Is it ever appropriate to initiate a date?

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-02-05T21:47:16+00:00

Don't let all your free time get subsumed by dating him. Use those free evenings to meet up with friends or practice a hobby. Two months is still very early days.

dackaroo · 2020-02-05T23:22:13+00:00

I don't think you should. If you have free time during the week, use it to bond with your friends or date other guys.

Diamondsareagirlsbff · 2020-02-05T22:07:53+00:00

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RiteWriter · 2020-02-05T21:39:40+00:00

I saw another post that little gestures are ok once you feel secure but I am definitely learning!!! I don’t know about at the two month mark but maybe a small thoughtful gesture would be ok, still with him being the man you know lol. I’m sure the other ladies will have ideas. I’ve wondered about this, too, some.

purasangria · 2020-02-06T04:01:17+00:00

I have a museum membership, so Ive invited men to an exhibit if I'm going and don't have anyone else to go with. "Hey, I'm going to the Sculpture museum opening tonight, would you like to come along/meet me there?" Very casual like.

But this is after like 5 or 6 dates. And the membership means that it's already paid for, it's not like I'm paying for him, I already have admission for two in the membership.

illusion_believe · 2020-02-06T12:55:19+00:00

I agree with others but it’s also nice that he sees that you are still a mystery . If he knows that during the week you are busy with work/school, he never fears losing you.

I think here you will create more mystery/make him thinks “hmm what is she doing” by asking him out during that special day when you are off but then decline his invitation for this weekend. Say you are busy this time but don’t tell him what you’re doing

bbunny220 · 2020-02-05T21:44:17+00:00

Don’t plan anything, just let him know that your schedule opened up and you’re unexpectedly available. You can even add that you’d “like to see him” so he can feel wanted but leave it up to him to invite you out.

Lyynwyyn · 2020-02-06T04:29:21+00:00

A good question! I needed to know this too.

I was thinking maybe say something was canceled. Not that you are free but that what you are usually busy with is gone.

But the responses that mention reflecting on why you want to increase your time with him are really on point. And about still having your own interests and activities. I’m going to be thinking about those comments.

Title	Is it ever appropriate to initiate a date?
Author	salsa_de_tomate
Upvotes	15
Comments	17
Date	February 5, 2020 9:00 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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