Society transformed me into a monster.

theSilentNerd · 2024-01-07T02:26:30+00:00

I felt the same for several years and sometimes it comes back.
Not having someone to hug you back or reciprocate affection makes us feel that way. You mentioned that astronomy gives you joy, so focus on it (maybe find more things as well).

SlightlyOddHuman · 2024-01-07T03:55:21+00:00

I'm sorry, OP :(

I feel like this some days as well, absolutely. Sometimes in episodes that last a while and make me feel broken and ugly inside.

gabriel-kornilov · 2024-01-07T05:06:43+00:00

Charles Bukowsky once wrote:

I don't hate people, I just feel better when they aren't around.

That's my position today. I guess I'm lucky, kinda, compared to OP.

Codename-18 · 2024-01-07T08:58:38+00:00

Perhaps you suffer from anhedonia? I do too, and yes being always forced to feign happiness without being able to emote is a tough one

Sir_Spectacular · 2024-01-07T11:40:49+00:00

"Monsters" do bad things. That's my definition, at least. To me, being a monster is not a state of mind, it's purely the result of a person's actions.

It sounds like you're not in the best mental state right now, but even if you have to "fake" being a decent person around your friends, it least seems like you haven't really done anything that bad yet. That means you're not a "monster," you're a person.

I suggest you just keep faking it for now, for as long as you need to, and try to change what you can in your life to bring yourself to a healthier place, mentally. Human brains are extremely moldable by the environment around them, and it's remarkable how much of a difference getting yourself out of a bad situation, or into a better situation can make to how you think and feel. Eventually, once your life circumstances change enough, you might find that you're able to feel more than just these negative feelings that are dominating your mind right now. Just keep faking it, and try not to burn too many bridges. Your future self will thank you.

HiveMindKing · 2024-01-07T06:39:43+00:00

Not really know, i get very down about society but I have goals that drive me , cats the need to be petted, schemes to cover up, it all helps the time go by without overthinking taking over.

Low_Rich_5436 · 2024-01-07T11:23:38+00:00

You have emotions. They are buried and repressed, but you have them. This anguish you express is an emotion. Your willingness to make efforts around friends is based on a social desire, an emotion.

You're not a monster, but you're very hurt.

This kind of hurt does not come from society. Society does not have such a deep impact on us. Only early childhood does. Trauma then determines how strong we are when faced with societal challenges.

You need to heal your inner child. I hope you'll get through this.

ConflictedRebl · 2024-01-07T11:11:30+00:00

I have so much respect for you men who are holding it together. Many of you I know must feel like it’s hopeless, like women are out to get you and like the rest of the world doesn’t care that you are human being with feelings. I wish the future looked somewhat brighter. I think it’s only going to get worse before it gets better.

This guy, Sam Vaknin, does a great job breaking it down for the feminist lurkers.

Dashing2025 · 2024-01-07T02:54:17+00:00

It is very easy to slip in radicalness, a true strong spirit knows how to stay moderate.

revonssvp · 2024-01-07T14:05:46+00:00

I feel that being angry (but no hatred) is better than resignation.

Angry to keep going on, to not accept and give up.

Yes it is hard to not have simple love, but this is life and life is hard sometimes.

Good for you to have finding astronomy, the perfect abstraction. There are so much to learn and wonder ! And relativize our little lives.

For me it is in books that I forget.

Good luck!

ButWhatOfGlen · 2024-01-07T16:16:54+00:00

Your hate is simply protection for your soul that is actually very tender and vulnerable. You really need to learn to let go of that. This is critical. There is free therapy available. Keep trying till you find one that helps. It's important, for you, and for the rest of us around you.

You can find peace. Please start today.

mcc9999 · 2024-01-07T19:43:16+00:00

Get professional help. You may have an actual Dx to grapple with.

phoenician_anarchist · 2024-01-08T04:29:52+00:00

[...] I am not depressed.

I just feel empty.

[...] the only exception being hatred, pure primal hate.

When with my friends I prefer to fake being happy [...]

As much as Feminists go on and on about the differences between symptoms of heart attacks between men and women, they always seem to ignore the differences here (despite claiming to care about men's mental health).

What people think of as depression is usually typical symptoms of women, men are more likely to experience this anger and hatred, and to hide it. Unfortunately most of the treatments/solutions that people suggest are geared towards women too.

omegaphallic · 2024-01-07T14:42:23+00:00

Get mental help, this is not healthy.

SlightlyOddHuman · 2024-01-07T03:54:18+00:00

I'm sorry, OP :(

stumje · 2024-01-07T17:12:58+00:00

You need to heal, try plant medicine

3gm22 · 2024-01-07T04:19:33+00:00

I was like this until I realized that God is truth. I now derive my values from what is true.

I now see love as the choice to value anything, for what it is. And see existence as a gift.

Good luck with your sociopathy .

You can defeat it.

TomTomFH · 2024-01-07T19:03:11+00:00

Get some help and get a hobby.Stop being a victim and man the fuck up.Yea the world is a gynocentric shit hole and we are being shat on from a great height daily but life goes on.Read, workout,dress better and try to improve for yourself not anyone else . Or become the village weirdo yelling at cars..

Angry_Angel3141 · 2024-01-07T05:22:10+00:00

It tastes good...that Hate. But it doesn't last: to keep the flavor you need more or it just turns bitter in the end.

And you don't want it...but you crave it. Because it seems like the only way you can feel, anymore.

With a quote from Jack Sparrow, "You need to find yourself a girl, mate..."

Few things are more dangerous then a man with no access to women, because women soften men. The problem is, most women aren't worth it anymore. And my biggest fear is that the world will burn for that oversight.

flipsidetroll · 2024-01-07T09:48:07+00:00

Sorry, but society didn’t transform you into a monster. You were always a monster, it just gave you an excuse to be one.

I’ve said this here before. If you are a good person, then you are a good person DESPITE what is thrown at you. If you can only be good if others do good to you, then you are not good, only reactionary. And since people can think something is an attack instead of help (think helping an addict face their addiction) then the reaction can often be wrong in the face of good.

So, you are a monster willingly. The only thing that would make you good, is trying to change. Anything else, is just you excusing being a monster. So which will you be?

Roleandah · 2024-01-07T12:50:59+00:00

Absolutely, I was the same way for a long number of years and in some ways still am.

movieman199111 · 2024-01-07T14:02:44+00:00

Yes brother

PaleontologistOk222 · 2024-01-07T14:05:04+00:00

Sound like mr robot. There is a name for wgat you are experiencin. I forgot though.

ElBernando · 2024-01-07T15:13:45+00:00

Do you anyone, anything you are responsible for?

Lonewolf_087 · 2024-01-07T19:35:03+00:00

You may have some psychological things going on where you feel a bit numb it might be helpful to discuss with a therapist. On one hand it could just be how your personality is on the other hand it might be something you have psychological that you can work on. Sometimes it’s hard to to know unless you talk to someone. You may have social anxiety a lot of people have that. I think you can get help and work it out. But I can understand people can be frustrating as well so sometimes it’s just figuring out how to deal with people. Some people are cool other people are weird.

Nascent_Ascension · 2024-01-08T02:01:56+00:00

You want to find seriously mind blowing significance to this matrix? Get into Chaldean Numerology. It is just the program we are in but it is bound to change and soon.

Additional-Advisor99 · 2024-01-08T02:01:59+00:00

A lot of days I feel like I don’t care about anyone anymore. That I’m just faking giving a shit because it’s the only way to keep functioning.

Lharts · 2024-01-08T09:46:53+00:00

I am not depressed. I just feel empty

lol

Actual_Conflict7597 · 2024-01-09T17:37:18+00:00

I, IMHO, wouldn't call it fucked up... more like misguided you into how a man SHOULD be, without realising that MEN are Human beings as well.

Title	Society transformed me into a monster.
Author	Fik_456
Upvotes	126
Comments	46
Date	January 7, 2024 2:08 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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