How often do men actually cheat on bachelor parties?

eatplaycrush · 2014-06-20T18:26:38+00:00

The difference between the men who don't cheat and the men who do is honor. The ones who cheat have none while the ones that don't actually value that quality in their character. If my SO wants to go to a strip club, fine. If my SO wanted to go out, fine. If we decided to get married and he wanted some type of party, fine. I trust him to care about what's best for me at any given time. That's not naive, that's real trust.

Even if he ends up at a strip club so what? It's an entertainment venue. It's for entertainment purposes. The girls who work there are looking for a pay day and not some guy who isn't willing to spend money on them there. You're still reading Cosmo? Stop reading that trash lol like any of that is even realistic. Their stories are so exaggerated.

PhantomDream09 · 2014-06-20T18:02:03+00:00

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sweetrain07 · 2014-06-21T03:39:14+00:00

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gabilromariz · 2014-06-20T17:54:12+00:00

He wants to marry you
Finds strip clubs depressing
Thinks bad of escorts
Isn't going to a "party place"

You know your man better than no one. Remember those cosmo girls think all men cheat but they also think a bunch of other stupid stuff. I see why a man would cheat on them. Read some more of their stuff and you'll see what I mean

That said, there's some gems in there, especially work place wise. But read the relationships column and see why they think all men cheat

Bbyybbbaby · 2014-06-20T22:57:39+00:00

Your in a relationship with your SO. You should trust him. He picked you and you picked him. If you don't trust him and the fact he is a genuine man then why are you with him.

Sorry to be harsh but when it comes down to it, you might be hamstering.

On a lighter note, the fact he refused a strip club and his view on them speaks volumes about his moral compass. I would trust him.

sierrasecho · 2014-06-20T17:55:27+00:00

Umm... why are you asking a bunch of women how often MEN do something? How on earth would we know?

Though I will make a guess: as much as he would be likely any other time. If he is not a cheater, he won't at that time either. Would the group of friends he is going with encourage that sort of behaviour?

Also... it would not be our place to tell our men what they can or cannot do. Not that you are sounding like you are trying to.

Have you discussed exclusivity? You mention "boyfriend" but that is a almost meaningless term. How long have you been together? Does he understand that cheating is a deal-breaker? And what exactly cheating would be for you? (for some women, only sex, some kissing, some dancing)

Bakerofpie · 2014-06-20T18:15:19+00:00

You say you don't want to blindly trust him because it feels naive, but what are you going to do? Forbid him from going because of your paranoia of cheating? Either he'll cheat or he won't. You can't keep him locked up. I would hope if you are marrying this person you would have a bit more trust. In the end there really isn't anything you can reasonably do about it aside from keeping him sexually satisfied and validated in your relationship.

FleetingWish · 2014-06-20T18:20:17+00:00

I figure you guys will tell it like it is.

Well, since the vast majority of us are women, we have no idea how bachelor parties go.

I know I should just blindly "trust him" but that seems really naive, considering even good people have moments of weakness.

Wtf? How is it "naive" to decide to trust the person you plan on spending the rest of your life with. Yes, you should blindly "trust him". You know him and you know he wouldn't cheat on you, so stop worrying.

Bachelor parties are supposed be a test. The purpose is for the best man to put the groom through a will power test, to see if he is good enough to marry you. The point of the bachelor party is for the groom to make it out without cheating on you. If he does... Then you don't marry him. But that's not the point, the point is to pass the test.

ColdEiric · 2014-06-20T21:36:32+00:00

Ugh, but I keep seeing these Cosmo articles about how all guys cheat and have sex with escorts and girls at clubs and I really cannot picture SO doing that, but a tiny part of me is afraid of it...so what's the reality here? Obviously male opinions are fine too.

They want to gain from doing the deed, but their conscience says no. Reading Cosmo silences the conscience, because she read that everyone is doing it, and if everyone is doing it, then she should too, obviously.

If you need to know if your SO would cheat, then look at other things your SO would do. What does his history say? Is he a cheater? Scoundrel? Thief? Smooth-talking lier? Or is he consistent and fair?

a_killa_kitty · 2014-06-20T22:29:06+00:00

Let go of the fear. He's marrying you. Even if you have been burned before take a chance and trust him. You know he loves you. You know he's want you forever. Let him have his weekend. You get him after that.

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