It's not my responsibility

971 points180 commentssubmitted by OneWayRabbit to r/TwoXChromosomes2

I've seen so, so much discourse over the last few days about how what online misogynists really need is kindness and understanding to help them because "they need it the most."

I have no doubt that these guys are genuinely suffering (from mental illness, from social awkwardness, from loneliness, what have you), but it is not my responsibility to sacrifice my time/energy/mental well-being to help them. Especially when any help you offer is only met with condescension, abuse, and rape threats.

And when I voice this opinion, I'm told I'm the bigot who has hate in my heart.

Edit 1: Got cross-posted to Men's Rights. I guess that explains all the sudden hostile messages I've been getting. It's always a risk when you post to this sub.

Edit 2: Oh my god, they're still coming. Maybe everyone who's complaining that I'm not nice enough should just be kind and understanding if you want to heal the hate in my heart so badly.

Edit 3: You ever see your chat box light up and cringe because you just know what it's going to be?