So I currently have a boyfriend (cute medical student who is so sweet and wonderful to me and is textbook perfect) who I have been really loving getting to know. Everything was going really well. Then this weekend my ex (super hot football player who kind of doesn’t have his life together in many ways but has the potential to be really great once he grows up a little, has a heart of gold) told me he loves me/made a huge mistake/wants me back/knows that I’m the girl he wants to marry. He never said those things when we were together. We broke up mostly because of circumstances like distance and both of us transitioning to a different phase in life and needing the space to do that.

My ex saying all this to me really messed up my head. I can’t pretend like I haven’t thought about him a lot since we broke up several months ago and when I saw him this past weekend I remembered how great we are together. But I’m also so happy with current guy and we are so great together too, but in a different way. My current guy is a much safer bet. My heart is being pulled in both directions and I’m not sure which way is right. I feel like I could be so happy with both guys but they both offer entirely different life trajectories.

Would love some third party perspectives, as yall’s wisdom has brought me so much joy in life so far.