What's the bottom line on height?

Particular-Cow6954 · 2025-04-01T02:47:26+00:00

To each their own. I’m not tall myself but I don’t care, I prefer women taller anyway. I’m not insecure or anything, I rarely think about my height. Someone who is so concerned over your height anyway is probably not someone you’d care to know very well

Zimi231 · 2025-04-01T03:05:21+00:00

I never think about my height. It's never been an issue. But I also haven't dated in over 13 years so there's that.

MrRetrdO · 2025-04-01T03:19:40+00:00

Well, being 5'1" is no picnic.

PurplePilled · 2025-04-01T03:53:09+00:00

It really doesn’t matter that much. Improve yourself, be confident in your strengths, and ignore the haters. I’m 5’6”, my wife is 5’0”, we have two happy kids and my son is 5’9” and likely still growing. None of the bullshit you’re focused on is important in the long run.

NoBuilding1051 · 2025-04-01T05:18:05+00:00

I'm of average height. I don't care about heightism. Dwelling on your disadvantages is a hallmark of feminism and liberalism. I prefer to focus on my strengths and improve myself in areas that I can.

LateralThinker13 · 2025-04-01T14:02:03+00:00

Height only matters when dating women. It doesn't factor in anywhere else except basketball.

At 5'9" you're fine. Your height is mostly an in-your-head issue because you're still going to be taller than 90% of women who aren't in heels. Any woman who cares about those three inches isn't worth your time. If it bothers you that much, wear shoes with lifts - you can get stealthy ones in tennis shoes these days.

shingaladaz · 2025-04-01T09:39:02+00:00

You’ve gotta play the card you’re dealt.

Que remedio?

Tumor_with_eyes · 2025-04-01T05:53:12+00:00

America has this weird fascination where a guy has to be over 6’ tall. The thing is, if you want an honest opinion, go to the air port, or Walmart and just people watch.

There are tons of short guys who are dating. If only 15% of the population is 6’ or over, then the other 85% are still finding ways of making it work.

redspikedog · 2025-04-01T07:32:17+00:00

Short men have nothing to worry about. It's the short women who are beggin for men they can't have.

Taller women don't seem to care.

I never really saw height as a deal breaker in any scenario.

ImNothingLikeYalll · 2025-04-01T18:53:56+00:00

As a woman - I know this question isn't really directed to me but I just have to.

If a woman (especially a shorter than you woman) ever tells you you're too short while you're literally average then that's a her problem, she needs to be fkn realistic and get off the internet.

Aakao25 · 2025-04-01T21:05:42+00:00

I'm 6'3" and from what I've seen women post, it's like the entry level height which seems wild to me. It's kinda like how some women post that an 8" dick isn't big. It's total delusion.

Just saying here. I may be 6'3", but I started losing my hair at age 20...right about the time I found out I have Psoriasis and get to deal with that for the rest of my life. I've been shamed for both of those. I didn't choose those things just like I didn't choose my height. We shouldn't be shamed for or given credit for things we cannot control.

oddly_algedonic · 2025-04-02T01:40:26+00:00

You're probably not asking a woman's opinion, but if that's a factor your considering I guarantee most women don't care. I'm a tall woman (6'0) and am fine dating a man shorter. I won't deny the standards of masculinity see a taller height as a more masculine feature more of the time, but so is big tit's and etc for women. Both standards are completely superficial and not worth anyone's time. As other people have said, the more attention you give to it the more it'll bother you and others.

FourFsOfLife · 2025-04-06T04:02:18+00:00

It’s overall an advantage to be tall. A lot of women find it attractive, people are generally drawn to it. In some cultures/peoples in particular it makes you stand out in a positive way.

But unless you’re really short, like under 5’6” or 5’7” not having it isn’t a major setback because you can bring so many other things to the table.

Source: I’m 6’2”

Valiantay · 2025-04-01T03:37:23+00:00

My girlfriend is 6 inches taller than me. That's 15 cm or half a foot.

Doesn't matter, anyone can pull anyone.

Thick_puddin3 · 2025-04-01T03:08:58+00:00

https://discord.gg/9ZdQvT3N

e_i-pi · 2025-04-01T05:20:44+00:00

I’ve got a buddy. Him and his wife have been married for 20 years (high school marriage). They decided to become swingers to explore a bit more now that they both are about to hit 40. When they opened up, my bro was like - man, I’m 5’6”, I don’t know if I’ll land anyone like my wife will. She’s hot, blonde, taller than man, I’m short. (He doesn’t see how muscular he is - which is easier for shorter guys - he only sees what he doesn’t have.)

And man, my buddy gets sooooo much pussy. It’s crazy how many women he has in his DMs. We were just hanging out the other night, chillin and talking and he’s on his phone and I’m like man what is going on, something going down at work? And he’s like no I just have to respond to a few DMs. And he’s showing me who he’s talking to and the pics they’re sending and I’m like man… you’re hooking up with these women? And he’s showing me texts like “you were so good last night, omg you’re so passionate in bed” and I’m mind blown.

The guy has confidence. He plays to his strengths. Yea he was worried about being short. Was worried about his dick size too. Was worried he’d be jealous of opening up his marriage. All of those fears ended up being unfounded. Now him and his wife are going to swinger parties together and living a life that I, myself, am a bit jealous of haha.

tl;dr - my buddy is an example of a shorter statured guy who gets laid, a lot.

Local-Willingness784 · 2025-04-02T15:37:44+00:00

the problems begin when you are noticeably shorter than other men, and when you are shorter than woman its where you have to compensate the hell out of it, or at least that's what some studies suggest, tho I think they were based on dating apps success which is a whole thing.

still you will find that shorter men have harder time dating and taller will have it easier, 5,9 should be a good cutoff for not worrying about height, but it is a standard that we as men are measured by, and its kind of like hair, you don't notice how important it is to be attractive until you lose it, surely there are bald men and short men who are popular, but most will struggle if they don't measure up.

Maintenance_Fearless · 2025-04-02T22:19:08+00:00

Basically, the lower you are below average, the worse off you are. The reverse is true, with diminishing returns past a certain point, if you're above average height.

You can still live your life completely normally. But as a genuinely short (5'4) dude, you will be take less seriously, seem as less competent, and be at a significant advantage with romance if you're straight, and even in gay relationships if you're not a strict bottom.

You move on though. It's not crippling as long as you don't let it get to you or your self love.

Radiant-Rip8846 · 2025-04-03T01:26:57+00:00

If I women has some kind of vane rules on height that would be a MAJOR red flag. Imagine all the other BS “requirements” she probably has

CooperSterling-4572 · 2025-04-01T04:16:28+00:00

I am just under 6'3. I don't think it's a magic bullet. If you want to itemize life, having more money helps, having a longer a thicker dick helps. You really think women care so much about your size? Gay guys do. Women don't think like that.

Having even more money helps. Having good looks helps. Having broad shoulders and a narrow waist helps. Etc, etc etc etc. If you average up your strengths and minimize your weaknesses and invest in having a decent personality and demonstrate kindness and good social skills, that also helps.

PuzzleheadedSlide774 · 2025-04-01T04:23:20+00:00

It’s really blown out of proportion.

Obviously if you are 5’2 aka shorter than most women then yes it’s going to be harder for dating ,but guys from 5’6 to 5’9 aren’t actually short outside of social media and the land of female delusion that is dating apps. The rest will be unaffected regardless.

I’m 5’8, I’m short according to these spaces but irl most men are around my height. It’s average. Even 5’6 doesn’t stick out IRL.

Never got rejected for my height, never got called short either. I was a commercial model and I’m doing very well in my career.

Former-Whole8292 · 2025-04-01T09:02:25+00:00

Id love to weigh in as an undee 5 feet woman who always hears on social media how men dont care about heighr but women do…

I do know women mesmerized by height and have his 6 feet idea in their head. But bc of my height, tall men always made me feel not as safe. I probably prefer 5’6-5’10 and really liked some 5’4s. Shorter guys I was into were never into me.

I feel like it’s the same with penis size. I know size queens but it’s an interest of mine and being small, I prefer kinda average. And these were never in my top 5 dating criteria.

I think when young people are swiping (I call them the swipers), you start to become really vain & narcissistic & look at things by numbers and dont see if you have chemistry in real life. Hanging out in real life and parties, height becomes somewhat arbitrary and people obsessed with it and are like people obsessed with the car a man drives or the shape of a woman’s ass.

RandomYT05 · 2025-04-01T10:23:40+00:00

I'm 6 feet and I'm still considered too short to date

Sea2Chi · 2025-04-01T14:43:26+00:00

I think it's a far bigger deal online and on dating apps than in person.

With dating apps women wanted an easy metric to filter out a lot of guys quickly and since funny, smart or handsome aren't easy to numerically quantify, they ended up going with height. The more it was talked about the bigger a deal it became and now you see a lot of women talking about it on social media.

That said, I don't really hear many people talking about it offline, and unless you're an outlier in terms of being significantly shorter than average, from my perspective average height guys still seem to get women without issue.

SidewaysGiraffe · 2025-04-01T03:22:59+00:00

Self-delusion, mostly. People see an attribute they lack that successful people have, and blame the lack on that attribute. If it's something that can't be gained, all the better- because they'll never have a chance to see it disproven.

It's best illustrated with something like weight- you CAN lose weight, to a far greater extent than you can change your height, at least. And when fat people who're treated poorly blame it on their weight, and then lose a bunch, what happens? They're happy, because the feel validated- at first- because people DO respond to them more positively. But then time passes, and they discover it doesn't make their problems go away, and then their attitudes change- quite a bit, usually.

Title	What's the bottom line on height?
Author	burn3rAckounte
Upvotes	13
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Date	April 1, 2025 2:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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