Monogamy bad because patriarchy

olivetree08 · 2020-02-20T00:31:49+00:00

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CoolMelonade · 2020-02-20T00:27:25+00:00

More LibFem lies.

SarcasmSlide · 2020-02-20T00:41:19+00:00

A question a feminist must always ask herself and others:

Who does this belief and/or practice benefit?

Blackishcat27 · 2020-02-20T00:23:40+00:00

Ugh. This is a bald faced lie brought sincerely to you by the patriarchy.

CeriseNoire · 2020-02-20T01:40:15+00:00

Monogamy not being found in the wild is a lie. This person is lying. Also, irrelevant either way because I am not in the fucking wild. If my partner needs someone else to be happy then he isn't my partner, is he? Words have meaning. Polyamorous people are always so goddamn weird and dysfunctional. I truly can't with this damaged people bullshit.

olivetree08 · 2020-02-20T00:42:19+00:00

I just really don’t want that much dick in my life. One will do.

I genuinely love monogamy. Not because I’m afraid of competition. I can still have all the depth and trust and freedom sleeping with one person I am committed to.

And the roles of intimacy can also be fulfilled by rich friendships and family.

I find freedom in monogamy. I’m naturally adventurous, a risk taker, value fun and creativity, exploration and curiosity. Being monogamous doesn’t make me square.

I hope I can find a man who believes the same. Are men like this rare? Can I find one?

AyemHerself · 2020-02-20T02:45:59+00:00

LOL poly people are the most competitive people I've ever met. When they're not looking for more partners to make the biggest "polycule," they're competing with each other for the top spot in their metamour's hierarchy.

Ironically they also put in the minimal effort into their relationships - after all, why focus on how to better care for your partner when you can just say "I'll take care of your sexual needs and you can find someone else to deal with your emotional needs."?

134340-92494 · 2020-02-20T00:24:12+00:00

Ew. Just ew.

Iprotestthetest · 2020-02-20T01:31:54+00:00

You guys help make me feel sane after reading shit like this

ReignRain95 · 2020-02-20T01:47:44+00:00

the amount of gaslighting and manipulation would be funny if it wasnt so common

ghygdryhchmmmmjj · 2020-02-20T04:41:52+00:00

My biggest beef with this kind of thing is that they make it sound like the only meaningful form of love is from sexual relationships. Wtf. No. 9.9 out of 10 times that is not the purest form of love because its self serving. You know what true love is? The family pet yout dad secretly cuddles with even though he said he didn't want a pet. It's a new grandma spending all her free time doting on a granddaughter with tea parties and trips to the museum. It's two platonic friends crying in each other's arms at a music festival because they love each other so much. bonds are altruistic not transactional.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-20T04:55:36+00:00

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2020-02-20T06:48:31+00:00

I literally only have energy for first myself (work, health, exercise, diet, hygiene, sleep, hobbies, my pets, emotions, etc) and (maybe) one other. Time wise I literally don’t know how people have time to have multiple relationships. Just having one relationship is exhausting for me. I end up sacrificing my own needs to make time for them or to make them happy.

I can only see multiple relationships happening because people do not fully invest/commit to that person. People don’t really have a relationship but more of multiple FLINGS. They only USE that person for that specific need. They don’t have true love and respect for this person. For instance...sex. Ive known/heard of many people who have open relationships because their partner was unable to sexually satisfy them fully. They wanted it rougher or longer. So they stay with their partner for emotional support and stay with the other for sexual desires. But never does that person give you their FULL love and respect. They just use you.

I find it disrespectful to use a person for your own personal gain and not to treat them with the respect of an actual being. As in trying to help them grow as an individual and making them happy and having them fully trust you (which is emotionally consuming and time consuming). Seriously what happens if you fall ill of cancer or got in a car accident and became paralyzed and unable to put in the effort for the other? The person who used you will ditch you because you are no longer of use to them and will find it in another person. They never saw you or appreciated you for your soul but just as personal gain for themselves. But true love and full commitment will stick by you because they don’t mind not having that “need”. They just want to see you get better or to be happy because they love you.

Just because my significant other doesn’t full-fill ALL of my needs does not mean I should be looking for another person to full fill that particular need(s). I literally just drop it or fix the problem myself (unless it is impacting my health, than i know that person is not good for me). Why? Maybe its because I’m happy being alone or have learned how to make myself happy/content. I would hate having to DEPEND on a man or woman even worse multiple men or women to control my happiness or validate my importance.

2020-02-20T09:01:25+00:00

Sexual monogamy helps prevent the spread of STDs but whatever sis, have fun with your herpes and antibiotic resistant chlamydia I guess.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-21T02:00:37+00:00

Typical LVM manipulation. "you want me to not fuck other women??? That's so toxic and insecure!"

Title	Monogamy bad because patriarchy
Author	Iprotestthetest
Upvotes	30
Comments	28
Date	February 20, 2020 12:20 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/f6k9f2/monogamy_bad_because_patriarchy/
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