Have Dating Apps Have Destroyed Dating Prospects for Average Men?

RoderickJames · 2016-09-05T22:12:29+00:00

Once you get older, you will realize that women and pussy are nothing special. It is only so satisfying because your body is craving sex and to reproduce your genes.

And of course you can buy sex with a hot chick whenever you want, so don't jump through hoops trying to land one. If you want one as girlfriend or wife, you will realize that you will tire of their looks pretty quickly. You may grow to love them deeply but would happen with other women besides hot ones.

Anyway yes dating apps have affected women in a negative way because it gives them inflated egos. They want to believe that they are "special" and attractive and they take all the attention from men as proof of this, but really guys will f*ck anything and that's why tehy are getting the attention.

But you said it all better than I could.

Steve_Wiener · 2016-09-06T02:24:56+00:00

WOMEN ON ONLINE DATING ARE NOT LTR MATERIAL

the 80/20 rule is becoming the 95/5 rule and they've (the ones online) all been pumped and dumped by higher status/better looking guys than you

IGoYouStayTwoAutumns · 2016-09-05T18:47:08+00:00

This one's near and dear to my heart right now as I started setting an OKC profile and got thoroughly demoralized in the process.

If you mean the average 20 something? It's probably harder now except for the top dogs.

If you mean the average 30 something? My impression is if you have your shit together you can pull plenty of women, including good ones.

For me at 44? I'm totally fucked and am deleting that shit. "Doesn't have kids, doesn't want kids" automatic next from women in their 30's & 40's. Age, automatic next from younger women.

There's a consistent theme on TRP that online dating should augment day/night game. I'm starting to see why. For average enough people, things get sorted out. Freaks like me will be screened to oblivion.

DontBeFredo · 2016-09-05T17:17:26+00:00

Absolutely not - the duality behind dating apps is this: women have the pick of the field and are looking for 10/10 Chad who makes >$150,00/year, looks like Cristiano Ronaldo, and is also willing to settle down. Even 7s will pass on objectively good guys because they have a larger shot at matching with Chad. Unfortunately for them, 10/10 Chad doesn't need a dating app to get into a LTR, and is only using the app for frequent and meaningless sex. An unhappy cycle results.

My advice is to use dating apps - errr, fucking apps - to practice interacting with girls in a virtual setting, implementing some red pill principles, and fucking casually and frequently if you have enough game to capitalize. Do not intertwine the prospects of connecting with women in real life and connecting with women online, as it will do you no good. Women still have a hamster mindset, and although dating apps provide seemingly infinite amounts of distractions in the form of valuable dick, they are still hard-wired to engage in physical, tangible interaction with men.

As long as bars and brick & mortar establishments exist, there is no excuse for not getting women.

Hakametal · 2016-09-05T18:12:47+00:00

The fact that a guy got a date in the first place using Tinder is celebration enough. You know how many options a decent looking woman has when it comes to online dating? At LEAST 100.

If there was no second date then I'd blame lack of Frame and game in that instance. The fact he got a date in the first place means attraction was initially there... and it wasn't escalated on.

Anyway, who the fuck cares.

rombios · 2016-09-06T02:53:09+00:00

a lot of men are checking out of the online bullshit. most of my divorced buddies have cancelled their online accounts since we do well in the real world/social venues.

at some point i think.a sizeable portion on the male dating pool will realize the quality of women online isnt worth the time wasted and check out

Rommel0502 · 2016-09-06T01:44:33+00:00

Dating apps increase the size of the marketplace. Whenever you increase the size of the marketplace, the top feeders do nominally better. Ie, a top lawyer in NYC will make much more money than the same lawyer in rural South Dakota. That is simply a product of the size of the market.

Ive grown tired of writing this - but the answer is always given by the market. Always.

marianasentmenudes · 2016-09-06T02:44:19+00:00

Tinder is mostly used by women as an ego-booster than a date-set up app. Those chicks will have hundreds of matches and ignore most of the messages she will ever receive. Men will get a handful of matches every month, depending how he looks like. Based on how most chicks ignore the messages they receive, most men will end up abandoning the app since the top men will get all of the pussy.

turnipinurt · 2016-09-06T03:15:29+00:00

If each top 1% guy pulls 3% off of dating apps, as in juggles three plates, then by the time you get to the 20th percentile guy, he's down to the 60th percentile woman. There's such a mismatch there, that even if he feels some attraction to her, he's not really going to want to be seen with her.

Once you get to the 25th percentile guy, you're falling down into the bottom 25th of women, and now we're getting into the small fats and worse.

Eventually you might find a woman, after trying with dozens on these apps, who will settle for you, even though you're her equal or better, because she's 40th percentile, but she's giving up her shot with that 15th percentile guy that fucks her once every 2 weeks

frankreyes · 2016-09-06T07:53:27+00:00

You are actually getting more dates now than ever before. This is called Simpson's Paradox.

gtypoDD22 · 2016-09-06T03:09:54+00:00

I travel to date, its alot easier and more fun.

d0lphinsex · 2016-09-06T01:26:58+00:00

This is why rule #1 is Be Attractive and rule #2 is Don't Be Unattractive. It sucks to be the average man.

Bartand · 2016-09-05T17:29:10+00:00

Get rejected 10000 times and the only one you can get is no good for you.

BoyWhoreWithASword · 2016-09-06T00:36:35+00:00

I don't use online game at all.

I get higher quality women from cold approach

zenAFinLA · 2016-09-06T02:23:35+00:00

What's up. I'm 32 with 2 children, finishing up divorce. A bit torn on revealing this on a dating app. I've had a profile up for awhile noting the kids and matches are slim. Thoughts?

bigcitytruth · 2016-09-06T06:59:05+00:00

2/3rds of really hot women aren't on any apps. You won't know they exist if you only meet women on apps.

Pastelitomaracucho · 2016-09-06T07:42:08+00:00

Simple solution: date women that don't use dating apps. They exist.

itsawomensworld · 2016-09-06T04:12:22+00:00

Instagram has basically turned your hottest girl in your highschool into a celebrity. And dating apps have turned all the good looking girls into the hottest girl at.your high school.

Crom_laughs_at_you · 2016-09-05T21:07:57+00:00

It's not causing the shitty dating options, it's just quantifying them.

[deleted] · 2016-09-06T00:06:36+00:00

no, but its made it harder. The people that can succesfully garner results on dating apps have such a huge advantage in life that it's not funny. Sure, you can become proficient at day game and approaching, but it's still shitty you cant just swipe shit on an app for 30 minutes every other day

GeneticTrash88 · 2016-09-06T11:16:03+00:00

In online dating , unless you are a genetic lottery winner, looks is the only thing that matter. Being bald, short or ugly guarantee you loneliness and painful rejections. Solution? be tall, be good looking, having hair. This is the worst pill to swallow.

McLarenX · 2016-09-06T02:34:21+00:00

I kinda like this shit now that im in badass shape. I can literally get 10 phone numbers within a few days. Abundance at its finest.

thelaptopliquidator · 2016-09-05T17:12:57+00:00

"A 1000 rejections in the real world would cripple a man."

Would cripple a boy*. A man wouldn't care.

"he growing popularity of dating apps has put the average man's dating prospects in serious jeopardy"

So what? Millennials have set the bar for average so low that we need to stop thinking of average as decent, hardworking men, and realize that it's a boy trapped in a (thin as a reed) man's body that is working at best buy with $200,000 in student debt for his women's studies degree.

Plus, it's biology in general that means women don't give a shit about average, not dating apps. You have to carry a man's child for 9 months, and take care of it for 18 years (25 if millennial) so your body is going to be telling you to pick a good one.

abbafishhead · 2016-09-05T22:18:40+00:00

Rest assured, there are hundreds of better looking men with more status messaging her. Many of these guys won't commit, but they'll "hit it and quit it".

If you can't beat 'em, join 'em. I fuck 2-3 girls from Tinder consistently every week FOR MONTHS NOW... and I don't have particularly high SMV. I do have something else about my pics that put me ahead of the pack though.

revtheracecar · 2016-09-05T17:08:55+00:00

Bad news: To an extent, yes it has

Good news: There is an easy way to fix the problem, don't be average

TheGreatShiniGami · 2016-09-06T03:03:57+00:00

Dating apps have destroyed what little was left of the fabric of society. That's all. You're just seeing more and more of the degenerate catastrophe that is modern life.

It's better to just avoid it entirely.

rodriguez2 · 2016-09-06T11:16:09+00:00

"Men are as faithful as their options. Women are as choosy as their options."

what a wise saying. Yes I believe these apps and websites ruined average (looking) men.

highenergysanders · 2016-09-06T17:57:57+00:00

I don't think so at all. If anything I think its made things easier. Now we have a generation of men (I.e. boys) who have become dependent on that layer of separation and safety to talk to women. When the average looking tinder surfers are placed in front of a woman its like watching a middle school dance: incredibly awkward.

I mean, no, the average looking guy is never going to compete with the 9 and 10 chads online but if you can articulate yourself confidently in a public it's not difficult at all.

RealMcGonzo · 2016-09-07T02:51:00+00:00

OMFG, just the title:

"My Husband Let Me Take a Year Off From Our Marriage — Here's What Happened"

Here is what I already know. Husband is a cuck. One wonders if there are kids, how many are his. Hopefully for him, his "soul mate" returns untainted by STDs or pregnancy.

Oh and one more thing. He fucking deserves this in spades. It was one thing to be so ignorant before the net and before RP. Now, there is no excuse, only a willful ignorance. So we are free to laugh our asses off at him.

And back to the story to actually read it.

Archibald_Andino · 2016-09-07T04:49:18+00:00

Apps made it 100,000x easier. When average guy hits the town he is surrounded by women who give no indication they are interested. Even though they lust for Thundercock, a fair number of these gals eventually accept the reality that they'll have to settle for someone in their league. This is where averge guy has a good chance. At a bar, these same women won't make themselves available to them, but they might later that weekend on Tinder

jewishsupremacist88 · 2016-09-08T04:30:21+00:00

there is a reason why dating sites have fake bots (both male and female) on them..the bubble is collapsing.

tamilgangster · 2016-09-15T07:58:18+00:00

no majority of girls fuck guys they meet in person, internet is where low smv betas go

Hjalmbere · 2016-09-06T04:25:28+00:00

If you think you had a 'good first date' and the woman goes incommunicado, chances are her opinion of the first date was somewhat different.

Lessons Learned: 1) Don't bring up anal sex and/or threesomes on the first date. 2) Work on your game.

rockumsockumrobots · 2016-09-06T07:16:23+00:00

Dating apps are socially deleterious, yes. Technology has taken a step forward and social norms have yet to catch up.

I'm 24 and refuse to put myself on any dating apps. I don't want to be seen on one, personally. If I have to go without women or sex or whatever, then that's fine, I don't care. I'll be one less chad wrecking social cohesion and traditional families, anyway.

Maybe I'm losing out, but I'd much prefer to meet a traditional woman in a cultural organization, through a gun club or outdoor club. All the other drones with snap back caps and half their income going to bar tabs and club covers can swipe through endless selfie duck faces and filtered profile pics. They can have it, my life is happier without it.

Title	Have Dating Apps Have Destroyed Dating Prospects for Average Men?
Author	tightsleeves500
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Date	September 5, 2016 5:04 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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