She stuck around to fix him so he wouldn't become a statistic. Then, she became a statistic herself

mariacolada · 2021-10-04T21:30:55+00:00

Notice the nice guys who were applauding her for staying despite all the red flags. Where are they now? If leaving means being a POS, then call me a b***h because my bags would have been packed!

WorkaholicParty · 2021-10-04T21:56:25+00:00

I'm glad I'm what a Reddit man considers a complete piece of shit and not the kind of woman we need more of 👍 Never been a ride or die therapist mommy and never will be.

Do not ask men for advice about your red flag ridden relationship, or ever even. These scrotes encouraging her to stay with him are disgusting and partly hold responsibility.

Hope she sees this and checks the resources and books about abusive men.

Ok_Occasion_5057 · 2021-10-04T21:55:05+00:00

Of course compared to other men, he seems not to be worse off as he started from a very low point.

One thing I learnt from relationship is that being a care taker or dedicating your life to someone doesn't mean they are going to love you back. In this case she will be another person that do anything above and beyond but still no golden pot at the end.

Sad story of many good women that wasting their life with bad people.

coldfoot23 · 2021-10-04T22:10:43+00:00

Ofc he blamed everyone in his life except himself and his father

creamtart_ · 2021-10-04T22:01:44+00:00

The red flags are always there. Never ignore them ladies! I understand it’s hard if you care about someone, but you need to prioritise your own safety first.

If someone has issues this deep, they don’t need a relationship. They need to work on themselves as they will 100% project it all onto the relationship. It is naive to think their issues won’t affect you.

This is why FDS advocates for levelling up and being our best selves before even considering a relationship, because then we have the wisdom to be able to leave when we see red flags like this!

2021-10-04T22:14:26+00:00

I seriously feel for her... and for women who think they need to forgive a man's past, never look past a man telling you that "you deserve better".

If he says that, he is giving you a big massive warning that he knows he will hurt you. That's your heads up to leave or at least be on high alert. In his mind, you're asking for whatever heartache or abuse he brings your way because you stuck around after he warned you when you had the option to go.

preppykat3 · 2021-10-04T22:17:42+00:00

Ugh look at them praising her for being someone’s doormat. Unbelievable. That guy clearly doesn’t even love her.

xfelugirlx · 2021-10-04T22:34:55+00:00

I’m sick of men that say omg such a good girl just because they stick with their shitty behaviour and past, this could be me (in the past) because of savior complex, i stayed with a man with daddy issues, confidence, weight, no social skills so wathever, they will never give you the same effort that you give NEVER. If you reveal and told their truth probably they will dump you or be violent. Look after yourself you need help more than anyone, not them. And no, we don’t need more women like these that are gaslighted to stick with fucking narc, psychos, They’ve been murdered since always and we see it all the time. we need to educate them about these men.

Platipus6 · 2021-10-04T23:26:55+00:00

If you find yourself writing the biography of a dude about his trauma origin backstory sobstory, just stop.

Write your own wants, needs, standards and expectations, and if he currently isn't it, move on.

So many women think they aren't being abused. They think they're helping a troubled man.

Geocities_SEO_Expert · 2021-10-04T23:50:23+00:00

Never believe the oppressed, dark horse mythology a man has invented for himself! The proof is in the pudding, he can't even hold down a minimum wage job. Odds are that this guy's life wasn't particularly harder than many people had, he just started making incredibly selfish, sociopathic, stupid choices as soon as his balls dropped.

I feel angry for every woman who gets sucked into these scrote's downtrodden hero lies. Don't listen to any boyfriend who guilt trips you about your "unearned benefits", life on easy mode, privilege, etc... Most women have worked hard from girlhood, especially the ones with shitty lives. We shouldn't accept that women can do this, but men just can't.

Title	She stuck around to fix him so he wouldn't become a statistic. Then, she became a statistic herself
Author	mariacolada
Upvotes	109
Comments	16
Date	October 4, 2021 9:27 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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