Men's failure or success is more often immediate. They get rejected or they're not.

Women's failure is delayed, they're not immediately rejected when flirting, they're kept around or they're P&D, they can also be abused, taken advantage of, ect...

Then, women's true value compared to other women is revealed through the men they choose, through pregnancy, childbirth and ageing.

"Men are horrible they just want sex and they drop you", "men are so dangerous", "my pregnancy was horrible" "my boob sag so much and I've so many stretch marks", "I needed a C section", "I got post partum deppression", "my hair fell", "my belly never went back". Or again "As soon as I hit 30 wrinkles and white hair appeared and I got fat", "my periods hurt badly every time".... You know what I mean, women complain constantly about all these.

Most women treat these with some fatalism, as something men or society imposed on them which would inexorably destroy them. But that's just women's original fitness test, 80% of women aren't all magically valuable when young without an equivalent drawback, and that drawback is that 80% of women (bullshit number but you get the idea) are going to not have comfortable and efficient relationships, intercourses, pregnancies, birthing, parenting and ageing.

Personally, whenever I hear women complain about men, about pregnancies, ageing.... It rings to me just like trp/incels complain about being lonely, short, ugly, .... In both case it's individuals who failed fitness tests of life. And I do not know if I should be unapologetic for both or have compassion for both, but it'd annoy me if they weren't treated the same.

If we ignore the part that is genetic/out of control of women, the delayed nature of rejection and the wider spectrum of answers they get allows them to better learn and adjust. It's difficult for an individual to learn anything when all the answers are "yes" or "no". Women get a lot of "maybes" "yes" and "no", it should be easier for them to learn. However, their tendency for hypoagency shifts the burden of adjusting to someone or something else.

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The point of this post isn't to shit on women, since we're all in similar boats, but to give a different perspective and reading of women's life and struggles and discuss it.