True closure comes from within!

dembar126 · 2021-05-05T22:45:23+00:00

"Closure" is essentially just the hope that the person who hurt you will say or do something that takes away your pain and allows you to move on instantly. This just doesn't happen. The truth is closure comes after grief, and grief takes time.

BusinessTwistofLime · 2021-05-06T02:12:20+00:00

Releasing myself from the need to know "why" they treated me badly stopped me from needing closure. The bad behavior was answer enough: they didn't respect me. Loving myself and valuing my time means that the bad behavior was enough to turn away from them and move on. Closure was just an excuse to extend emotional pain and suffering with the hope that somehow the other person would change their mind and start treating me better (#pickme).

asoww · 2021-05-05T22:27:10+00:00

100% true and yeah that's how I do obtain closure.

Resident-Equipment95 · 2021-05-06T05:10:37+00:00

I’m starting to realize this applies to friendships too. Women don’t get a free pass to disrespect you because you’re “friends” or they’re “joking”. We need to have high standards in all relationships: romantic and platonic.

2021-05-05T22:00:25+00:00

Lol I love it! So often I hear my lady friends talk about how they’re dying for closure, they’ve got to talk to him and get their cLoSuRe!!! Like it’s the most important thing in the world. I’m like, sis, closure doesn’t come from other people!! It can’t!! It comes from yourself! You gotta accept the reality of the situation and set yourself free.

TB56 · 2021-05-05T23:45:35+00:00

The truth has been spoken!

oddcharm · 2021-05-06T05:07:08+00:00

My mindset is always “this relationship evidently wasn’t going to last forever, better if it ends now rather than later”

officialvevo · 2021-05-06T17:24:08+00:00

Yep. When my ex broke up with me after falling out of love with me several months before he actually ended it, I tore myself up thinking about why he did it, why he didn’t love me anymore when I knew he used to. Then one day, I realized that it was just because he wasn’t shit. And from that point on, I never shed another tear over him again.

Title	True closure comes from within!
Author	BlueJeanMistress
Upvotes	1128
Comments	21
Date	May 5, 2021 9:27 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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