Aside from some superficial things, femininity is an extremely unattractive character profile from the perspective of romantic relationships. It is self-centered, entitled, and passive. It seeks to extract more value than it gives. Even women themselves are repulsed by femininity.

And when men don't act the way they want us to, they shame those men by calling then "sassy men", "princess men" "gay" -- aka feminine. On the flip side, calm masculinity (not in the superficial muh, toxic masculinity sense) is much more attractive -- for both men and women.

Imagine if the average woman was socially generous, free with compliments and affection, didn't weaponize sex or basic attention, had passionate interests in topics like history, science or video games. Didn't always play the victim or act entitled to someone else's effort.

That would be a dream woman right?

Men want to date someone more like ourselves while women want to date someone as different from them as possible. Femininity is inherently unattractive and burdensome outside of a few specialized skills like childrearing.