I ran across this horror story and wanted to share it in light of the not exactly rare piece of advice I give to "choke her."

First, a summary of the story which basically demonstrates everything possible to do wrong:

“I put my hands on her neck and squeezed,” Eddie Herrera told Houston detectives when he was finally confronted and autopsy results confirmed 17-year-old Jacqueline “Jackie” Gomez had “deep hemorrhaging around her entire neck.”

Herrera and Gomez were glowing with smiles and enjoying the dance and the food—anything but doped up or drunk. “It was a magical night and you could see they were so happy and ecstatic,” the friend said. “They weren’t drunk or even tipsy. I saw them multiple times and I was talking to them on the dance floor and where the food was.”

Yet the fact that they had reserved a room left little to interpretation.

Martinez (mother of perp) allegedly gifted her son 10 hydrocodone pills and five pills to Gomez. She has since been slapped with misdemeanor drug charges that carry two years’ prison time,

Herrera said the sexual asphyxiation was his date’s idea. Herrera told cops that Gomez asked him, “Put your hands around my neck and squeeze.”

Herrera had told cops that his date had mysteriously died in her sleep. According to the charging documents, Herrera also told the police he “couldn’t ejaculate” because of the pills and Gomez rolled over to lie down on one side of the bed.

“We took a Snapchat picture of our faces and talked about our futures in life… I gave her a ring and we went to sleep,” Herrera claimed.

During the second interrogation by detectives, after Gomez had been buried, Herrera admitted he choked Gomez for “14 seconds.”

If you guessed the guy would get 25 years in prison then you guessed right.

Pro tip: "Choke Her" requires you to be extremely careful.

TLDR

DO NOT SQUEEZE THE FRONT OF THE NECK, ESPECIALLY WITH YOUR FINGERS.

DO NOT SQUEEZE HARD ENOUGH TO CAUSE BRUISES. BE AWARE OF YOUR FINGERS AND ESPECIALLY DO NOT CAUSE FINGERPRINT BRUISES ON A WOMAN'S NECK

You cannot squeeze the larynx or voice box with your fingers. You can lightly press against this structure with your webbed thumb- that is with your hands spread and the fingers ON THE SIDE of the neck, NOT on the voice box but even then you should not compress it. That is not sexual but it is extremely dangerous.

When choking a woman during sex, you must be in complete control and it is VERY inadvisable to do this after you have been drinking or taking muscle relaxers or pain killers. In fact it will be your ass- literally- if you fuck up rough sex while you are intoxicated.

Some authority says you should NEVER choke a woman during sex. Of course I disagree. Just because something is not entirely safe is not reason not to do it. I skydive, rock climb, scuba dive. You just have to approach it with the proper respect.

I recommend anybody starting this spend some time researching this topic. It is SEXY if you know what you are doing. It could not be less sexy if you don't.

The choke a bitch foundation technique is to gently and very sexually put your spread thumb on her voice box. Caress her jaw, squeeze her cheeks together, then squeeze THE SIDE of the neck with your fingers, specifically, the carotid artery on the left side under the left ear. You don't need much pressure at all to knock her out so be careful.

This article talks in more detail but imagine grabbing a person behind the neck. You now have control of the spinal cord and can move them around a bit as you cradle the head. That is basically what you are doing but (usually) from the front AND BECAUSE YOU ARE APPROACHING FROM THE FRONT YOU HAVE TO BE VERY CAREFUL ABOUT DAMAGING OR INJURING THE SOFT CARTILAGE AT THE FRONT OF THE NECK. You are "cradling" the soft tissues in the front of her neck, and protecting them, NOT pressing on them so again, don't fuck with the voice box/Larynx or Trachea at the front of the neck. Don't squeeze it, don't dig at it with your fingers. Stay away except for a sensual finger drag across it and the meat of your palm over it.

So now you have her on her back (or against a wall) and your hand is across her neck, lightly holding her down. You are carefully cradling her windpipe at the "web" between your thumb and first finger. The tip of your thumb is on the side of her neck pressing on the carotid artery and your fingers are pressed into the other side of her neck on the outside.

From this position you can EASILY rip out her throat and kill her almost instantly. That is probably what makes it so hot. A sudden savage grip of the voice box and a ripping/twisting movement of about 12 pounds of force are all you need and it is lights out- not right away of course because there would be a minute or two of amazingly horrible rasping, gurgling, and gagging but I don't think they could fix it unless you were in a trauma center with a team of surgeons standing by.

Instead of killing her, I suggest you lightly and sensually trace her larynx (voice box) and trachea (wind pipe). You can lightly press on these structure enough to identify them (crinkly, flexible cartilage, mostly). Let your fingers explore the muscles under her jaw high and deep up the neck, and then explore the sides of her jaw and notice how you can make her open and close her mouth by lightly squeezing.

Guys, women LOVE when a man takes an interest in them so be a mighty hunter and study your prey. Have her open and close her mouth while you lightly press on the different muscles until you figure out how it all works. Think about it! That mouth causes so much trouble and gives so much pleasure I think it deserves careful study. Lightly pinch her cheeks to make her open her mouth and trace the outline of her jaw before dropping your hand back to her neck.

Once you are familiar with the structures, with your hand in this position, fingers at the side of the neck, you can begin to squeeze.

Just make sure your woman knows the universal tap out rule and try not to kill her, and squeeze evenly so you don't bruise her neck, and stop if she taps out, her eyes roll back in her head or she goes limp, and everything should be just fine.

We now return to your regularly scheduled blogging.