How do you deal with hate

reverbiscrap · 2023-04-10T15:21:10+00:00

Do you feel you are hated by others?

I absolutely know I am.

How do you deal with it day to day?

Combination of my father making sure I knew what the circumstances of my life would be and teaching me why it was so, and a rock solid knowledge of my own worth.

I think, for a lot of posters here, their parents didn't teach them reality, and the shock of having the delusion shattered leaves many distraught.

Tsui_Red · 2023-04-10T13:30:49+00:00

Hate is a powerful emotion. I can honestly say I do not feel that hate daily because I do not let myself feel it. P ople will see me and feel about me how they will. All I can do is control my own reactions to it. If I neither give in to the hate nor do I let it pierce my armor then I can continue on as it never existed.

Stupifythem · 2023-04-10T14:27:48+00:00

Im gonna be honest with ya mate, I feel hate towards them back. Fuck em all.

SouthernSeeker · 2023-04-10T16:53:24+00:00

No, I don't think many people out there at all hate me. Most simply don't care; I'm just some guy on the street. They may fear me, since I'm of a body type best described as "lumberjack hobo yeti", and I'm clearly not "socially appropriate", but fear isn't anger, and anger isn't hate.

Now, there ARE people out there who hate me, but that's because of what I've done and said, not what I AM; that's much less common than the internet would have you believe. Hatred is like anger in that it's an energizing force, but it's also a corrupting one, and over time, a draining one- people tend to be pretty reserved in who they hate.

The social bias we face as men is much more about resentment and fear than hatred.

Jefferycollin · 2023-04-10T14:27:35+00:00

I don’t know… I think I’m just numb to it at this point, it all started with my dad never telling me he’s proud of me and clearly favoring my older brother… I know he hates me and I know the world hates me, but as a man I have to push on

HamletsRazor · 2023-04-10T22:00:19+00:00

Do you feel you are hated by others? How do you deal with it day to day?

I simply don't care. My well-being is determined by my actions, not by someone else's. If you are ridiculed, walk away. If you are confronted, stand your ground. If you are attacked, defend yourself.

Act like a man.

mik123mik1 · 2023-04-11T00:33:43+00:00

Fortunately, for the first question, im autistic. That means that is socially unacceptable to hate me openly. Second question tho... I was taught from a young age by my grandmother that men are looked down on and vulnerable to malicious women from a young age (not as in she taught me the hard way, she spelled it out for me before I actually understood). Always telling me not to be along with a girl because she can say one thing and ruin my life easily for instance. Altho she never explicitly said that men are hated, it primed me for the real world. Oh, and I have medical marijuana so if I start getting overwhelmed by the hatred I see going on around me, I unplug from the internet, get really high, and play video games.

drillluminati · 2023-04-10T13:28:48+00:00

Yes I do all the time mate

blkraam · 2023-04-10T19:08:15+00:00

Sound like Toronto where you just walk outside and the women in proximity believe that you are a misogynist and believe the worse of you, unless you are wealth and drive a Lambo.

CrowMagpie · 2023-04-10T20:18:32+00:00

I don't have to deal with individual hate, day-to-day. Even when I meet a blue-haired heavy woman covered in tattoos and expect her to automatically loathe me, that never actually happens.

I have to deal with a society that hates me because of my gender, my race, my beliefs, etc… That's a little easier to ignore.

But the fact that it happens is why I come here, to this sub.

"I understand being mad at your abuser but I can't understand extending that hate out to everyone just because they are the same gender."

Yeah, which is why I don't hate all women - just one.

But I believe in loving your enemy; which, to me, means treating them with love, even if I don't have warm fluffy-bunny feelings for them.

Relevant-Key4610 · 2023-04-10T20:54:21+00:00

I learned not to hate anyone. I may dislike some folks, but don't hate them. When I'm dealing with anger (not hate) I let my energy out with something I enjoy doing.

AndyBrown65 · 2023-04-10T23:19:36+00:00

I assume you are referring to the day to day misandry that you experience as a man.

Let me start off by correcting your comment “mad at your abuser” have you been abusive? If not then you have been brainwashed into believing you are. If people’s attitude is that you are then have you given them a reason to think that way? Or are they just mentally unstable and deranged?

You can start off by erasing these fools from your life, especially if you have a feminist mother who has a victim mentality, and double especially if you have a girlfriend who is a feminist (aka female supremacist)

The “hatred” you feel is simply jealousy projected upon you by a loser who cannot manage their life and the poor choices they have made, not you.

jjj2576 · 2023-04-10T18:18:53+00:00

It’s easier to Destroy, then to Create.

Castruccio_Castracan · 2023-04-10T16:09:37+00:00

Do you feel you are hated by others?

In person? pretty much never. The real world is far less insane than the internet, people are far less politics-poisoned and weirdos are rarer and get less cloud.

For me I definitely feel the hate, all the time, from strangers on the street, from waitresses, from people at work, my girlfriends friends some of her family, even my

Honestly dude it sounds like you have skewed perceptions. There are very very few places where so many random people actually would hate you just for being male. Like literally only inside a radical feminist gathering pretty much. Even on a super-liberal college campus most people are going to just be indifferent.

Final_Philosopher663 · 2023-04-10T13:55:16+00:00

Last years I have been open to different conversations for different beliefs, some examples are the whole mandatory vaccines to children during the pandemic , political issues , social issues among other things. This has led to a big of distancing or it has led to more respect. It all depends how you approach and who you are speaking with . When I hear blatant misandry in conversations I try to tackle it but its not possible in every situation and sometimes its better to just let it go. Its not even about activism or something, its about recognizing cognitive dissonance many times.

Many thoughts come to mind every other day about situations and different outcomes but then I look at my father working on his projects and being happy , again and again he proves that sometimes its smart to focus on things that actually affect you or that you can change.

Sure the lady in front of me at night is going to be more afraid of me but as far as I don't go too much out of my comfort zone I can change my behavior to cater a bit to things like these. But if they cross the line I make it known and I show them that it's wrong and hurtful.

Maybe try something else and drop subreddits like these for a while just to chill. Maybe thinking too much about these issues creates a loop where you perceive the situation a bit biased. I don't know you to tell you what you need .

No_Discipline_7867 · 2023-04-11T09:10:36+00:00

I’m a straight man. Even more than that, I’m a white straight man. Yes, I’m hated.

Title	How do you deal with hate
Author	blkraam
Upvotes	26
Comments	37
Date	April 10, 2023 12:34 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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