Should I return his things

KnowledgeOk5995 · 2021-03-26T17:38:03+00:00

Don’t do this . All you’re doing is keeping hope that he’ll have a reason to come crawling back to you. He probably will, bc men are notorious for breaking up just to come begging later on to see if he still has control over you/boost their ego. When he comes back don’t let him back in either. Block him on everything , including his phone #. Don’t worry about his stuff and what he’s doing because he certainly wouldn’t be concerned about your stuff or what you’re up to. Stop being nice and caring. All of that should’ve ended the moment he broke up with you.

Bbqchilifries · 2021-03-26T17:30:14+00:00

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dembar126 · 2021-03-26T17:48:14+00:00

No. It's tempting to want to find reasons to reach out, like going to his house to return his shit hoping he'll talk to you, tell you he misses you etc. But you're only sacrificing your own dignity and showing him he has power over you. Don't contact him and throw the shit away.

Alarming-Midnight-73 · 2021-03-26T18:04:12+00:00

Absolutely not.

Ghosting after a 7 month relationship is incredibly cowardly. And no matter how kind he may have been during the relationship, this cowardly hurtful behavior negates all that.

My ex (who broke up the relationship horribly) asked me to ship his things back to him 3 months after the breakup (we were LDR) as a "courtesy" because he shipped my things back to me. I told him I would never do that. You don't have to be kind to people who treat you like sh*t.

Bbqchilifries · 2021-03-26T17:28:40+00:00

Nope. Forget about him. Block the f*** out of him don't even let him have any contact. He can't respectfully respond to you then you cut any sort of potential for communication.

If those things are important, he'll find a way to reach out to get them, through a friend or something. And if he does find a way it better be on your time and not inconvenience you. You are better than that.

Don't waste your breath or time girl. It's not your responsibility to get his stuff to him.

Yellowsunflowerlover · 2021-03-26T17:52:15+00:00

You can either throw it away or box it up and leave it outside your door for him to pick up and send a message stating what you have done. He wants to ghost you..he can pick up his trash or be okay with it disappearing.

logickilledthecat · 2021-03-26T18:16:37+00:00

If a man treats you like a toy be Annabelle.

Agreeing with everybody. Sis, some tough love real talk here:

He didn't decide to call it quits "out of nowhere", and suddenly after "one fight". The faster you realize this the better. He had made up his mind LONG time before he dumped you, probably around the 3-month-mark when the first excitements of new and variety tapered off for him. It's called honeymoon and hormone phase for a reason.

Yep. He got himself too excited over pussy, and then told you what you wanted to hear/stretched it out with you until month 6 when he already was looking for the next supply, instead of transparently communicate his changed feelings for you. He took the cowards way out and to reinforce this he ghosted. lol.. what a winner. You just dodged a massive bullet there, like you have no idea.

Cowards suck. And most men are cowards with their emotions. Your story happens thousands of times every minute. Genuinely sorry it happened to you.

But now stop being so god damn nice. Up your standards drastically. He discards you like a piece of trash, monkeybranched AND ghosted you, and you are even thinking about BRINGING THEM TO HIS DOORSTEP ?

The motherfucker should have known about his vaccine card before he declared emotional bankrupcy to you.

Throw away, ghost back, 0 moral issues. Block and delete if you want to, I personally have a left on read forever section where guys like this float to. He will come back to you in a coupla months latest, to dump the bad conscience on you he created for himself. What a massive mistake he made. How much he still loves you. And see whether that pussy is still available, of course. It's called pinging.

Again, the sooner you learn all this the better. You're saving yourself the heartache, potentially for years to come.

glittersparklesglitz · 2021-03-26T18:12:30+00:00

If he doesn’t care about his stuff, why should you?

pretty_kill · 2021-03-26T18:15:32+00:00

If he wanted it, he would have mentioned picking it up during the breakup. I say trash it and block him.

GIfuckingJane · 2021-03-26T18:29:22+00:00

No, throw it all away

Fatt3stAveng3r · 2021-03-26T17:51:48+00:00

The most I would do is leave the vaccine card at his doorstep - that's the only thing that might matter, but he should have thought about that beforehand.

Don't try to contact him. Block him on everything.

dembar126 · 2021-03-26T17:31:20+00:00

Hmm, unless he was an LVM, I would hold onto it for maybe a week or two to see if he reaches out to pick it up (contactless pickup like you would a restaurant lmao), but if after that he has no interest in his things then just toss them. Don't deliver it to him and don't contact him. Ghosting an ex isn't really that unusual and I would probably do the same, so I don't think that automatically qualifies as inappropriate behavior on his part. But ultimately, don't reach out and don't drop it off. If he cares that much about his stuff, he will take initiative.

EDIT: Did he ghost her? If he did, then he sucks, but if he just broke up with her and moved on, then it doesn't automatically mean that he's trash.

The_Pyramidion · 2021-03-26T18:10:51+00:00

Do check the laws wherever you live before you do anything. In my country it's actually illegal to throw away stuff someone left at your house and you'd have to undergo a stupidly bureaucratic process to get rid of it (ask me how I know..). And the last thing anybody needs is a scrote trying to sue you for breaking their toys.

So depending on that I'd throw them into his driveway or the local dump.

Title	Should I return his things
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Date	March 26, 2021 5:25 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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