Upon increasing your femininity, did you realize more children being drawn to you?

softrevolution_ · 2021-09-19T19:35:09+00:00

I've found that keeping that connection open between myself and my inner child not only helps with femininity, it DOES draw children in. Especially relating to neurodivergent kids. Getting on their level isn't hard, you just have to look through their eyes a little. :)

titlejunk · 2021-09-20T02:25:22+00:00

Babies love beautiful symmetry. They love watching me.

Flip side: I’m not about babies at all. I only like them when someone else is responsible.

amadexodus · 2021-09-19T17:49:04+00:00

Now that I think about it, yes absolutely! I can't comment on the science of it, but I'll talk about my experience and why I think this happens.

I think part of it is the fact that I look put together and approachable, and not like some gothic pin cushion with cotton-candy-colored hair (been there, done that, no thanks never again). I don't scare kids or their parents. But I think there are two improvements in my personality that helped:

I worked on becoming more outgoing and am now great at talking to people/noticing details about them. I greeted a couple earlier today on my way home and said hello to their dog (who loved me!). I noticed that she was wearing a rock and he wasn't, so I congratulated them and asked when their wedding was. We ended up chatting with a few people around us about themselves/friends/family who are getting married soon, or got married recently, and even my very-new current relationship. Being warm, friendly, and easy to talk to can draw children toward you, especially if they see you being affectionate with a dog in front of them, for instance. Subconsciously, they sense it.
I found myself becoming the mom of my friend group. I now feel the instinct to mother some of my friends. Am I bossy? No. Controlling? No. I just feel the need to make sure everybody in the room is looked after, has enough to drink, has water if they need it, and has a safe sober person to help them if they're a little too intoxicated. I think because I cultivated this over time, children like my ex-boyfriend's niece saw me as an older motherly friend grew to really like me. Although I didn't cross any parental boundaries, I was seen as someone who could watch over them when mom wasn't around, who would go see their toys when mom/dad was busy, etc. I found out later that she occasionally would ask her uncle (my ex) where I was after we broke up.

tl;dr I feel fresh and happy and look approachable, and children seem to sense that.

p.s. I'm 25 and found myself cooing at cute babies in addition to cute dogs on the streets. It's definitely different seeing as you can't "pet" babies in the same way, but asking how old their baby is, respecting their space/boundaries, and noticing beautiful facial features or how tiny their hands are is perfectly fine. It always seems to melt the parents' hearts when I do that....not sure why, but it's nice!

Davidoff24 · 2021-09-19T18:51:02+00:00

Yes, I have.

I started wearing hats. I think they are very feminine and give me a look of mystery. The other day a child stopped and said: "Look, she is wearing a hat."

Also, I notice quite a few children smiling at me which makes me happy as I assume I have a friendly face.

K3Anny · 2021-09-19T19:44:15+00:00

Yeah my nephews definitely like me better when I look pretty. It’s weird, but it’s real.

TheBunk_TB · 2021-09-20T04:18:55+00:00

It is a real thing.

I have one female family member that all kids seem to love to be held (or helped) by. Many people ask her for tips and for help watching kids.

The other is more of the workplace types (corporate) that isnt as soft (and struggles with their own kids).

Both like kids but the 1st has always been a good mix of healthy womanly traits

Title	Upon increasing your femininity, did you realize more children being drawn to you?
Author	sister-goose
Upvotes	46
Comments	9
Date	September 19, 2021 4:52 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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