SUMMARY: have 4 plates from tinder, all HB5s at best. Haven’t nailed anything better until last weekend when I cold approached an HB 9 and smashed her Sunday afternoon

This is for the dudes that are decently read and decently in shape, but still lack the balls to approach. Been There (Still there to a good extend actually).

INTRO: 30m been mentally and emotionally whacking off to TRP for about 3 years now. I’ve read all the sidebar/books and watched a ton of RSD videos and finally grew the balls to get out of a shit relationship. I was a RP book smart with 0 street experience. Now I have a little.

I’ve gone out a few times since becoming single, but have extreme approach anxiety. I wait too long, get in my head, don’t know what to say, etc. As a result, I have been relying on tinder for my sexual encounters.

Tinder has its place. To give you an idea, Tinder gave me about 60 matches in my area (bumble gave me 2 btw), and of those 60, I managed to convert 4 into plates. None ever gave me ANY LMR. None of them are all that amazing to look at, but I always settle for progress and experience. Also, I’m About to phase in an HB7 and drop the lowest one.

STORY: Friday night I was downtown by myself and finally got myself in the right mindset to open girls. I start with a girl next to me at the bar, then one walking by, then a 2 set by the pool table, etc.

And then it happened. I open an HB9 while ordering a water at a bar (Total cost of the night $0). With my shit PUA experience but decent book smarts, I managed to impress her (my opener was “hello there”, took her by the hand and twirled her) and her friends (literally did the same exact thing, twirled them and told them my name). We danced for a few minutes (I can’t dance at all, white AF, I just bob to the rhythm and no one seems to notice), and I got her number, claiming I had to help a friend and needed to leave (total lie, I was too nervous with her beauty and couldn’t think of anything else to say). I got her logistics (she was on vacation in my town for the weekend) and told her I wanted to meet up sometime Saturday. She said her and her friends would be at a park. I didn’t check her out before I approached which was good because I would have gotten too nervous. Long wavy hair down to her mid back perfectly kept, 5’7, 110 pounds, size 00, does yoga, Romanian accent, you get the picture.

Texted her Saturday and we met up. Just her (YES!). Talked for a while while sitting then initiated going for a walk. She did most of the talking which was nice because I couldn’t think straight. Initiated Kino when laughing and she reciprocated. Moved her to a pizza joint near the park for dinner and went for another walk after dinner. Moved her to a good location for watching the sun set but was too nervous to try kissing her. Kissed her anyway (IDGAF attitude) at the end (she said she had to go) and she responded by kissing back. I said maybe we could get coffee Sunday afternoon

Sunday, I text her and we meet up at Starbucks and I move her to a park near my house. We walk for a while then sit on a secluded bench and make out. and I suggest we go to my house and make a snack. I get no response positive or negative, so I just take her to my house figuring if she wants to leave shell let me know. We make a quick snack, I play some guitar, introduce her to my dogs, and were making out again. Got LMR for the first time and was probably too mentally frazzled to react to it so it worked lol. First LMR was when we were at my bedroom door she said, “I’ll see your bedroom but I’m not going to fuck you”. Initiated kissing in the bedroom after I “showed it to her” and when I started to lift up her shirt, got “no, Mr. We_Have_The_Best_Red, I told you I’m not going to fuck you, you should take me back to my car”. I barely responded but pulled back and went for a peck as I was about to walk out. She kissed back more intensely than ever before so it was back on. Like as if to say, “THANK YOU FOR NOT BELIVING MY BULLSHIT I JUST TOLD YOU”. I used the “hold her hands above her head” method (see the appendix). Never tried that before but it worked perfectly. I’ve never seen the naked body of a girl that could be a model in real life, and it was quite a nice experience.

Lessons Learned:

*There is no substitute for cold approaching. It’s hard, but that’s good because most dudes can’t do it. Your results with cold approaching will be twice as attractive as with a dating app.

*Cold approach A LOT. Tinder lets you just swipe away. Think of how many matches convert to meetups. My cold approach girl was a lucky pick with her situation and interest in me, so increase your chances by approaching more.

*Let the girl do most of the talking and you take care of logistics like where you’re going next. Have a plan.

*Understand LMR and how to overcome it.

APPENDIX A The "Hold Her Hands Above Her Head " method: I believe I got this from an RSD Julian video, but here goes. Basically assuming you're already making out and things are going well but she's nervous, put her against the wall and take her hands and put them above her head. Use one hand to lightly hold them there while you kiss her. Allow her to easily free her hands if she wants to this way. Now as you kiss and intensify, begin touching, moving clothes, etc. with your free hand. If she is too uncomfortable, she will free her hands and stop you. Re-evaluate and tone it down for a little while if this happens. Otherwise you should be able to get some of her clothes off or almost off without her freeing her hands, and at that point just let her hands go and use both of yours.