I did it! I found an apartment in a great neighborhood, excellent school district and I’ll be able to afford everything all on my own. I signed the lease and planned to move in this weekend.

He was fighting with his girlfriend- she wants more.🤡 And when he snuck in while I was sleeping to take my car to go party with his friends, he found the lease I had stupidly forgotten in there. He’s normally gone all weekend and only comes home before work to leaves messes everywhere and right after work to shower and change before going to her place. I’ve been grey rocking pretty well and thought I was way off his radar.

But now he knows I’m leaving he’s up my ass, pretending to give a shit. I’m scared he’ll hoover me back. I also lost my shit yesterday because things were going wrong around the house, he keeps lying and gaslighting, and I’m pissed I have to move when he’s the one who’s gone all the time.

Also, he slept in the bed last night for the first time in ages. I’d be lying if I said didn’t feel nostalgic for how we used to be. I’ve been reading about narcissists and how broken and in pain they are. It’s difficult for me to restrain my empathy. But I know he can’t change and how much worse for me it will be if I back down.

I need to regroup and figure out how I can get out safely. We also have a child, so I will have to deal with him in the future.

Advice?