Cooking dilemma

Astroviridae · 2024-09-21T12:19:00+00:00

When I was vegan, I cooked meals for my omnivore husband (then boyfriend). I would make one meal with parallel proteins. For example, if I made alfredo I would make chicken for him and tofu for myself. If I needed something to be tasted, I would ask him to do it for me. He really appreciated me cooking for him and not forcing my beliefs onto him.

Independent-Story883 · 2024-09-22T01:54:01+00:00

I do agree with the idea of parallel proteins.

For a long term potential man, ironically I would stay away from recreating favorites with plant-based products. I think the memory of childhood taste so ingrained. Its like trying to compete with an old girlfriend. Just don't bother. Be better by being you.

Maybe find the textures or ethnic groups of foods he likes and find him new favorite meals, plant-based he will associate with just you. Does he like indian, Mexican, Italian flavors? Find some recipes to try within his realm of gastric love. Make it a fun date night. Always have a back up plan. No one wants a hangry man.

I'm omnivore and have had long-term relationship with vegetarianish guy. He cooked delicious meals but I appreciated more when he shared new recipes not recreating old favs. So many recipe blogs, channels, magazine. Where does a lady start?

Me I like to work smart, not hard. I would probably ask a plant based restaurant ( successful one ) what dish off their menu is loved by omnivores. Recreate it at home with their help.

arbor_ghost · 2024-09-22T12:43:13+00:00

On one hand, I don't want to compromise values that have been a big part of nearly half my life.

This is the problem. If this is a value you hold and you feel like you're helping him do something you consider wrong, then it's going to inherently be a problem. To be clear, you're not pushing anything on him just by not participating in what he chooses to do.

If this isn't a compromise to your values and it's just your perception of what being vegetarian is supposed to look like/what you're expected to do socially as a vegetarian, then there's a conversation to be had about cooking him what he wants. But if cooking that for him is legitimately a compromise of your values, if those words are accurate and were chosen carefully, then don't do it.

pkavsb · 2024-09-21T13:04:40+00:00

I'm a Hindu vegetarian with an (also indian) partner who eats everything. It's fine. It ended up being way less of a big deal than I thought it would be. He's also a huge gym bro and eats just animal protein for dinner every day. Baking meat and finishing it in the stove is really quite easy and I've been able to cook a couple things for him. But for the most part he cooks his own animal protein and probably wouldn't ask or expect me to do that for him out of respect for my religious beliefs.

Does he want you to eat or touch meat?

AutoModerator · 2024-09-21T07:42:11+00:00

Title: Cooking dilemma

Author satisfactorymouse

Full text: I've been vegetarian since my early teens, which also happens to be when I started cooking, so it follows that I've never even touched meat in the kitchen 😅 In recent years I became fully plant-based i.e. I don't eat/cook with eggs or dairy anymore. This has never been an issue but now I'm looking at it from a long-term perspective.

The man I'm seeing wants a housewife who is good at cooking (among other domestic responsibilities), which is like my dream job 😂 I love the idea of having dinner ready when my future husband comes home from work. Plus, food is one of my favorite ways to express love so I want to be constantly feeding him good, lol. However, he is a stereotypical gym bro who likes his protein 😆 Especially animal protein. So I kind of feel like I'm at a crossroads here.

On one hand, I don't want to compromise values that have been a big part of nearly half my life. On the other hand, I don't want to impose my lifestyle on anyone else. 🤔 I would strongly prefer to stay plant-based myself, but I'm not sure if it's possible to get good at cooking something without ever tasting it 😅 It's not like I'll be doing 100% of the cooking, and I'm sure he wouldn't mind eating vegan food now and then, but it would be nice to be able to make his favorite things so he doesn't have to be responsible for it most of the time.

This might be a long shot, but is anyone else here a vegan/vegetarian with an omnivore partner (or vice versa)? 🙋‍♀️ How do you make it work, or wwyd? Thanks in advance <3

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Icy_Passion_2857 · 2024-09-21T10:52:04+00:00

I’m not vegan or vegetarian but sometimes I make meals for my partner that I wouldn’t do for myself; mainly fish, he loves fish and I hate it.

It is possible to make food without ever tasting it. I read a bit online about how to cook and I also follow the back of the packaging. In the UK most packaging for meat and fish has instructions on the back.

The first time of cooking anything hasn’t always gone well and I’ve often followed his feedback and over time perfected how he likes his food.

chxcolatewings · 2024-09-21T13:10:45+00:00

I've been on a plant-based diet for 10 years and I still try to make meals for my omnivore family. Since I can't taste things, I just let them do it. I will say though, that after years of not eating meat, I developed an intolerance for the smell of it cooking. When it comes to foods that are very fragrant like bacon, pork, eggs, or beef, I can't even stand in the kitchen without dry heaving. What I can make my loved ones is very limited because of this.

Consistent-Citron513 · 2024-09-21T20:14:27+00:00

I am not, but my aunt is a vegan who is married to a "gym bro" who loves his meat. She will cook meat for him while also doing the parallel protein others have mentioned. She does not cook with eggs/dairy or have them in the house at all. There are many alternatives you can use that still keep the good taste. She makes vegan peach dumplings every holiday (like mini peach cobblers). They're amazing and taste like the real thing. He has also come to like some of her vegan meals.

Title	Cooking dilemma
Author	satisfactorymouse
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Date	September 21, 2024 7:42 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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