[serious question] If a boy is getting physically attacked by a girl or a group of girls at school, how exactly should he handle the situation?

SCROTAL-SACK · 2015-01-25T21:26:37+00:00

The same way he should handle it if it were boys attacking him /thread

govt_took_my_baby · 2015-01-25T21:09:06+00:00

well If a girl is getting physically attacked by a boy or a group of boys at school, how exactly should she handle the situation?

likewise If a girl is getting physically attacked by a girl or a group of girls at school, how exactly should she handle the situation?

or one boy and multiple boy attackers or mixed attackers of every colour and religion there is?

Wargame4life · 2015-01-26T02:30:29+00:00

This reminds me of a woman i know who was telling me about how she dropped her son off and saw he was getting punched by a group of girls, and she pulled him away and asked why he didnt hit them back he said "he wasn't allowed to hit girls" so she had a massive rant and slapped him telling him about how he should stand up for himself and hit them back, and shouted at him.

at this point i interrupted her to point out that from the poor kids perspective he is getting beaten by girls then his own mother has a go at him and hits him.

the irony is she was telling me this in my boxing class, and the next round i was to be punching her, she really was an idiot.

xynomaster · 2015-01-25T21:11:41+00:00

However he thinks is the best way to avoid being hurt anymore (without causing serious damage or killing anyone or anything, obviously).

If he's being attacked by a group of people, that would probably involve calling for help and hoping someone does more than just laugh.

KarYotypeStereotype · 2015-01-25T22:35:45+00:00

How old are the kids in this scenario? If the group of girls could actually do some damage, you've gotta try to defend yourself, but you will likely catch some heat for it. Best option is to just cover up and take it but don't hit back, to avoid any accusations, but obviously your first priority is to not get seriously hurt or killed.

Im not saying this is how it should be, but simply how it is. A man who hits a woman, even in self defense, will not escape unscathed. Probably there would be only social consequences, but worst case you could get into legal trouble, unfair as it is. Try and avoid this kind of situation to begin with I guess.

IgnatiusBSamson · 2015-01-26T02:47:45+00:00

He should beat the fuck out of them for thinking they can attack him with impunity because of his gender.

Of course, if he wants to avoid assumption of guilt on his part, he should endure the injustice, try to video record everything, and try to make sure they are prosecuted to the fullest extent of the law.

K-Li · 2015-01-26T05:09:52+00:00

I'm going to assume that this is a grade or high school and that everyone involved in a juvenile. I'm also going to assume it's an American public school, as there is no good way to generalize private institutions, which have a wide variety of disciplinary templates.

The ugly reality is that the boy is already involved in the altercation, and thus is already likely to receive the maximum punishment allowed by local law and procedure. Given that, there is nothing to be lost by reacting. Unless the child is in fourth or fifth grade, he is likely to be taller, more active, and generally stronger than the girls individually; however, girls are no dumber than boys at that age, and so if there is a group, it will likely be sufficient to ensure that he cannot defeat them all.

So now little Timmy is in for a beating, followed by suspension, expulsion, and a good talking to by the local shrink, no matter what he does. He has no hope to protect himself against these events, so the best outcome he can hope for is to ensure that it never happens again. Timmy can do this only by fighting back, and fighting to cause as much pain and damage as possible before he goes down.

MRSPArchiver · 2015-01-25T20:58:19+00:00

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Aquafier · 2015-01-25T21:58:40+00:00

Defend himself within the confines of the law. In other words, not "over defending" himself. Handle the situation exactly as I you were being attacked by anyone.

tyson2444 · 2015-01-26T00:18:03+00:00

Probably not with a false rape charge.

Shubrook · 2015-01-26T03:54:42+00:00

He who brings the most paperwork wins.

These girls probably wouldn't be picking on you unless they thought they were favored with the teachers, so do not hit them. I know you want to, and I know they deserve it, but there are hundreds of millions of people in the world who deserve a proper beating, and you don't have time to get them all.

Document, document, document. Do you have a cell phone? leave it on record all day. After every interaction with the bullies, write down what happened and notify the teachers & administrators. Document that you notified them (when, where and what was said). Take pictures of any bruises or scratches, or any damaged clothing or possessions.

What you're doing here is building up a quiver of arrows that a lawyer can use to loot the school. Without it, the teachers are just as likely to turn on you, because you are making their day more complicated, and most teachers are both stupid and lazy.

That said, do you have a teacher you respect? You should go to that teacher, even if he isn't one that you see very often.

Keep this up for a few weeks to a few months, and either the bullies will stop or you can sue the school.

You should seriously consider moving schools, though. Both my brother and I moved schools at varying times through our education, and each time it was the right choice to make. If the adults at your school were doing their job, you wouldn't be in this situation right now. Even after this situation is resolved, they will probably still suck at their jobs. There is nothing wrong with moving on.

Hope this helps. PM me if you want.

Mitschu · 2015-01-26T08:47:58+00:00

Moralistically, he should kick their asses hard enough that they never come back to mess with him again, and you should encourage him to get the training and discipline necessary to do so. Depending on the severity of the attacks they're inflicting upon him, shattered teeth and bones may be called for to deliver an important message - since the only framework bullies understand is hierarchical dominance, a pounding of prevention is worth an ounce of cure.

Realistically though, if he doesn't want to risk expulsion and juvie, he should go beg the teachers to do something, then continue to be bullied while they do nothing, then go beg the teachers to do something when it escalates, then continue to be bullied when they do nothing, up until they either suspend him or he ends up in the hospital.

ukreview · 2015-01-26T12:54:39+00:00

if i am being attacked by a group of anyone, I assume my life is in danger and kick and punch my way out regardless.

Title	[serious question] If a boy is getting physically attacked by a girl or a group of girls at school, how exactly should he handle the situation?
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Date	January 25, 2015 8:58 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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