How much do looks really matter when trying to attract high quality man?

Protocol_Apollo · 2022-10-05T11:43:48+00:00

I’d caution your enthusiasm for fake tits.

Fake tits would definitely increase SMV, however, it may play a negative role in RMV.

Guys probably would fuck the girl with fake tits, but perhaps not commit. Fake tits is more fuck and chuck than mother of my kids vibe.

There are better ways of improving SMV without risking compromising RMV. Eg improving body, skin, learning “female game” from the sidebar and EC posts (being pleasant, bringing him your problem not solution) etc.

And I think you have a selection bias going on with men dating larger breasted women.

breemakin · 2022-10-05T06:23:26+00:00

Looks matter reasonably but most men are very aware that when children and time happen, womens bodies suffer so they often mentally acknowledge this when thinking in terms of marriage.

Even if you’re wholly average, you can present above average. If you have quality abilities for a LTR and an agreeable personality on top of this, you will be a candidate for many a HVM.

Don’t get fake boobs just for a potential man who doesn’t even exist yet because, at the end of the day, you have to live with it. Fake boobs can come with an array of issues too so it’s not a decision to make lightly. Basically, if YOU would be happier with fake breasts then that’s all that matters. In my experience, most straight men just like boobs in general.

Take care of yourself as best you can (physically, mentally and emotionally), channel your feminine energy and focus on developing yourself. Change things YOU want to change because that will make you more confident and in turn more desirable. That is your best bet.

SecretFeminine · 2022-10-05T09:04:56+00:00

Worry about taking care of yourself (mentally and physically) from a sustainable place. If your motivation is to “land a hvm”, that motivation will likely wane when you do. Personality is a more enduring characteristic than a fit body. If you can work on both at the same time, great! But it sounds like you’re already hitting the gym pretty hard.

TheBunk_TB · 2022-10-05T11:55:23+00:00

No augmentation or surgery will fix bad self image. You can't hide that in the long run.

You have to have the inner game to win. I've met hot women who were terrible on the inside and vapid. But I met an intelligent, beautiful, and amazingly pro man sociable cheerleader who believed in herself. The latter was amazing. The first one was someone I would disappear from.

I would suggest finding a therapist. When you come to a healthier point in your life, find a healthy mentor.

ZombieUnicorn1013 · 2022-10-05T11:18:38+00:00

Put the work in the gym, do it every day. Work on your mindset. Don’t be stuck up like majority women now a days that want high top quality men but have nothing to offer besides looks. Be independent but in a feminine way, what that means be soft around a guy you like, but be assertive with yourself. Don’t rely on anyone but if they offer, take it even if you don’t need it. But focus on the gym, on your body, eat healthy, and take care of yourself, your mind, and body. If you want fake boobs go for it, but really put thought into it. I honestly might get some myself someday. Lots of these guys you think are high quality along with their good figure partners do not have a good relationship underneath the beauty. Before you go into a commitment with anyone make sure you work on your communication skills as that is the main foundation of any relationship (or should be.) And by high quality make sure you’re high quality. Portray the type of guy you want onto yourself first as you’ll have to offer the same back. Question if you don’t mind, what is your definition of high quality?

sunglasses90 · 2022-10-05T14:47:16+00:00

Your looks get you the seat at the table, aka the date, but your personality, values, and goals get you the relationship. Guys will drop gorgeous women for more average women who aren’t problematic especially when they’re looking for a wife.

naeboy · 2022-10-05T06:27:43+00:00

I know men aren't typically allowed on this sub when it comes to input, but I think men can answer this a lot better than women so I'm gonna chip in. Looks do matter to men, as it's what attracts us initially. However, for dating what matters is similar life goals, aspirations, and attractive attitude. Something to keep in mind is that most men will fuck anything on 2 legs with a pulse; doesn't mean that we'll date it. To describe male dating strategy, men are more selective about looks when searching for life partners than we are when it comes to sex. BUT looks are one of the first traits to be compromised when dating compared to other, more concrete check boxes.

In short, looks reel us in but attitude makes us stay. Rather than focusing on your looksmaxxing right now (as it sounds like you're fairly average), it would be better to develop submissive tendencies and find ways to express them to men who catch your eye. Most guys I know would rather be with an average looking woman who takes good care of them vs. a hot girlboss.

As an example, if it's a dude at the workplace, bring him a homemade treat. Doesn't have to be super fancy, but it shows that you have a feminine side (homemade) and would take good care of him (tasty snack). Also, don't bring the treat for anyone else. If you bring stuff for others it muddies the waters when it comes to the signals you're trying to send. Something exclusive though, that wouldn't be missed by even the most obtuse man. From there, if he accepts it, deploy whichever IOI strategy y'all use (handkerchief for example). Change up the approach here and there when necessary.

Maree70 · 2022-10-05T01:30:22+00:00

I have breasts implants they are large so there was a bit of pain like a 4/10 but it barely lasted three days I love them . If that’s what you want to do go for it. Don’t put to much pressure on yourself to be perfect just be the best version of yourself you can be.

LateralThinker13 · 2022-10-05T19:37:22+00:00

What do you offer a HVM, that he wants, that other women do not?

When you can answer that with something other than crickets, you will know how to get a HVM.

The question tests three things: your capacity for measuring your value, your understanding of your value in the relationship/sexual marketplace to men, and your understanding of your competition. Without all three of these, you will not have much success in landing a HVM.

Read things like The Secrets of Fascinating Womanhood if you want to know how to raise your SMV/RMV in ways that actually matter. Looks get you noticed, but they don't get a HVM, they get trophy hunters. A HVM wants MUCH more.

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Title: How much do looks really matter when trying to attract high quality man?

Full text: When I was in my teen years I was fat and not very elegant and no matter how great my personality is and how kind I am, I could never attract men I could imagine myself with.

I lost a lot of weight and started really caring about my appearance and the dating changed dramatically. Now I have a lot of suitors and men want to commit to me.

However, I still feel like I am not at the level where I could attract the top quality men. My body is still not perfect, I sometimes struggle with binge eating and there are few things I would like to change about myself by plastic surgery. I always wanted to get breast augmentation, I really like fake breasts, but I am so scared of surgery and pain. I also want amazing fitness body but I am not putting enough effort to gym (I admit). I could also care about my skin better and few more improvements. I know I don’t have to be perfect it’s also a lot about feminine energy but I still wonder.

How much do looks really matter? What changes did you make and how did your dating change? Any ladies with breast implants? I have one top quality male friend and he says he prefers to date women with fake boobs (of course some top quality men don’t like it at all, that’s matter of taste). I think I am searching for some kind of motivation. When I see some men I would be interested in, they always date women with amazing figure and often big breast. I feel like I could do more to attract my high quality man.

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MOSFETBJT · 2022-10-05T18:05:34+00:00

When I was younger I admit that looks were very important. But as I get older, I notice that the way the woman treats me and others is so much important. Looks matter but not as much as you think

aussiedollface2 · 2022-10-06T06:18:52+00:00

They def matter in terms of making yourself more palatable to a wide range of men. And for first impressions. I’m not sure in terms of the breast implants etc but if you make such a massive change then it needs to be for YOU, not for anyone else. A lot of men don’t like implants either, it’s personal taste. So it’s a personal decision for you xo

sugar515646 · 2022-10-06T06:55:46+00:00

i don't know why people just don't take hormones. birth control makes your breasts bigger. eating makes your breasts bigger. pilates makes you lithe. do pilates if you're so concerned.

having said that, aren't a lot of men into thicc women? shouldn't they be, if they're into you? is the contrary the consensus here? i don't know.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2022-10-07T13:52:10+00:00

Looks are very important. A man will not ever commit to you unless you meet the baseline level of attractiveness to him.

The baseline level is different for everyone, but if you are below it, the man will never treat you as more than a FWB, and will never publicly claim you.

How much it matters after you hit the baseline level? Honestly not very much. The further you are above it, the more problems he will overlook for you. The closer you are to it the more likely he will be to end things.

Looks are very important to men, but as long as you’re attractive enough, you are a potential long term partner.

mihapiha · 2022-10-11T20:31:45+00:00

"Fake boobs" are I think a win/win or loose/loose topic for most men. Either he likes that sort of thing, and he'll enjoy them, or he doesn't mind but would prefer natural, even if they're not perfect.

But I really doubt that the boobs will aid you in finding the right guy. Don't get me wrong the "looks" absolutely matter, but not as much as many make it out to believe. Many guys just need something that attracts them to you. That could be something like your ears, neck or hands; it doesn't even have to be something super sexual.

If he does find something he'll stick to that. If you want a real relationship with someone you like you should find out what they're attracted to. Everybody has their own little fetish. Maybe he'll be much more delighted with you wearing a certain outfit, than the boobs. ;)

Title	How much do looks really matter when trying to attract high quality man?
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