Need advice…also learn from my mistake!

ububTkuc · 2022-01-28T17:38:42+00:00

As a woman who is currently being stalked by a man I dated in my picked, no self worth days (25 years ago in the late 1990s to boot!), you need to be blind and cutting. "I WANT NO FURTHER CONTACT WITH YOU" (followed by block & delete) is the ONLY thing you should say to him. If you try to be the nice girl, he will act like he does not understand and stomp all over your boundaries.

Buggy1218 · 2022-01-28T18:08:51+00:00

Be a bitch. Ladies are so afraid of coming off as a bitch. You’re not obligated to be agreeable if he’s making you uncomfortable. He practically stalked you and now won’t take a hint.

You’re going to have to lay down the law. “I’m not interested, don’t contact me again.”

spinsterchachkies · 2022-01-28T18:42:27+00:00

Just be a bitch. Men don’t respect women that are nice I’m afraid. If you are too nice to them, you get walked all over, stalked, harassed, murdered or raped, passed over for promotions, nice girls get shit on in life hun. You have to learn to be ruthless. You need to build a hard exterior around you like a shell to protect you. You save your kindness for those that deserve it. And people you trust. If he is bothering you tell him to get fucked then block and delete his ass from existence

ready2leav · 2022-01-28T18:29:48+00:00

Unfortunately these scrotes are psychos. Say you gotta man and then block and delete. Anything else they will keep pursuing or even get angry at you. (Because of har har bro code, you not wanting him = keep trying or get mad; you having a man = he might respect that guys “property”, sad but this is how they think and even then, that won’t always work)

MajesticSkyPachyderm · 2022-01-28T20:06:53+00:00

Be a bitch. You're not interested so you don't need to dilly-dally. Block and delete him.

saint-jezebel · 2022-01-28T22:24:37+00:00

Instead of feeling like you’re being a bitch think about this: he probably knows/knew/heard about where you’re at now and is trying to capitalize off of that. You bought a home and he still lives with his parents (likely by choice). You don’t owe him kindness when he’s trying to work you from your past while also leeching off your present and future.

Platipus6 · 2022-01-29T00:33:21+00:00

Tell him. "You're not what I'm looking for, goodbye". And when he contacts you again, he's proven he's a man who violates your boundaries, if that's the "proof" you need to block his ass.

all_or_nothing_bet · 2022-01-28T19:37:20+00:00

If you aren't ready to block and delete him for any reason, here is the strategy that worked for me multiple times: put him on mute and ignore his messages. You can send a one-word reply here and there or just leave him on read. If he throws a fit, tell him you are VERY busy. You are a different person now, remember? If he asks to meet you, say exactly this: "I'd love to, but I'm not going to have time for this" and do not offer any more explanations or excuses. He'll get a hint and will fall off soon enough, apologizing on his way out for bothering you.

katiekat0214 · 2022-01-29T15:39:23+00:00

Anytime you can't shake a man after you've used your words and expressed lack of interest, means he has zero respect for your boundaries and will try to bulldoze you. That's the behavior of a spoiled brat, not a respectful, mature man. Scrotes, die mad. I'm right.

Title	Need advice…also learn from my mistake!
Author	SimplySharon1215
Upvotes	120
Comments	13
Date	January 28, 2022 5:33 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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