Has the "keeping your options open" method worked for you?

exit_sandman · 2020-01-23T11:55:31+00:00

So... How would you make this method effective or how did this method work for you?

The kind of woman I would want (permanently) is unlikely to let herself be strung along.

oncewasagoodman · 2020-01-23T09:30:22+00:00

You don't understand what life is like as a guy. We aren't keeping options open. We are creating options. We keep options open by not committing right away to the option that just started closing.

That guy you met? You didn't just happen to meet, and he happened to meet you. He made that happen. He created it. He met you. You didn't happen to meet, he met you.

Now there's all these people online that say they have all these cunning plans. Ahh my cunning plans I'm going to string along every girl right up until I commit to one, who hates me anyway. Rare is the guy with a cunning plan. So cunning, it's just if a girl is so great that I want to see her tomorrow she'll be here. There's no cunning plan. We just have to go out and create the meeting. And then not commit until we find a great one.

As for you? Why do you think you should copy male strategy? You want to? How many men did you go out and meet today? How many number closes did you get? Extro girls do this.

Extro girls even think they are stringing a guy along.

Is this just your attempt to be an extro girl?

JohnSmith105 · 2020-01-23T07:03:46+00:00

Well, I keep my options open but dating is so complicated that there's really only one option. Guess she's the one.

Maybelowsmv · 2020-01-23T07:28:47+00:00

You mean "being single"?

joesmithasdf · 2020-01-23T07:48:04+00:00

What do you mean? You either don’t wanna see them again or catch feelings and try to upgrade it.

Everyone with options plays “let’s see where it goes “.

taramaxx · 2020-01-23T09:59:56+00:00

I am testing the waters as of the moment

WIA20XX · 2020-01-23T11:47:02+00:00

Spinning plates by promising a possible relationship is the red pill at its mouth breather worst. The proper way to build a rotation is via sex. She should only see you as a sexual option, because you're too much of a loser to be boyfriend material (an upgrade in her mind, but a downgrade to any sane man)

Now if a chick wants to form an attachment on her own, a man can't do anything about that. Some chicks get their bell rang, hell they get some attention, and she'll future project because she has her own issues.

The best way to keep your options open is to meet new girls all the time.

churnthrowaway123456 · 2020-01-23T12:06:58+00:00

I suppose I always assumed that it'd be obvious to women (like if theyre being fed breadcrumbs intentionally).

It is obvious to any woman who's over 21 and not incredibly sheltered or unattractive.

Women know how sexually successful men operate, and they don't give a shit most of the time. If they do care, they have ways of showing it.

LeJacquelope · 2020-01-23T08:59:01+00:00

Always keep backup plans. IMHO right up until you're fucking someone or going steady. Lose that orbiter/oneitis bullshit but don't go so far as spinning plates.

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wtknight · 2020-01-23T13:19:45+00:00

Yes. It has worked to keep my options open until I emotionally committed to one woman. After that I think that all other options should be closed off, though.

ToraChan23 · 2020-01-23T13:42:04+00:00

I don't think it's "keeping your options open" that works, it is "knowing that you always have options" works.

You can be with and only talk to ONE woman and STILL have your options open, because you're the type of man who can get women easily. This type of thinking keeps you from being desperate (women can smell this) and keeps you level-headed in the dealings with the woman you're seeing.

blackedoutfast · 2020-01-23T15:02:49+00:00

yes of course. but this isn't a "method" or anything. it's just NOT orbiting one particular girl like a desperate beta.

if you're single and not in an exclusive relationship, it's really stupid to invest too much time, attention, energy, etc in any one particular person. because it's very likely that it won't work out. it's much smarter to spread out that investment and potential sunk cost over several different options. it's like having diversified investments.

also in my experience, it's more effective. if you're constantly dumping 100% of your attention on one girl, she won't value it very much. it may even annoy her or weird her out. but if you give her less, whatever she does get from you will seem more valuable.

like a few weeks ago i was talking to this girl and giving her a lot of attention, responding to her messages right away, etc. but she didn't seem very interested so i was like ok whatevs and basically stopped talking to her. I wasn't rude or anything, i just had better things to do with my time. a week or so later i ran into her at a party and she basically jumped on me and started escalating hard. found out later from a mutual friend that this chick had been asking about me, wondering why i had stopped talking to her.

the-lone-squid · 2020-01-23T16:57:29+00:00

No, not having a idgaf attitude does. If you need backup girls in order to stand up to your current girl, then you doing it wrong.

A man must be happy with or without a woman in his life. I dumped my ex without any backups.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2020-01-23T16:58:33+00:00

You can't roast two rabbits at the same time.

If women are expecting more from you and you are dividing your attention among many, they will end up walking away. You can only keep your options open for as long as the potential partners are willing to wait.

And many women, having plenty of options, will not wait for too long.

To make the method effective you have to keep women around that do not mind getting breadcrumbed, or reduce the number of canditates to a sustainable number that allows you to dedicate them the time and attention they need from you.

majani · 2020-01-23T07:25:26+00:00

Having "plates" and feeding them breadcrumbs makes my relationships linger in the honeymoon phase for waaay longer, which is great.

goneaway2thewind · 2020-01-23T10:17:40+00:00

Absolutely, there are women who literally don't even talk to me unless they know I'm seeing someone casually. That's why I play the field, because they don't care unless I do

FairlyNaive · 2020-01-23T07:59:00+00:00

Works like a charm. Women enjoy the challenge as much as we do.

Title	Has the "keeping your options open" method worked for you?
Author	Maybelowsmv
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Date	January 23, 2020 6:56 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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