Weird double standard in society.

ZealousidealCrazy393 · 2024-12-08T17:06:10+00:00

Yes this double standard is very real and very obvious. While it's true that not all women want taller men, more than enough have insisted upon it for this to be widely noticed. And as you point out, it's not wrong to have preferences. The problem is, as always, the rules for how we're supposed to talk about each other are not evenly applied between the sexes.

BonsaiSoul · 2024-12-09T13:59:30+00:00

Shaming people and judging their whole character for shit that's literally outside their control is a red flag. I wouldn't want to date someone who thinks that's OK. Attraction falls under this too- it's largely biological!

Thankfully, people are only emboldened to act like that on dating apps and pseudo-anonymous social media. No shot they act like that in front of their dad. It's EXTREMELY overamplified by the internet.

lovingkindnesscomedy · 2024-12-09T09:32:18+00:00

Yes, there is a double standard. That being said, I don't see anything wrong with women wanting a guy who's taller than them. It's just how things are. Can't blame them for their preferences. I feel a bit awkward saying this as a tall man though - I understand it's easy for me to say. And it's totally fine for men to prefer thin women. We just gotta work with reality.

TheMadWoodcutter · 2024-12-08T16:01:26+00:00

You’re reading the wrong research. Saying “all women want taller men” is ridiculous. Plenty of couples out there where the women are taller.

TheMorningJoe · 2024-12-09T05:00:08+00:00

Yeah the older I get the more I’m starting to believe that one ok cupid study, I just gotta accept I don’t have what women want nowadays and contrary to popular belief “confidence” is a very small factor.

Mundane_Syrup_6726 · 2024-12-12T15:17:53+00:00

I hear you, and you’re pointing out something that’s definitely a reality in today’s society. The double standard around physical preferences especially when it comes to height and weight is real, and it’s something that a lot of people feel but don’t always talk about openly.

Height is one of those things that’s mostly out of a man’s control, yet it’s a big factor in attraction. It’s interesting how many women openly express their preference for taller men, and society doesn’t bat an eye. But when it comes to asking about a woman’s weight, it’s a totally different story, and that can feel frustrating for a lot of men. As you said, it’s something that’s within control, so why should it be off-limits to discuss?

But here’s the thing attraction is deeply personal, and we all have preferences that are shaped by so many things, from personal experiences to societal influences. What we sometimes forget is that while we’re all entitled to our own preferences, the way we express them matters. It’s one thing to say, "I’m into taller women," but it’s another to put someone down for their height, weight, or any other aspect of who they are.

Now, you’re right that body weight is something people can work on, but the reasons behind someone’s weight whether emotional, medical, or lifestyle aren’t always as simple as just "eating less" or "working out more." There’s a lot that goes into it, and sometimes, it’s not as straightforward as society likes to make it out to be. So, while it's okay to have your preferences, it’s also worth recognizing the complexities behind why someone might not fit the mold.

At the end of the day, we all deserve to go for what we want in a partner whether that’s someone tall, fit, or with any other trait we value. But it’s important to remember that everyone has their own journey, and what’s attractive to one person might not be to another. That’s perfectly fine. As long as we approach it with respect and understanding, we can each stay true to what we’re looking for without tearing others down in the process.

Ultimately, the goal is to focus on what you want and let others do the same, without letting societal standards or judgments make the rules. You’ve got the right idea go after what aligns with your values and preferences, and let people be free to do the same without shame.

TrustOnlyFemales · 2024-12-09T10:45:45+00:00

great you immediately start your post with a lie "all women want taller men."

Hangman2TW · 2024-12-08T18:00:37+00:00

I see your points and I completely get where you're coming from. As others have said, women preferring taller men is not a rule, but a trend, and one that can be ultimately overcome. As a tall guy, I've been on the positive side of this equation, so I am biased here.

Double standards are something which both men and women have to battle, and while you can argue which side has it worse, it's all subjective based on what we've encountered / seen in our lives.

I think the main issue I have with your statement is your comparison to body weight. I've had my own battles with weight, but the point I want to convey is that it's not always as simple to make dietary changes and be "fixed" in a few months. There are usually other factors at play, and I'd maintain that it's usually insensitive to call them out. It would be the same if someone has a large mole or something on their face. While it's probable it can be fixed with surgery, there's likely reasons why they haven't done so.

My general rule. Never negatively call out something which the person has no control over, even as a joke. While I get weight is in a grey area for this, I think it's better to be safe and include it. Everyone is fighting a battle.

When I encounter this kind of double standard, I would typically politely respond that it makes me uncomfortable and I don't think it's appropriate. If they give a shit, they might think twice before doing it to someone else.

Great topic though 👍

ZX52 · 2024-12-09T01:19:03+00:00

So in today's society all women want taller men. Or at least the vast majority want a guy that is tall. And even the women that do date guys smaller then them would still have prefered a taller guy if it was possible.

Citation needed for any of this.

nobody judges them for it.

You literally are, along with every single incel on the fucking planet.

Or asking how tall i guy is before dating him, is also ok.

If you don't like it if/when a woman does this to you, you can just walk.

But asking a woman how much she weighs is looked upon with extreme disgust.

Why would you ask for a number in the first place? If you're not attracted to them, don't ask them out. Why would an arbitrary number on an arbitrary scale affect whether you like them or not?

But here is the thing: Height is not in your control, body weight is.

This is reductive to the point of falsehood. Malnourishment can stunt growth. You can have hormonal issues that affect your weight gain/loss as well as height. You can develop an eating disorder or addiction through no fault of your own. Neither of these are fully in or out of your control.

Literally all short guys would do it.

Again, citation needed.

but somehow society tells me i should not wish for a thin girlfriend

Is this "society" in the room with us right now?

Not to make this a whole ''whamen bad, men good'' kind of post

"I'm not racist, but..."

Try listening to actual women, rather than Andrew Tate wannabees. It'll do you a world of good.

Have whatever standards in women you want. Just don't throw it in their faces.

TrustOnlyFemales · 2024-12-09T10:46:16+00:00

literally go outside and look at real couples outside IRL

incredulitor · 2024-12-08T22:47:50+00:00

What kind of support are you asking for?

Ok_Veterinarian_3521 · 2024-12-08T17:43:09+00:00

OMG! People have preferences. Im 5'7 and a solid 6 at best and ive never had any issues getting with people. Its never been an issue. If someone wants a taller guy I wish them well and move on.

Its a total non-issue.

Title	Weird double standard in society.
Author	Douglasonwheels
Upvotes	44
Comments	37
Date	December 8, 2024 3:38 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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