So I have been lurking here for a few weeks, maybe a month, I've read some things, and I get the gist of the basic principles of frame and shit tests, even some of the advanced stuff.
So today I went to the dining hall on my college campus, and I noticed a girl sit a table across from me, facing me, alone.
I eat my dinner, attempt to establish eye contact to see what happens but she never looks when I do.
Nearing the end when I go to clean up my stuff, I pass by her and compliment her on her hair. She looks me in dead in the eyes and says "Not interested."
At this point, I may think she means it, so I follow up with a "Wow, you talk to all strangers that way? I'm surprised you have any friends."
She looked at me, not with hatred or anything, maybe bewilderment.
"I'm not going to entertain you, why are you here"
At this point, I sort of can see she is interested, a tad, I'm really skinny, not huge by any means, really skinny actually, so I know my personality has to be on point and my rebuttals need to be perfect.
"Feel free to leave whenever you want" and I SIT in the chair in front of her. For being my first ever approach, I applaud myself for the audacity to do this.
She spends the next 20 minutes trying to tear me down and boost herself up. She says she's not that hot, I say she needs some confidence, she's kind of pretty, she turns that and says she is super hot, I tell her now she's being too generous.
She's hooked. She's trying to figure out why I am still talking to her if I'm not interested.
However, this is when I guess I falter. I do not know how to escalate from here. She refuses any attempts to touch, so kino is no go, plus I'm complete opposite of her.
At one point I mention a girlfriend, she calls me disgusting for advancing on her (she actually meant it, I can see the look in her face). I quickly backtrack, tell her straight up I was seeing if she was a good person or not. She doesn't trust me as much, but she is still hooked.
I ask her if her scheduling skills are as subpar as her insulting skills are, and she STILL insists that she won't get with me, but she is shit testing up the wazoo. I am assuming I still need to prove myself I won't bend to her, but I left it on a mysterious note. Telling her to keep her weekend free, and that I'll be around.
How should I have properly closed?
Edit; Forgot to mention, I did get her number.
The look in her eyes and tone of her voice towards the end was much less intimidating than when we started. Should I let her hampster spin? Should I have closed right then and there and gone all in on a date? She said she was busy all weekend, and wouldn't schedule me in. However, I got the sense she would be flexible on it if she really was into me. I think I'm getting there.
Anyways, I really would love tips and advice. This was my first approach ever, and fuck was it fucking hard.
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