I'm only on page 39 so far and wow, I wish I had picked this book up sooner (Why Does He Do That? (WDHDT) by Lundy Bancroft). I catch myself being triggered by such powerful phases and findings including "... a nonabusive man doesn't use his past as an excuse to mistreat you", "A man who was genuinely mistreated in a relationship with a woman would not be using that experience to get away with hurting someone else" and "... an abuser's core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong". I go into such deep thought when I read these "golden nuggets", making me question the dynamics of all my past relationships. I am learning so much but its alot to take in (warning: tears, pain, anger and sadness may result!)
Nevertheless, knowledge is power. I have no idea what golden nuggets still lie ahead, especially considering I'm only in chapter 2 so far 👀 But I'm looking forward facing the truth head on. When we know better, we do better!
Thank you ladies for being the support pillar that we all need ❤️💖
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