In my last question here, I detailed my personal tastes, in terms of what I deem attractive. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/vro6kh/can_a_man_be_the_smallerweaker_partner_in_a/

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And as you could probably tell from that post--I don't really want a lot of the things men tend to want in a relationship. I really hate undertaking the masculine role--being bigger (height or weight-wise), being stronger, and I actually DON'T want to dominate my girl and "throw her around." So me not wanting to be the big, strong man for his woman is because I don't have a protective bone in my body.

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Two men from my previous post (link above) detailed that they thought they wanted a relationship dynamic like mine. They said that they were attracted to "strong and independent" (Quoted because I think those are buzzwords at this point) women, until they treated their anxiety (one man) and started working out and got a job. So to them, the idea of being the submissive party in a relationship is now repulsive.

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For me personally, I don't want to change this about myself; I've made peace about what I find attractive and what I want in a relationship. Knowing these things about myself used to make me insecure, but I accept that this is what I like and what I want. As for others, how can a man who has no instinct to be a protector (or no desire to be the bigger/stronger one in a relationship) gain this desire?

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And if they lost these desires (I think women who act rudely to chivalry like holding a door open for them are partially to blame), how can a man regain them?