Hi everyone! So just post your weekly self-reflections as usual.

However... i’d like to bring something up that’s been bothering me about a lot of posts around here lately.

I feel that a lot of women come here looking for quick fixes. Their relationships or lives are in shambles and they’re unhappy usually due to their own choices. They think that cooking, cleaning, looking good, and being pleasant will make their lives better.

Then we see posts where these women are still miserable and lonely.

Quick fixes are NEVER the answer. No amount of surface-changes are going to alter what’s going on internally. That includes the "stfu" mentality that women are applying around here, which leads to resentment if you don't address the deeper issues. (i.e, shutting up and suppressing your emotions will not help your depression, anxiety, or abandonment issues.. obviously)

If the root is suffering, how can the fruit be any good?

I see a lot of “good” posts in weekly self-reflection where women are cooking, cleaning, and looking nice.

Yes, that’s great. But that’s the easy part.

It is our internal values and perceptions which determine our happiness. If we can’t even take responsibility for the choices we make, how can we ever be happy?

Instead, we will always be victims of our own doing.

So don’t blame rpw 'quick-fixes' for not improving your life. Don’t blame your husband becoming RP for ruining your life. Don’t blame your mom, your cat, social media, feminists (ok maybe them.. lol.. jk) or whatever. Just stop the blame game, because it all has to do with you.

Only you can be responsible for your happiness.
does that sound harsh?

I truly believe this though. I feel like women rely on relationships to make themselves happy, and then suck all the life out of their partners when they realize it isn’t the answer!

I’m no guru by any means, but i know that “the 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey really changed my life. It helped me start taking responsibility for my choices and made me realize that I am in charge of my life. No one else is.

OK…that’s all. Good luck this week!