[FR] Plate tried some dread game, countered by chatting up the whole bar.

ManowaR1488 · 2015-07-09T10:30:17+00:00

I like it, but I went uh oh about the part where you said "you started it". I think the better option would be to play aloof. When you said that, you defined it as a competition in your mind to her.

fastball21 · 2015-07-09T15:41:03+00:00

Everyone needs experience in multiple situations and settings to gain first hand knowledge, reading this board or others isn't enough. There's nothing wrong with flaming out a current partner to understand more about yourself. The real prize is knowing yourself fully and completely.

Your plate is most likely gone for good, not because you played dread game but because you made out with someone else in front of her. It's one thing for her to think you have options, it's another for you to act on those options in a room full of other people. She can't come back to you after that without everyone else thinking she's desperate. Dread's a stealth game where only you and her know what's going on. For women sex isn't intimacy, it's this social dance where she tries to exercise power. That's her intimacy. Imagine you approach a woman at a bar and she subtly rejects you. You and her both know what happened and it stayed between you two, you can move on without damage. Now you approach a second woman at the bar and she rejects you while laughing out loud and pointing a finger at you while calling you a loser. Suddenly everyone's paying attention and the bar is dead to you now. No other woman will say 'yes', simply because the second one was so adamantly public with her 'no'.

Dread is a subtle exercising of power. She's the only one who should know your finger's on the trigger, or it won't work in the long run. You acting as a wingman with others gives you plausible deniability…. "I wasn't hitting on those other women, I was helping this guy hit on those other women." Now, your plate knows what you're doing, you know what you're doing, but there's the appearance you're being helpful and nothing else. So she can spin this in her head and to her friends that it's nothing more than it appears. But deep down she'll alter her behavior in your favor to keep you from doing it again at the next party. However, when you make out with someone else in front of her, plausible deniability is gone, dread game is gone and you've gone nuclear. She can't spin this to others as anything other than what it is.

FangoFett · 2015-07-09T07:46:52+00:00

Agree on seize the moment. Get the numbers. The kissing part def pissed off your plate, but shit man you do you. If you're plate is not trying to charm you, then drop her and let it smash.

lovethebottoms · 2015-07-09T12:32:41+00:00

To me it seems that she won.

You reacted to her behavior coming from a place where you felt the need to prove her that you're the shit. You didn't do that because you didn't care about her , you did that because her behaviour pissed you off.

I'm just getting a death stare from my plate and she won't say a word or walk near me. I just laugh it off with a simple "What?, you started it" with a giant shit eating grin on my face.

Shit-test failed. You tried too hard to prove yourself. It's a very subtle line between ~~trying hard not to give a fuck~~ and genuinely not giving a fuck. I talk from experience. I've made the same mistake you did not long time ago.

itsdavianbro · 2015-07-09T11:10:11+00:00

How did you come to the conclusion dread game is strong? Instead of having anything to show for it, you have a girl who no longer gives you commitment free sex. Hmm...

MattyAnon · 2015-07-09T13:04:58+00:00

Dread game is wicked strong

Dread game got you nothing yet, don't forget that. So far you've just got a pissed off girl on your hands.

Agree with the rest of your points though - great work on owning the bar.

RICCIedm · 2015-07-09T18:11:32+00:00

Don't worry, can't play it 100% perfect. The important is you had fun, got new experience and showed who is the boss.

Moolg86 · 2015-07-09T14:29:11+00:00

bro. You were in first place the ENTIRE race, and then you shot your self with the blue turtle shell right before crossing the finish line with that "what? You started it" comment.

Pushnikov · 2015-07-09T15:23:18+00:00

I don't know why you're getting so many negative comments. Good fucking job. Who gives a shit about some pussy. You owned it.

This is the shit that makes a lifetime worth living. I am totally baffled by the rest of the comments around here. Only YOU know if it was worth it and, from what I'm reading, it was. I haven't done that on a social level yet, and it would be awesome to pull that off.

My major obstacle to these kinds of demonstrations is I've always been raised in various cultures, and it makes me really good at blending in across the cultures, but makes it really hard to excel. Jack of all trades, master of none. I have friends that are good at pulling off openers and I watch closely to try and figure out the smooth operation of them.

When Sigma was a classification you heard of around here a lot more, I identified with that considerably.

Osama_bin_Lefty · 2015-07-09T15:38:58+00:00

You reacted to her and went full beta reactive tryhard - Look Mommy I can pick up girls, look look at me, can you see? I can do it too with candoo.

Shit test failed

masturbates2Dragons · 2015-07-09T10:23:23+00:00

So you made an ass of your self and your plate left you?

pilledwillingly · 2015-07-09T08:07:36+00:00

I kinda like it. It would really depend on how she was acting with the 2 guys. If she was REALLY trying to get a response out of you then yeah you did the right thing, but if she was just engaging the group and not being a clinger at a social event, the move might be a net loss for your dick.

Redpillthriller · 2015-07-09T07:49:33+00:00

Fuck me PUA lingo is cringe worthy.

TunedtoPerfection · 2015-07-10T05:55:24+00:00

So to answer a few questions.

I didn't actually invite her, she is a friend of my roommate so I'll be seeing her from time to time anyway. I'm about 99% sure no one actually knew we have been fucking. Haven't heard from her since but we are all going out Saturday so most likely see her then.

Going nuclear obviously wasn't the best option in this scenario and I know that, but for me personally to find boundaries I have to cross them first. I have plenty of options to stop and "save the plate" so to speak, but I wanted to see how far I could go. Also I was having a damn good time so I was riding that wave too, good to know I have that sort of game in me.

Honestly I know any attempt at me trying to contact first is just gonna be a complete failure and I'll instantly be labeled as "crawling back" so there no point in my actively trying to pursue her again.

Saturday will have LOTS of opportunities and so will the following weeks. If anything the way access to sex in a way was holding me back.

Lessons:

Be more subtle and aloof, I got nothing to prove
Still got lots to learn
Gotta put more TRP theory in motion, if anything it proves for an interesting night!

1independentmale · 2015-07-09T15:30:44+00:00

I see the newbs are out in full force this morning. All of the popularity has not been good for this sub if you ask me.

Nice FR, bro. I enjoyed reading it and think you did fine. The chick learned you have other options and two can play at this game. Either she'll come crawling back or not, either way who gives a fuck?

I LOL'd at the asshats giving you shit because "now you don't have anyone to fuck." There are several billion women on this planet and OP just gave himself a big shot of abundance mentality. Who cares if he never fucks this particular bitch again? Who wants to be with a girl who plays dread games, anyway? You should be able to take a girl out without her latching on to whatever random cocks she finds milling about the place. Maybe princess will learn from this and be a little more loyal with the next guy. If nothing else, at least she knows OP won't roll over for her little mind fuck games.

slutnip · 2015-07-09T16:19:30+00:00

You reacted to her "dread" game.

You actually "lost" with the "What you started it" statement and you're something to prove attitude.

Real "dread" game is when women chase you when you aren't doing anything (it means your worth a shit and everyone sees it and you dont have to "prove" it)

Let girls be girls and get attention from other guys and "dont" react to it. If you're there with a plate/girl/date whatever, buy her a drink, walk away and let her have her fun dont be phased by it. You wont be able to swat her away if you are truly able to do this with any girl

BannedBandit · 2015-07-09T12:53:01+00:00

If you actually give a fuck about keeping her I wouldn't admit that you did it as a competitive thing with her, or that you left her basically completely off you.

RedPillScare · 2015-07-09T13:16:58+00:00

Agreed, but either she'll be back, or he's got a ton of opportunities to meet a new FWB and then start actually spinning plates.

mismm · 2015-07-09T13:19:43+00:00

Why did you even bring her?

Kayak_Fisherdude · 2015-07-09T16:25:17+00:00

What is dread game? Gratz on your fun night

bluehorseinvincible · 2015-07-09T18:00:17+00:00

Fuck it, just a plate anyways...sounds like you had fun.

little_england · 2015-07-09T11:53:10+00:00

No point in pulling dread game to this level, just because your plate was talking to two other men. But if you were just doing a experiment then fair.

dbic · 2015-07-09T15:25:54+00:00

Literally the best thing I've read today, good job bruv.

Osama_bin_Lefty · 2015-07-09T15:15:31+00:00

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Title	[FR] Plate tried some dread game, countered by chatting up the whole bar.
Author	TunedtoPerfection
Upvotes	73
Comments	43
Date	July 9, 2015 7:19 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/TheRedPill
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/3cngzx/fr_plate_tried_some_dread_game_countered_by/
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