A lot of newbies face similar mistakes with women, and while experience is the best teacher, sometimes having a macro, big picture understanding of the sexual marketplace can help. After you’ve spun plates, lifted weights, you may still encounter problems with women.

The catchall solution is always ‘dread and lift. The issue is that men are naturally linear - one issue, one solution at one time. So when the previous chick issue is solved (ex: LTR learns to behave, found a new plate, IOIs at the coffee shop, etc) we return to neutral or go overboard. And eventually either the issue repeats or a new issue arises.

To give context we need to understand that women are more manipulative than men. This is from generations of natural selection - men are stronger, and for them to survive in primate societies that solved issues with violence, they need to use their heads. Either through securing strong offsprings from the alpha, or using sex as a transaction to exchange protection from a beta. Maintaining a ‘clean’ image is essential so they won’t be outcasted. Seeing as there are always more betas in a society, and a group of angry betas can be dangerous, so women learn to manage betas. These skills are passed down. Therefore the modern women, like the primate women, have MULTIPLE things on their mind when dating.

  1. Sex: Is he hot? She wants the best offspring, and will screen for good genetic material
  2. Emotional draw: Does she get ‘tingles’ from him? Famous? Dangerous? The high and lows.
  3. Security: Can he provide? Will it be spent on her? Can he get more when it’s out?
  4. Reliability: Does he make her feel better when she cries? Is the frame solid? Good daddy? Is she at ease?
  5. Trust: Will he leave when she hits the wall? Will she be left alone? Abandonment possible?

As a guy, it isn’t easy deciphering a women’s intention when she gives him shit. Is it a shit test? Is it a comfort test? It’s even harder when you’re in constant contact due to living with a chick, hence why LTR is TRP on hard mode. Once a women catches onto your pattern of behavior, she’ll start going down the list of what you’re lacking and poke at them.

We need to understand that women at different stages of the lives prioritise different things. The 21 year old will want sex, and emotional thrill. The transactional cost is she will do whatever the guy wants and risk heartbreak or hitting the wall alone. The post-wall women will be willing to sacrifice fun for someone that won’t leave her and can provide. The transactional cost will be she gives the unattractive beta sex. Everything is fluid as women are emotional so her needs today will not be the same as her needs tomorrow.

The solution some might think is to apply different approaches in different situations. Understand context and reply appropriately. ‘But what about AWALT?’

AWALT is what prevents us from becoming disproportionate female pleasers. It’s a trap to seek the perfect answers because that means we are in their frame. Do we give security because she wants it? Do we give sex because she wants it? If she wants a more intense sexual experience do we create it? AWALT - whatever you do, she can branch swing.

So, the answer circles back to whoever reads this. It’s what YOU want. If you want young bodies you should SKEW your sexual strategy to seek out thrill seeking women. If you want a mother for your kids, you should TILT your strategy to attract someone who hates going out for a ONS.

So instead of going through the ups and downs of dating, really think about the type of women you want to attract. If you’re building a home on shitty soil, it won’t be sturdy. AKA: don’t make a hoe a housewife. If you want fun women, don’t always be available - she wants the fuckboy she can throw away who isn’t holding her back from finding a better guy at the sexual marketplace. If you’re Johnny Depp focus on frame. If you aren’t Johnny Depp, become Johnny Depp (perceived desirable alpha).

TL;DR: Remember dating and sex is meant to be fun, so enjoy never ending road to becoming an ironclad alpha. Women have many things on their mind - understand it but do not revolve your life around it.