I see lots of people mention, “he was testing my boundaries.“ But, if you’ve already told him you don’t like it, he’s NOT testing your boundaries. He’s violating your consent.

Example: you tell him you don’t like tickling, so he tickles you to “show you you might like it.”

That’s more like, “Checking in advance if you’ll report it if he decides to rape you,” not “testing your boundaries.” That’s testing what you’ll do WHEN he violates your consent, like he just did.