This is emotional manipulation and you should never, ever think your SO is necessary to make you feel complete. Any variation of this is bad. Please take it seriously, a man who idealizes you is easy to disappoint as he holds you to unreachable standards, and once disappointed, he is dangerous.

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aurelia_86 · 2021-11-12T14:17:33+00:00

I really agree with this. "You give me a reason to live" is another one I've heard.

Beware of men using you as an emotional bandaid for their untreated mental health issues, low self-esteem or sense of social isolation. Even if you bring them happiness at first, in time you won't be able to stem the bleeding and they may rip you off and discard you in favour of the next coping mechanism.

DameSorciere · 2021-11-12T14:16:18+00:00

Phrases like this are truly insidious. They are guilt tripping: making the woman feel like if she left him, the man's life would fall apart, so she feels obligated to stay. But not only that, those phrases are so heavy and serious that there's an expectation of reciprocity. So he expects the woman to say the same thing back, which means he expects HER entire life to revolve around him. Oh and spoiler alert: he doesn't mean it one goddamn ounce. It's an absolute lie.

Other similar phrases to run from:

You're my soul mate/other half

You complete me

You're the only one I've ever loved/who's ever made me feel this way

I'll love you forever. (You'll love me forever too, right?)

I'll never leave you/we'll always be together/you'll never leave me, right?

That's all I can think of right now, but feel free to add on

Edited for formatting.

AdmiralRando · 2021-11-12T14:49:33+00:00

I’ll just add, “The best part of me is you!”

Radical feminism has seriously hampered my ability to enjoy “love” songs.

xfelugirlx · 2021-11-12T20:00:58+00:00

“You make me better, make my life better and make the university easy. I don’t know why i didn’t put you in my life earlier” all this bullshit to say that they want a second mom and need us to take all responsability in their shitty life’s

Anti_Drama · 2021-11-12T20:13:22+00:00

I don't understand how men are like that. They get obsessed with a woman and act like they can't live without a particular woman but how can that be true when there's always another woman he'll be checking out even on the same day?

BrightIdeaGenerator · 2021-11-12T15:09:21+00:00

SAVAGE. I'm remembering that.

AC7878 · 2021-11-12T21:41:43+00:00

"You're perfect" is another one to be aware of.

joliet_jane_blues · 2021-11-12T16:30:07+00:00

Sometimes they really mean it and they're not lying, though. I've seen it happen to old relatives. My uncle didn't last long after his wife died of cancer. Richard Nixon, evil bastard that he was, died a year after his wife did.

It's probably that 'emotional labor' thing, where a man has outsourced all his emotional matters to his SO and over the years so the guy doesn't know how to do those tasks. If the woman dies/leaves, he can't function.

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