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MrsSmartyPants · 2020-08-16T23:12:20+00:00

Since you’ve already blocked him, Make sure to delete his contact info AND your text thread.

Remove the temptation to contact him.

paperbagskirt · 2020-08-16T23:38:13+00:00

Imagine him trying to text you again (which you know he will) and not getting an answer. He checks his phone for a response. Later he checks it again. And again. After a day goes by he frowns and thinks, “the f, did she block me?”

And you are smiling 😊

hikurangi2019 · 2020-08-16T23:04:48+00:00

Oh dear, I know it’s hard. (Just ended a relationship too) I know exactly how you feel. That shit he pulled after you reached out is fucking gross, I’m so glad you left an asshole like that because it says a lot about him as a person.

eveninghope · 2020-08-16T23:39:25+00:00

Yeah, it's hard to move on when there's this empty space. Think of the things that trigger you wanting to reach out/think about him. Try filling that space with another stimulus that excites you, maybe a project or a book you really like. Good luck.

electroloop · 2020-08-16T23:57:47+00:00

Good for you sis. You did the right thing.

Just remember whenever you’re pining for him, that he saw you as nothing but an object and a warm hole to stick his LVM dick in.

It’s really hard when we have the human decency to give someone basic respect when they lack the ability to do so. Men in FWB situations throw that common courtesy out the window. This is exactly why FWB is beneficial for men, and not women.

strainedcrow · 2020-08-17T02:14:50+00:00

Something I've been thinking about. He could have been any other lvm in this situation and you'd still miss him. At least that's how it goes for me... It's not specifically about HIM, it's about the fact that I got attached in general, which could have been to anyone had the circumstances been right. It's about the role of companionship in your life that you miss, even if that was fleeting fuck buddy intimacy. He is nothing special, the bonding chemicals you feel may tell you otherwise, but let them be what they are. Let your body work him out of your system while you hold onto the fact that you're doing the best/right thing. It almost makes it easier to let them go when they throw shit at you (responding to a nice heartfelt message with a deep throat meme). Like, thanks again for the reminder of who you are and the reasons I don't want you in my life anyway.

glazedhamster · 2020-08-17T00:42:42+00:00

Whenever you feel weak, read the handbook. Instead of giving in, do something indulgent for yourself like a bubble bath or a movie and popcorn in your comfiest jammies, whatever is your jam when you want to treat yourself.

You'll find that the more you focus on leveling up, the less you'll linger in the trash heap where you found this guy.

Good luck and good job, stay strong.

Noemie_Mathilde · 2020-08-17T05:21:36+00:00

"Red pill gamer loser"

Girl, you did the right thing.

Visualise the future things you want (not him) and focus on that. He is a block that would stop those ideal future things from happening.

I guarantee, in 2 years time, you will be crying with gratitude that you left him.

paperbagskirt · 2020-08-17T08:10:49+00:00

When you think about him, think about something bad about him instead. Every single time. Don’t let those good memories creep in. Think of only the bad stuff. If you can’t think of bad stuff, make it up. Picture him having gay sex and actually being gay this whole time. Picture all the hot men in France and how he is actually the ugliest one. And all the other men in France are so hot and why in the world is he so ugly? Picture being married to him and him having ED and never being able to satisfy you but him still somehow cheating on you. It doesn’t matter what you picture. What is important is you make it really negative so that your brain stops automatically going there to enjoy the memory and get the love drugs you have been high on. Your brain has to learn that going down memory hill is only going to make you feel grossed out by him in a clown suit trying to make you shave your whole hair of hair. I don’t know lol. Hope this made you feel better. Say you see a picture of him on social media, when you see it maybe you think he’s hot and remember the time you guys had so much fun. Well turn that OFF. Find something, anything!!! You don’t like about him. Find anything at all. It doesn’t matter as long as you don’t let your brain get any kind of emotional bond from it. We’ve all been there. One day thankfully you are going to look back and actually be disgusted all on your own by this guy. There have been so many I never thought I would get over and I did (before I learned this strategy). This strategy is gold FYI. Give it a week tops if you do this. You just will stop thinking about him. Your brain won’t go there if it’s always negative grossed out thoughts. And FYI you DONT miss him. Your brain misses its fix of feel good chemicals

Fresh-Space-5893 · 2020-08-17T02:15:32+00:00

I've been in a similar situation. Don't be hard on yourself for missing him and still finding yourself thinking about him. Acknowledging your feelings is not weak or stupid- rather, it demonstrates emotional intelligence! I've been there where a guy treated me so disgustingly and basically like a sex toy for months, but I still found myself thinking about him after our situationsjip ended too. REMEMBER that a guy like this who will hook you in KNOWS WHAT HE'S DOING! I'm sure that between the negative aspects like him leaving you on read, that there were also some good experiences that you've had with him, be it good sex, good conversation, whatever-and it's totally natural to be missing that! him being a jerk won't erase any good memories of him from your mind! continue to address how you feel and use this as fuel to armor yourself with what you know you can do moving forward with your future dating life!

p.s. the guy that messed with me, I sent a message telling him how disgusted I was about how he treated me and how I was disgusted with myself for tolerating it, and then after sending this message I blocked him. this was in February and I haven't thought of him once since then! so I fully support your decision to block him!

yomommahouse · 2020-08-17T16:44:45+00:00

That last meme he sent you tells you everything you need to know about him. He hates women and he hates you. He was using you, and I know you know this. But what he sent was him telling you who he really is. A misogynist POS. Believe him

Title	Support
Author	greatflo
Upvotes	60
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Date	August 16, 2020 11:00 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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