My heart hurts.

radsera99 · 2021-05-19T15:32:23+00:00

Those parents really don’t care for their daughter. Everyone fails women.

termagant_ · 2021-05-19T15:26:39+00:00

Don’t listen to your parents. Call a domestic abuse hotline and get out now.

AcademicMobile1 · 2021-05-19T15:47:17+00:00

RUN. RUN AND DO NOT LOOK BACK.

Only 2 months of marriage? You could probably still get that anulled.

Zurflu · 2021-05-19T16:17:37+00:00

Ew. Scrotes hitting themselves is one of the most disturbing and revolting things to see. It's like the ultimate biological red flag. I hope she can get the fuck out of there.

MbwaMvua · 2021-05-19T15:27:10+00:00

These fucking parents wtf

This is a fear I have during the vetting process and the common belief of engagement in a year. My ex really showed red flags about 8 months in, in a relationship that ultimately went on too long. But by the first 14 months we agreed to marry he was still good (then pandemic and we were stranded in separate countries). The red flags were for instance he called me an idiot during a fight, or would hang up (long distance). And it really was infrequent enough for me to rationalize it and talk it out and things were actually okay. He was still my dream guy. But then, living together after pandemic everything bad was up to a million - the name calling, the yelling, the ignoring, emotional abuse. I never had this just dating. Only when he “had” me.

It’s hard because I have friends who had rude fights with their bfs and are married a few years and they legitimately both grew out If it. I legit know relationships that stabilized for the better and with all the good things in mine, I thought we would too.

This is my biggest fear, the bait and switch.

To this day I don’t know if my ex behaved that way because he thought he had me and I wouldn’t leave, or he wanted to get rid of me and was too chickenshit to break it off decently and instead chased me out with emotional abuse.

It still bothers me and takes up a lot of my mental energy to wonder about this, and wonder what actually freaking went wrong :(

coldfoot23 · 2021-05-19T16:14:48+00:00

Is there anyway to reach out to her?

Throwawayrightaway28 · 2021-05-19T16:41:58+00:00

Well her parents are trash, but with some effort, I googled this and thank God for those comments! They’re all telling her to leave. But I was still disgusted by the amount of men and possibly women who were saying the husband might be “sick “and she should definitely get away from him for her safety, but just because he was screaming at her, threatening violence, and trying to coerce her into sex against her will doesn’t make him a “bad guy”. I don’t get it. Men have literally been family annihilators and killed their whole family, including the children, with their bare hands and people say oh he was a good guy. Those words mean nothing. Apparently men are good by virtue of being born with a penis.

AlextheAnalyst · 2021-05-19T15:56:45+00:00

That was a terrifying read. Has anyone sent her a message?

spinaflora · 2021-05-19T17:42:06+00:00

This is why we need a mass cultural shift in how we raise women, and how we value women in culture. This shit is epidemic and insidious.

Title	My heart hurts.
Author	berrylikeova
Upvotes	80
Comments	27
Date	May 19, 2021 3:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/FemaleDatingStrategy/comments/ng8m0w/my_heart_hurts/
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