My ideal perfect relationship

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-10-30T13:04:34+00:00

No diary entry posts.

CimZim · 2021-10-30T11:53:30+00:00

Sorry, I'm already taken.

But seriously though...99% of this list just described me perfectly. The comfort, loving animals, wanting to help people, no desire for kids, my N is 1, I enjoy living separately, have my own things to do and don't need to be up my man's ass 24/7. High libido, supportive of the few hobbies we don't share, don't see the point in shit tests, prefer to work out negative emotions prior to meeting up with my guy so our time together is fun and happy. Although when we take weekly hikes we do vent to each other and help one another find solutions or just sympathize. Literally have a job where I work outside part-time and have to get dirty, so have no trouble doing it at home, wanting sex all the time, happiest when both me and my guy can just relax or have fun with our mutual hobbies.

But I would never consider myself a red pill woman. I'm purple. Egalitarian all the way, baby.

The only thing that I'm not is submissive. I don't defer to anyone just because I'm the female partner. I may not be a 9/10 beauty, but I am intelligent, educated, observant, and have my own life experiences. If I have planned a course of action I expect it to be taken just as seriously as my partner's, and for him to defer to me at times out of acknowledging I'm right and his plan wasn't or was less efficient.

Not all the time of course. Sometimes I'll defer to his better knowledge or plan, sometimes he'll defer to mine. But I am my own person, have my own home and car, made myself debt free, never request or want any financial assistance. The fact I was born with a vagina doesn't entail me wanting a leader. Either he's a 50/50 partner or nothing. I already got out of being religious and being stuck in gender roles, I'm not going back.

harold_shipman_gp · 2021-10-30T11:05:05+00:00

What's your age and past relationship experience/history? This stuff is useless without context.

NarniaFox · 2021-10-30T12:13:31+00:00

You did a great job mirroring FDS expectations. You both want the benefits of the other gender playing their traditional role without sticking to yours. TRP and FDS should just pair up and leave normal folks alone.

chubbybutt22 · 2021-10-30T12:42:22+00:00

I’m assuming this isn’t a marriage and you said no kids. So you want a totally independent woman who you don’t live with to be totally sexually and emotionally available to you? And she has to work full time (I mean, she owns a house) but be peppy and submissive to “elevate you”? And men say women have crazy expectations…

ETA: Why not just add your physical requirements too?

TardisCat2020 · 2021-10-30T12:49:07+00:00

So if you do find a woman like that (I'd second the idea that egalitarian women like u/NarniaFox and u/CimZim are good candidates for this kind of relationship...I think Cim is actually in a ltr 95% like this already) why should they be submissive? Or how? You stated that they should essentially be your financial, emotional, mental equal and put the same amount of work into the relationship as you. What good reason do you believe you have for asking for submission?

Because let me tell you, man to man, if I wanted my girlfriend to be submissive I know that necessarily entails me being the leader of the relationship. That means I'm the captain of the ship and she's the first mate. By doing this, I must take on additional responsibility and work to keep us on course. In that kind of relationship I make all the main decisions and she has to trust me to do what is best for both of us, not just me.

I don't understand how you can simultaneously want to be the captain with a leader's "salary" (relationship status) yet still want your first mate to put in the same exact amount of work for less "salary". If being in a relationship with you was a job, you'd be one of those bosses who give the assistant manager less pay but still expect them to do a full managers role. Personally, I'd quit.

goatismycopilot · 2021-10-30T12:17:42+00:00

Is this a comedy routine?

th_tbreaker · 2021-10-30T12:57:23+00:00

"I don't ask for much" but has a whole list

hatit516 · 2021-10-30T11:02:34+00:00

Sounds more like delusions so many contradictions idk where to start woudnt be suprise if your single or have been single for a long time.

Edit I see you edited your comment and added all that stuff after love animal to soften your orginal post and also removed and change some things. My stance stays the same because I saw what you orginal wrote and that’s the real reason peo told you you belong in the deepest pit of hell you slime ball

Competitive_Pen2282 · 2021-10-30T11:16:19+00:00

"I want she give me everything and expected nothing" Submissive but totally independent with her own house and income lol.

crookedsummer2019 · 2021-10-30T11:40:55+00:00

I see a lot of what she needs to do for you. What will you be doing for her? Most women aren’t interested in being in a one sided relationship and that’s what your list sounds like, a girlfriend who will do all the work.

If you want someone like that you need to provide reasons why it will be worthwhile for her to be with you.

What do you have to offer that will be of value to her to be in a relationship with you meeting all of your needs in your list?

Willow-girl · 2021-10-30T12:38:40+00:00

What you're describing there is a good FWB. Enjoy her while you can, because with those attributes, she won't be on the market for long.

xQueen-Bx · 2021-10-30T12:56:38+00:00

-loves animals and is caring towards living things and the people in our lives. If she wouldnt help out one of my people who was in need and i wasnt around to help i would expect her help.

why would a woman who obviously doesnt love you, and who you dont love, and who you arent then paying for her services do anythign for you and yours at all?

sgtlilith · 2021-10-30T11:09:24+00:00

So you want a physical, sexual and emotional servant that you don’t have fund. Cool, cool

JacobMoogberg69 · 2021-10-30T11:13:01+00:00

Now analyze this and try to figure out how many of these are fear based.

xQueen-Bx · 2021-10-30T11:59:42+00:00

parfaitimme · 2021-10-30T11:38:15+00:00

The only reason why a woman would agree to this arrangement is if she's not particularly attractive to other men

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WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-10-30T12:07:41+00:00

Most of these are just very basic desires. "Doesn't babytrap me" yeah no shit.

plans outings, dates and stuff she wants us to do on her own accord and doesnt make me think of everything. (Doesnt make me do the relationship alone).

Bruh rights come with responsibilities. I'm happy you want someone to put in work but part of women letting you choose is the submissiveness that you asked for earlier.

Title	My ideal perfect relationship
Author	f1vepointoh
Upvotes	0
Comments	74
Date	October 30, 2021 10:54 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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