So sad...

Recommend_me_movies · 2020-06-04T12:45:03+00:00

Whoever wrote it seems to have their heart in the right place. My gf (i'm gay, not a lurker, dont worry) also wants me to call her names during sex or to even hit her. I cant do that shit, how could i do it to someone I love? I donno why anyone would be into that, my best bet is porn...

Edit. Not that anyone cares but I was just dumped. Over text. I'll just head on out to the circus

2020-06-04T14:26:38+00:00

Wish I had some gold to give.

morguerunner · 2020-06-04T17:17:38+00:00

This isn’t cute or wholesome, it’s the only sane reaction to being asked to abuse your partner. Really sad and terrifying that this is unusual to see from men these days :/

SuperbHalf · 2020-06-04T16:54:23+00:00

S/He should send that letter. I think she needs to hear this.

I write and read smut. I'm noticing this dirty talk a lot in these fictional stories and it turns me right off. I don't know if people are seriously turned on by it or what, but it is too derogatory for me.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-06-04T14:40:06+00:00

This is how healthy men SHOULD react to this BDSM bullshit. My husband would be absolutely aghast if I wanted him to abuse me in any way. He doesn’t even like if I’m having a bad day and talk bad about myself; he counters any negative self-talk with support and love.

ello-motto · 2020-06-04T13:48:15+00:00

We were raised to think dirty talk, "spicing up the bedroom" and being kinky meant desiring to being called a bitch, slut, whore during sex.

Seriously, fuck the multi-billion dollar porn industry ran by LVM for grooming and brainwashing young girls minds like this.

penhasink · 2020-06-04T16:42:16+00:00

Please direct all women like this to our sub. We all start somewhere.

Newwavesupport3657 · 2020-06-04T20:48:07+00:00

Traumatized women trying to act out their trauma in a scenario where they feel in control.

I blame our mental health system too that often doesn't want to deal with trauma; they want to pill and label you. (Leaving my own insurance because of this.) often times, therapists will label and pill you and only want to discuss said label. Not the trauma when the label is a symptom of said trauma. So many women go into relationships to act out their traumas. You need to heal your sexual and emotional traumas before getting into relationships.

blackredrosepetals · 2020-06-04T12:34:42+00:00

that’s actually pretty cute. i would die before i let a man call me that in the bedroom lmao

girludontbringhome · 2020-06-04T16:30:18+00:00

This guy seems like a good one. I hope his gf finds this sub and understands why wanting to be called a slut/whore is degrading, and why being degraded is not sexy. I believe women can be pornsick too unfortunately.

cherthemusical · 2020-06-04T15:11:51+00:00

If you're actually opposed to it you wouldn't do it. I don't care if it's misogynistic slurs, choking, slapping, rascism etc. are still abuse even if someone asks you to do it, even if it's your "kink". If my bf asked me to call him daddy I'd say hell no.

Adawritesrules · 2020-06-04T19:14:51+00:00

Meh, I don’t think his reaction to this is a sign that he’s a good guy necessarily. There are men who will not be ok with this stuff but yet on the side they are watching child porn and/or paying prostitutes.

SuchBarracuda · 2020-06-06T02:17:53+00:00

While I dont understand the enjoyment some ladies get at being degraded verbally during sex... hair pulled or being choked.. I warn all dudes/ladies who even say it as a stupid joke... If you're brave(stupid) enough to try it.. Don't get mad when my fight or flight kicks in and you end up getting stabbed, or at the very least hit very very hard. I take my personal safety fairly serious

Leoza0 · 2020-06-04T12:40:23+00:00

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april-then-may · 2020-06-04T17:54:36+00:00

She should send this letter. It’s obvious that there is miscommunication about what she likes in the bedroom and what she doesn’t like. Telling her boyfriend could make him stop and respect her body.

Title	So sad...
Author	_Crazy_Luck_
Upvotes	792
Comments	49
Date	June 4, 2020 11:52 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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