlfriend6FDS Newbie0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Of course they can. But why do men always feel the need to share it? Not once have I looked at some hot guy and felt obligated to tell anyone, let alone my boyfriend. People can be attractive, no need to share it every time.
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