Can someone explain why have men always been expected to be a "provider" if women are equally capable to work? And why if a woman doesn't work, society is fine with that, while if a man doesn't work for even a few months he is automatically shamed??? Who tf came with these one-sided expectations??

So essentially if you are a man and don't know yet what you want to do in the future after university, you are not allowed to gradually learn and search your place in this world, while women can do that as long as they want without external judg(e)ment.

I see absolutely no logic with this double standard. It just seems like a "a man has to do something VS a woman can do something" mindset in pretty much any aspect of life. And it kinda seems like as a man you are expected to work or do something in general primarily to serve others' needs (a phrase "as a man you NEED to do this and this 'cuz WE said so"), while a woman is more welcome to do something for her own interest and well-being.

Feminists always like to say that "men have more and better choices than women", which may be true in some cases, but they always ignore that they are also expected of more and shamed on more if not fulfilling these society-imposed expectations.